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Tell me about your puppy’s routine!

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VanGoSunflowers · 12/06/2025 19:28

I have a 9 week old lab pup. He’s bloody lovely if I do say so myself. I’ve only had him a week but I’m finding the most stressful part is my own brain 🤦‍♀️

So I spend a lot of time worrying that I am not doing the right things, or enough of the right things, or the wrong things and in order to gather my thoughts and make things a little easier for myself and bring a bit more structure to both of our days, I wanted to create a ‘routine’ for him. I may be a little ashamed to say that I asked ChatGPT but it seemed to contradict itself! How much of his awake time should be structured and occupied and how much should be just letting him be a pup and explore? How do you fit all of the things you’re supposed to be doing (socialising, training, toilet training, bonding) in to the few hours he is awake? I don’t want to over stimulate him but I don’t want to just leave him to his own devices either.

i would be so grateful for any advice or a rough hour by hour routine you have in place!

Thanks in advance!

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LandSharksAnonymous · 12/06/2025 19:44

The first few weeks before second vaccinations are hard.

I really recommend buying a sling and taking the puppy out strapped to your chest, even if it's just to the local shop to get a coffee and come home. Take him out in the car and have someone sit with him on their lap and let him watch people wandering around.

For their first few weeks, it's very easy to fall into a pattern of just playing with them and letting them explore. And whilst in theory, that's great....there's nothing more eager to please than a retriever (it's a black lab you have, right?) puppy (be that Lab, Goldie or Flattie). Retrievers want two things: love/attention and food. Training gives them both. So you can use that to your advantage.

Your puppy will probably spend c. 20hrs a day asleep. If you can spend 30-40 minutes of the 4 hours he is awake, doing training then you're doing well.

If you want a daily routine of what i'll be doing when my next litter goes and I only have one left, I can give you a specific breakdown. But there's no need to be so methodical - I am only so methodical because when I go back to work, I'll have no choice but to have everything planned out (otherwise I won't get any work done).

Some days a puppy might want to just chew and explore, some days they might want you - use those days they want you to show positive interaction (training and games etc), and don't sweat it if not every day is packed with training. 30-40 minutes a day, across the day, is more than enough. Training is the best way to bond with your dog because it builds trust, it gives you an opportunity to reward them (and most dogs love food) and it teaches them to want to please you - and that's what you want, a dog who wants to make you happy.

And, remember, puppies also need to get used to doing nothing - which is 100% the hardest part. But overall, I'd say don't sweat it. As long as the puppy is getting love and attention and getting trained, then all is fine.

VanGoSunflowers · 12/06/2025 19:54

Thank you. I don’t want to sound like a sycophant but I was hoping you would reply @LandSharksAnonymous!

Those words have calmed me somewhat.
I have been carrying him out and about. He’s been in the car on the school run and we’ve met children at the gate and he was absolutely golden. Just lies down in the car (with my son sitting in the back with him) and loves everyone he meets. I have been carrying him around the block but he’s a heavy boy already and I’ve three weeks until he is fully jabbed so I have considered getting a sling. He had big paws so I think he will be a big dog!

I’ve probably been spending around 30 mins training each day in short bursts across the day. He’s picking things up very quickly (in my opinion, I have no base for comparison 😂)

If you have the time and don’t mind, I would love to see your daily routine? It’s more for me than for him - I’m a bit head spinny at the moment as this is my first pup and I find it hard to remember all the different things I am supposed to be doing and for how long etc if that makes sense? It’s not him stressing me out, I am stressing myself out 😂🤦‍♀️ I can be a bit of a perfectionist at the best of times 🤦‍♀️

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VanGoSunflowers · 12/06/2025 19:57

And yes, he’s a beautiful black lab 😍

Tell me about your puppy’s routine!
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HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 12/06/2025 20:01

Just to say, you aren’t alone in the overthinking, second guessing, “am I the problem?” phase! Were sometimes our own worst enemies

Nettleskeins · 12/06/2025 20:05

I remember what my puppy liked best was when adults were just chatting amongst themselves, he was settled in the same room (possibly on someone's lap)and noone was jabbering at him or trying to train him. I could feel him heave a sigh of relief, enjoy the world vicariously and then tune out!!! It's like babies. They don't want people endlessly playing games with them. There's a lot of just silently observing and learning that way when in an affectionate setting. You don't have to talk to them interact with them continuously.

Nettleskeins · 12/06/2025 20:09

When he is awake he is bonding with you and following you and that is the basis of training. That he focuses on you. But the actual training comes later.

CyberStrider · 12/06/2025 20:15

I only ever had a rough meal time routine and then an encouragement to nap if they'd been awake longer than 45 mins to an hour.

Oh and coffee time is quiet time, this is the time immediately after their breakfast when I sit and have a coffee in peace. 😁

LandSharksAnonymous · 12/06/2025 20:40

@VanGoSunflowers this is roughly what it will look like:

06:00 – Wake up. Downstairs. All dogs (including puppy) will go straight into the garden.
06:10 – Breakfast for all (I do three meals a day for all my dogs, given retrievers can be prone to bloat I prefer ‘little but often’). Puppy will then probably bother other dogs, me, steal stocks etc. Wake up DDs.
06:30 - I’ll train puppy for 10/15 minutes whilst DDs have breakfast. Other dogs will entertain themselves (code for twatdog - my one true love - bothering the others until he's told off)
06:45 – Dog walk (I bring DDs every morning as when they were young I couldn't leave them and now they're just used to coming with). Puppy will come along, strapped to my chest.
07:45 – Back. DD’s shower. I eat. Puppy bothers other dogs/siblings/steals socks. Toilet time in garden.
08:30 – School run. Puppy comes with (in car). Adult dogs stay at home.
09:00 – Back. I shower – puppy will probably be on shower matt to ensure they don’t do something they shouldn’t.
09:30 – Toilet time for puppy. Nap time for puppy (between training, going on the walk, bothering other dogs and being a sock thief, it’ll be tired). Work for me.
12:00: Puppy up. Toilet time. Lunch time for dogs. Use the puppy’s lunch to do some more training. Let puppy watch me training the older dogs (it’s good for them to see other dogs perform action and learn it themselves). Let puppy bother adult dogs. Continue working (usually by 12:15ish - lunchtime training is never long).
13:15: Quick dog walk. Puppy comes too.
13:45: Home. Puppy does toilet time. Work for me. Try to get puppy to go to sleep. Probable breakdown for me about how puppy won’t sleep.
15:00 – 17:00: Try to force sleep onto puppy. Threaten puppy. Threaten to sacrifice puppy to Satan to get puppy to sleep. Puppy sleeps.
17:30: DDs home. Puppy does toilet time. Dinner for all dogs. Do domestic bits and pieces (housework, help DDs with homework etc).
18:30: DDs do their various activities. Me dog walking (DM will come to watch puppy in the evenings so I get a break and puppy spends time with someone who isn’t me) whilst they do that.
20:00: Dinner.
21:00: DDs sleep (or at least tell me they are). I log back onto finish work if I need to.
22:00: Last calls for toilet. Bed.

It'll be pretty full on and I've included DDs in there as having them and working (and DH not being here) means I do need to be relatively strict on timing otherwise DDs won't get fed in time and nor will dogs (and exercising them on a full stomach is a bad idea)! Lots of people don't like to give their dog a rigid routine or wake up at the same time every day - I do. Simply because it's what works for me. I've had pretty much the same routine for 12 years.

I do always try and do at least two training sessions a day myself. DM will sometimes do training as well when I'm out in the evening. But the majority of my 'entertainment' and 'socialisation' for the puppy happens in the morning and lunch- and that's simply because I've found puppies get worse the later into the evening it goes and no one wants to be trying to socialise or train an overstimulated puppy!

My routine does read a bit like I don't play with puppies, and I 100% do. But it's more like finger waggling when I'm on Teams calls (yeah I know, naughty of me - I should be working) or a quick game of razzle when I get up to stretch. It's not huge chunks of time. I also have dog beds in my study which are under my desk - so my dogs are close to me all day, if not touching me, if they want to be.

Training is spread across 2-3 sessions a day, usually around feeing time - which I have found in the past to be the best time to train dogs. I also only give my puppies half their 'meals' as their meal and use the rest of it for training. They tend to realise very quickly that if they come to me after they've been fed, they get more food and to 'play' (aka train).

In terms of how I structure training. I try to focus on different things every day. Some people re-do each command every day, but I like to spice it up. So one day I might do 'Down' and 'Recall' and others I might do 'Wait' and 'Sit.' I don't fret if puppy isn't getting it, or is too excited. Not every day will be a training day and that's okay - as long as you try. Training is the only thing I think people really need to make a conscious decision to fit into their day - socialisation is easily done through things like the school run, people coming to your house etc. toilet training (once mastered) is one of those things that just clicks. Personally, I don't give my puppies full run of the house until they're about a year old or so but that's simply so my other dogs have somewhere they can go to get away from the puppy!

As PPs have said - puppies don't need endless stimulation or games. They just need love. And they can get that simply by being with you. Some days, you'll get loads done with your boy. He'll master 2-3 commands, be a dream and not bite at all. And other days you'll think about swapping him out for a rabbit or a gerbil.

Just don't worry too much - listen to your puppy. If he's mouthing you and jumping up, then he's probably overstimulated so don't try and train him. If he's asking for attention, and pawing you, then give it to him. Puppies are good communicators - you just need to listen to what they say (literally - dogs seem to get quieter as they go older).

Remember: You care about your puppy, and you want to do what's best for him and that's 99% of the battle in raising a happy, well-rounded puppy 😊

VanGoSunflowers · 12/06/2025 20:57

@LandSharksAnonymous thank you so much for taking the time to type that out. Especially as I imagine you’re busy trying to contend with sock thieves 😂

It did make me laugh out loud in parts - it’s encouraging to know it’s normal to find it difficult!

The training is weirdly the thing I’m finding easiest to persist with - mainly because I know it’ll make our lives so much easier and potentially keep him from harm (“leave it” and “stay” being the ones I am referring to!)

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LandSharksAnonymous · 12/06/2025 21:09

@VanGoSunflowers they’re not here yet - another few day, I think! So more than happy to help!

I strongly recommend Bupster’s thread for teenage dogs - most of the posters there were in your situation a year ago so have some great advice 😊

CoubousAndTourmalet · 12/06/2025 21:24

That was brilliant @LandSharksAnonymous ! Really helpful.

I couldn't begin to do a breakdown like that, so I'm filled with admiration.

@VanGoSunflowers There was a thread running called The Puppy Survival Thread. If you can find it and read through the older posts there it will definitely be reassuring for you.

VanGoSunflowers · 12/06/2025 21:28

CoubousAndTourmalet · 12/06/2025 21:24

That was brilliant @LandSharksAnonymous ! Really helpful.

I couldn't begin to do a breakdown like that, so I'm filled with admiration.

@VanGoSunflowers There was a thread running called The Puppy Survival Thread. If you can find it and read through the older posts there it will definitely be reassuring for you.

It was so helpful of her! And reminded me to ensure I keep seeing the funny side!
Last night I did my DS’ bedtime reading on the sofa as I thought it would be easier than keep trying to do it on my bed and stopping after every sentence read to try and avoid him plummeting off the end.

Calm, pre-bed story time and all I could see over my book was my pup leaping around in the background with my shoe in his mouth and me and DS did have a huge laugh at that 😂

Thank you for the recommendation, I will try to find the thread!

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Twiglets1 · 15/06/2025 21:06

At 9 weeks old the main things to focus on are bonding and toilet training.

Lots of cuddles and repetition of his name plus calling him in the garden for a treat when he comes.

Taking him outside every 20 minutes or so for a wee - lots of praise and a piece of kibble or something to mark when he happens to wee/poo outside rather than inside. Labs are greedy so they soon learn what earns them food & praise.

MrsKJones · 17/06/2025 15:52

LandSharksAnonymous · 12/06/2025 19:44

The first few weeks before second vaccinations are hard.

I really recommend buying a sling and taking the puppy out strapped to your chest, even if it's just to the local shop to get a coffee and come home. Take him out in the car and have someone sit with him on their lap and let him watch people wandering around.

For their first few weeks, it's very easy to fall into a pattern of just playing with them and letting them explore. And whilst in theory, that's great....there's nothing more eager to please than a retriever (it's a black lab you have, right?) puppy (be that Lab, Goldie or Flattie). Retrievers want two things: love/attention and food. Training gives them both. So you can use that to your advantage.

Your puppy will probably spend c. 20hrs a day asleep. If you can spend 30-40 minutes of the 4 hours he is awake, doing training then you're doing well.

If you want a daily routine of what i'll be doing when my next litter goes and I only have one left, I can give you a specific breakdown. But there's no need to be so methodical - I am only so methodical because when I go back to work, I'll have no choice but to have everything planned out (otherwise I won't get any work done).

Some days a puppy might want to just chew and explore, some days they might want you - use those days they want you to show positive interaction (training and games etc), and don't sweat it if not every day is packed with training. 30-40 minutes a day, across the day, is more than enough. Training is the best way to bond with your dog because it builds trust, it gives you an opportunity to reward them (and most dogs love food) and it teaches them to want to please you - and that's what you want, a dog who wants to make you happy.

And, remember, puppies also need to get used to doing nothing - which is 100% the hardest part. But overall, I'd say don't sweat it. As long as the puppy is getting love and attention and getting trained, then all is fine.

Sorry to jump on this thread; we are meeting who we hope will be our new pup on Sunday (female black lab). I've been researching how to transport her and I was going to get a sling but I've since read that these are not recommended for labs. Can you advise?

VanGoSunflowers · 17/06/2025 15:58

@MrsKJones
Im sure Landsharks will be able to advise better than me but I got a friend to take me to collect my puppy and I put him in an enclosed fabric pet carrier on the back seat, strapped in, zipped open just enough for me to get my hand in to reassure him and he went straight to sleep. We didn’t need to stop on the way home as it was only half an hour drive

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VanGoSunflowers · 17/06/2025 15:59

Just to add, I didn’t use a crate to transport him back as I wanted to crate train him at home and didnt want his first experience of it to be negative. The law says they must be suitable restrained. Every time he has gone in the car since, he is tethered to the iso fix thing on the back seat using his harness which he is more than happy with!

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LandSharksAnonymous · 17/06/2025 15:59

@MrsKJones in the car, I’d say a crate or ideally a harness to tie her to the back seat and someone next to her! Socialisation before she can go outside, a sling - but make sure she’s strapped in properly and you support her bum!

The mistake most people make is using a sling but just letting the dog hang there - young puppies need their bums supported. When done properly, it means you can hold them for hours in that position as it distributes the weight evenly 😊

MrsKJones · 17/06/2025 16:02

Thank you. I plan to take collar, car seat clip and car seat cover with me when we collect pup so she can travel legally in the car to come home

SpanielsGalore · 17/06/2025 16:10

MrsKJones · 17/06/2025 16:02

Thank you. I plan to take collar, car seat clip and car seat cover with me when we collect pup so she can travel legally in the car to come home

I may have misunderstood, but please don't attach a car seat clip to a collar. Any sudden stops or jerks can cause serious damage to the dog's neck and throat. Car seatbelts are best attached to harnesses.

MrsKJones · 17/06/2025 16:17

SpanielsGalore · 17/06/2025 16:10

I may have misunderstood, but please don't attach a car seat clip to a collar. Any sudden stops or jerks can cause serious damage to the dog's neck and throat. Car seatbelts are best attached to harnesses.

Apologies, yes I meant harness. Collar and harness

Kitkykiry · 17/06/2025 16:19

The very early days focused pretty much on housetraining and nothing else really. Getting them housetrained is definitely the priority.

I also start a bit of recall early on. You need to do this in the house, just to get the puppy used to their name and coming to you.

I agree about getting them used to the car and taking them out. I brought my puppy home in a secured canvass kennel, which also served as her bed to start with. She went out in the car in the kennel for subsequent trips.

I went to the pub and for coffees, all with the puppy off the ground.

They do actually sleep a lot to start with which gives you a break from them.

Twiglets1 · 17/06/2025 16:21

Kitkykiry · 17/06/2025 16:19

The very early days focused pretty much on housetraining and nothing else really. Getting them housetrained is definitely the priority.

I also start a bit of recall early on. You need to do this in the house, just to get the puppy used to their name and coming to you.

I agree about getting them used to the car and taking them out. I brought my puppy home in a secured canvass kennel, which also served as her bed to start with. She went out in the car in the kennel for subsequent trips.

I went to the pub and for coffees, all with the puppy off the ground.

They do actually sleep a lot to start with which gives you a break from them.

Agreed. It’s the sleeping a lot that saves your sanity.

LandSharksAnonymous · 17/06/2025 16:32

SpanielsGalore · 17/06/2025 16:10

I may have misunderstood, but please don't attach a car seat clip to a collar. Any sudden stops or jerks can cause serious damage to the dog's neck and throat. Car seatbelts are best attached to harnesses.

Yep! Agree! Harness rather than collar!

VanGoSunflowers · 17/06/2025 19:30

May I ask another puppy question? 😊

So, when is a puppy ready to sleep alone?
Is it developmental, does it need to be trained or is it a bit of both?
Im thinking my boy is 10 weeks and it’s still a little too early. But I don’t want to overshoot it, either if that makes sense? I’m fine on the floor a while longer but I do kinda miss my bed 😂

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Twiglets1 · 17/06/2025 19:34

VanGoSunflowers · 17/06/2025 19:30

May I ask another puppy question? 😊

So, when is a puppy ready to sleep alone?
Is it developmental, does it need to be trained or is it a bit of both?
Im thinking my boy is 10 weeks and it’s still a little too early. But I don’t want to overshoot it, either if that makes sense? I’m fine on the floor a while longer but I do kinda miss my bed 😂

That's just personal choice I think.

My puppy slept alone from when I first got him at 8.5 weeks. The first night he cried a few times and we went downstairs each time to reassure him then went back upstairs when he fell asleep again.

The second night he cried only once ...he got the hang of sleeping alone with just his teddy for comfort really quickly and so did my previous dog.

But some puppies are different and so are some owners.

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