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Inspiration stories of nervous rescues

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Palazz · 21/04/2025 18:52

Did you adopt a nervous dog - as in, shaking outside, scared of noises, people, pigeons...

And it worked out well?

I'd love to hear how long it took for them to trust you, build a bond, gain in confidence and any tips!

I have a scared and shutdown 6 year old greyhound who is very timid and shared of her own shadow, I want to do my best for her :)

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redboxer321 · 21/04/2025 20:44

I am so glad she found you 🙂 It 's a wonderful thing to have done to given this girl a home.
How long have you had her and what have you been doing with her so far? Also, what is the set up like at home?

Mine was not really like yours but some similarities. Hopefully other people will be along with more advice but mine would be to give her time. Don't have any expectations. Be slow, low, quiet, calm and unobtrusive. Keep her world small (house and garden only if you have one). Make her feel safe, you're her guardian and her teacher now, someone she can rely on. Allow her to watch so she can process. Watch the birds from a safe space for example. You can stroke her and talk to her while she is watching. Just in short timeframes so as not to overwhelm her. Allow her to explore in a safe environment (home or garden ideally), place treats on different textures, surfaces, heights for her to seek out and find. Is she food motivated? That helps if she is.
She'll likely benefit from a safe space. A bed in a quiet place that she can retreat to knowing she won't be interrupted there. Maybe a crate with a cover, door left open, but maybe not. Mine feels safer in more open spaces. Be careful with external doors and windows as she might be looking to escape. Get her used to household noises. You can find them on YouTube. Play them very quietly on your phone when she is relaxed and sitting next to you if she is doing that yet?
Lot's of things coming back to me but most important thing is to allow her time to decompress and just be used to you being there and nothing bad happening. The good times will come I'm sure but it might take a while but you'll probably see some fairly fast improvement but then it can be two steps forward, one back.
Good luck. Let us know how you get on 🙂

Mumoushka · 22/04/2025 03:10

Yes, I adopted an extremely shut down ex breeding labrador. I had her six years and whilst she adored me (as I did her) she was never a 'proper' dog in that she didn't play, run around, play fetch etc. The rescue insisted that there had to be a kind resident dog in the home. My resident dog was her crutch....he taught her how to be a dog and everything would have taken so much longer without him. Her bond was so great that she died a couple of months after he did.

WorthyOtter · 22/04/2025 05:33

Yes I adopted a American bulldog 10 years ago. Big dog, nervous as hell but instantly fell In love with her when I met her so knew I had to have her. She isn't good with other dogs and still isn't, she was terrified of everything especially doors?? God knows why but we know she wasn't treated well. She was scared of anything that made a noise. But she is lovely to people, settled with us really well. We've recently had a baby and she is so protective and they have so much fun together. I think just showing her love, but at her pace. Lots of walks and play time. She'll soon gain her trust with you, just be patient with her

LandSharksAnonymous · 22/04/2025 06:09

My DM adopted a cocker a few years ago. Poor thing was terrified of everything and everyone - other dogs (nightmare, as I breed), children, men, cars, etc. She’d been horrifically abused (tail amputated because of the ‘children’ vile little beasts in her first home).

She was in foster for months before DM decided to take a chance but they couldn’t make any improvement other than to turn her reactivity into nerves (which sounds bad, but better a timid dog that cries or screams than one that lunges - if only because if they do it to the wrong person…)

It took DM weeks to get her to leave the crate to go to her in the morning and months to get her to a point where if my mum held out her hand she wouldn’t wee in fear. She didn’t eat for the first two days. It was about a year before she could meet my DC - we did lots of ‘walk by’s first - and about two years before she stopped barking at any loud noise. My DF ended up sleeping in the annex for eight months because her terror of men was so bad that she’d scream whenever he entered the house.

Honestly, the best thing to do is not push your dog - if you do and something scares her or something sets her off or she reacts, she may never trust you again. That includes loud noises, forcing her outside, forcing her past her limits etc.

With DMs, after one incident where another vile little beast tried to force pets on her, we always walked her before 6am or after 9pm. Did that for about eight months or so? You have to really commit to working around their nerves and not trying to make them meet you half way.

It’s worth is not amazing. My DC love her and she loves them. She sleeps on my parent’s bed snuggled up to my DF. When my DH comes back from his overseas tours she’s first in the queue to greet him - usually in front of my own dogs. It took years to get her here, and sometimes she still has bad days but the first time she slept on her back on the sofa? Best feeling ever.

Buildingthefuture · 22/04/2025 07:27

So many, including a couple of greyhounds! One dog wedged himself into a tiny space in the house and refused to come out for weeks. I fed him there, he went to the toilet there. He wasn’t aggressive, just terrified. It was less than ideal, but we went at his pace. It took about a year but he came good.
That is many, many years ago and he’s fearless now, loves everyone and everything, especially trips to new places which I could not have imagined all those years ago! He is also always the first to offer reassurance to the frightened newbies 🥰

We have also had quite a few ex breeding bitches. Hard, hard work because most have literally never left their crate, so are terrified of the world 💔 Awful to watch, but slowly slowly, they realise that you aren’t there to hurt them. The first time they approach you for affection is always so lovely 🥰

Another one tried to bite me every time I went near her. She wasn’t actually trying to bite, she was telling me very clearly to bugger off. Again, in time, she totally settled and is now the sweetest girl who despite being far too big, always tries to sit on my lap and the lap of anyone else who visits!

I find the key is to provide them with a safe space (usually a covered crate, with the door open) and then just…ignore them. For some, a crate is not seperate or safe enough, so they start off in a separate room and I visit them often throughout the day. They will not be persuaded that you aren’t going to hurt them, they have to learn for themselves. So, they watch from their safe space and they learn. It’s always useful if you have another confident dog they can learn from, but, if not, time, time and more time. Put food in the crate whilst talking nicely to them “oh. What’s this! Dinner time, yum yum, lovely girl” etc and walk away. Yes you sound slightly deranged but it works! Put really high value treats (liver/sausage etc) in the crate and walk away. They will begin to associate you with good stuff and then become more confident to follow your lead.

We currently have two ex breeders who come together. They have definitely been a challenge because rather than taking confidence from my other, settled dogs, they stick with each other and have remained fearful for longer. BUT, they are getting there now, no longer do they hide in their crate, both happy to come and sit on the sofa with everyone, take treats from my hand, eat well, explore the garden with confidence, which is lovely to see. Haven’t managed to get them on walks yet, putting leads or a harness on them literally makes them pancake to the ground 😩 But, we will get there and they become more confident everyday.

Honestly, being able to show a traumatised dog that hands aren’t there to hurt and that they will be safe from now on is such a joy and a massive privilege. Good luck xx

Buildingthefuture · 22/04/2025 07:34

I should add for anyone thinking of adopting a rescue, they are by no means all like that! We have had a lot of rescues and for all the ones who have been terrified, there have also been many, the majority actually, who, despite terrible, terrible experiences in their past (beatings, starvation, being shot 🤬) are absolutely fine! They have wandered into my house, tails wagging, quite happy with absolutely zero issues. Eaten some diner, got straight on the couch, rolled over, legs in the air and had a nice long sleep 🥰 They are all different but all so worth it!

Palazz · 23/04/2025 07:37

Loving the replies thank you so much! Have taken on board all the amazing advice. Will update later - my girl is doing so well, I'm very proud!

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