My dog is going to sleep this week

[corinabride]

Please be kind, I’m absolutely heartbroken.

my lovely golden retriever is 12, we’ve had her 4 years but feels like forever. She’s my shadow and best friend. She has arthritis, on 3 different meds and can’t hold her bowels so poos in her sleep/bed every night and toilets in the house daily.

This has not been a been an easy decision, it’s been going on for over a year but we’ve made the decision it’s too bad now.

The worst thing is I want to spoil her with yummy treats but even the most natural dog treats gives her an upset tummy which is even worse in the house!
Hand hold needed please.

Hand hold here ♥️. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it’s so hard, but you are doing the right thing for your lovely girl. 💔

Hand hold here too 💐 Had our dog PTS last year, still miss them desperately

It's the worst part of having a dog. You'll get through it. I put mine down at the end of last year after almost 14y. You cry and feel sad and miss them. You might even feel some relief in knowing she's free from any discomfort or distress now and that you aren't facing the big decision (though it's not really a decision, just a choice in timing). ❤️

I've just had mine pts this week it was awful, the hardest part was making the decision, but I read something that hit home about better being too early than too late, in that I didn't want her to be in pain. The process was very quick and painless but still harrowing. I can only get peace by knowing I did the right thing .

Handhold from another doggie mamma. It's the time we dread from the day our pups bounce into our lives, isn't it? Your doggie will have had a lovely life with you. Send her on her way with love and give yourself grace to know it's the right time for you and for her.
Thinking of you and your family.

You're doing what's best for her 🐶 whilst its hard for you remember it's also harder for her to go through....best to let her go in peace so she doesn't have to suffer anymore 😔 maybe buy some of her fav toys to play with instead of treats, plenty of cuddles ❤️ wishing you ease at this hard time 🙏

Thank you for your lovely comments. I keep telling myself I’m doing the right thing but it’s absolutely devastating. I’m dreading Friday, I know my pain will start when hers ends but it’s still so hard. She’s such an amazing dog and literally my best friend. Heartbroken

I lost my best boy earlier this year. We had almost 14 years of total love on both sides and it will never seem like enough.

Making the decision is the hardest thing I have ever done, but like you, I knew it was the kindest thing to do for him.

Your beautiful girl knows you love her and she will slip away knowing that. You have given her the best life and hopefully, knowing that, will help you come to terms with it. Sending gentle hugs to you both ❤️🐾🐾

I've just seen this thread after starting my own. We're also going through this and we chose tomorrow as the day. I understand exactly how you're feeling and sending a big hand hold. I'm devastated, heartbroken and feeling terribly guilty about the whole thing. Sending strength to you in such a difficult time.

Couldn’t read and not comment, I am so sorry for you all, today I made the decision to pts my soul mate dog of 16 years and even though I know right thing to do I am devastated all I’m doing is sobbing. Marls leaves me
friday. Giving you all a big hug

Sending you strength and best wishes. It's a such a painful, difficult thing. 💐

My own goldie (they're the best, aren't they?) has cancer and we'll have to make the big bad decision soon, too. Can hardly bear thinking about it, but I guess it's the kindest thing for an animal if they're suffering.

It has been the hardest thing I've had to do, arrange to have my girl pts, but it was also the kindest thing. I wasn't prepared for how I would feel afterwards, especially the few first days. Everything felt so quiet and so big! She was a spaniel so not a large dog but she was my shadow too and it feels wrong her not being here.
I will be thinking of you on Friday and I hope it goes as well as it can do💐

I feel so guilty and trying to talk myself out of it. It doenst feel right. DH says we should go ahead as she’s been fecal incontinent for around a year now and it’s a lot to cope with but everytime I look at her beautiful face my stomach sinks.

@corinabride your lovely dog has no fear, nor even any concept of, her own death.
All she has is an uncomfortable life, even if loved. I'm reluctant to let my dog go too, but when we delay that is for our benefit, not theirs.

Ending her suffering is the biggest act of love you'll do for her.
Sending my best wishes x

She’s gone and I’m absolutely devastated

I'm so sorry OP, sending a hand hold and much love.

I’m so sorry OP, it’s completely devastating I know.
You have done the right thing for your lovely girl, she’s at peace now. 💖
The first few days afterwards are horrendous, it will ease, but for now, be gentle with yourself. It’s clear how much you loved her and you have cared for her with love for this last year when it can’t have been easy. Sending 💐

Sitting by you with a handhold. It's the kindest thing you could have done for your pup, but also the most painful. Thinking of you and hoping you're not feeling too guilty and giving yourself a hard time.

Thank you for your messages, I’m just heartbroken. I keep looking for her and thinking I can hear her little paws. I miss her cuddles and waggy tail. I haven’t stopped crying.

it’s the worst feeling 💔

I'm so sorry about your lovely girl. I sent you a message as we went through the same thing last week with our old dog and the pain is just unbearable. The doubt, second guessing and guilt has been horrible and I miss them so so much. Sending a huge hug and hand hold.

Just jumping on here to share my love and support with everyone here who has experienced this. My beloved GR was pts on Saturday aged 13 years and 2 weeks. It was a sudden deterioration and we found out at emergency vets he had extensive mass on his chest/lungs which had reached tipping point. He was clearly in distress with exaggerated breathing from his abdomen and very pale gums, and for first time in his life wouldn't eat the high value treats I offered him. Yet that morning he had been on his normal short, slow walk and had been pottering around the house folllwong me for treats and playing with my younger dog in the garden until he became unwell at 5pm and by 10pm was dead. Vet said absolutely nothing we could do for him and only real option was to PTS but I'm in shock, intense grief and guilt. Sending hugs and hoping we can all be gentle with ourselves x