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Just need a handhold

26 replies

Fourfurrymonsters · 04/03/2025 13:26

Hi all. I’m not sure what I want from this but I need to write it down. My beloved pupper is being put to sleep tomorrow, I’ve booked a home visit so that he can be as relaxed and comfy as possible. He has osteosarcoma, a particularly aggressive bone cancer, and what was a 2-4 month prognosis has turned into just over 3 weeks. He’s gone down alarmingly fast. I know we’re doing the right thing, the kind and loving thing, but I’m utterly devastated. And feeling so, so guilty at making the decision to deliberately take his life.
I’ve had dogs most of my life, over 40 years now. I’ve been through this process before and it’s horrific, but this one…this one is my very special boy. We took him on from a kill shelter in Romania, he was a young adult and had a truly horrific life which left him scarred physically and mentally. We’ve been together almost 10 years and through all the challenges that his treatment at the hands of some really fucking awful humans wrought. He’s my soul dog and since the moment I clapped eyes on his picture at 2am one night, he was mine and I was his.
I know we’re doing the right thing. He’s uncomfortable and unhappy and I need to let him go while there’s some semblance of quality of life left. But my heart is absolutely breaking.

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BruceLeTerror · 04/03/2025 13:43

Ohhh I am so truly truly sorry, there aren't words that anyone can say that will make this easier or better, as you know its the kindest thing for your boy (even though your heart is breaking)

I hope tomorrow is peaceful for him and that in time you find peace.

He's bloody gorgeous too ❤️❤️❤️

Thinking of you XXXXX

Offredismysister · 04/03/2025 13:45

Those eyes, it’s like he’s looking into your soul. I’m so sorry for you all. He knows he’s loved. X

Wolfiefan · 04/03/2025 13:45

Oh OP I’m so so sorry. I have wolfhounds and they are prone to this type of cancer. It’s an awful one. It’s definitely not one to risk being a day too late.
You are doing one last thing for your boy. The hardest and most selfless thing you can do.

spiderlight · 04/03/2025 13:51

I'm so sorry. It's such a cruel disease. What a beautiful dog, though, and what a difference you've made to his life. You can see from that photo that he knows he's loved and that he loves you just as much. Taking on his pain to release him from it is the bravest and kindest gift you could possibly give him. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and holding your hand from afar. Come back and tell us all about him if it will help.

Howisitfebruaryalready · 04/03/2025 14:07

I'm so sorry. He's so beautiful and clearly adores you. Chin up, you're doing this for him and he knows it x

MsPug · 04/03/2025 14:09

Ah fly high sweet boy 🌈

Fourfurrymonsters · 04/03/2025 14:50

Thank you. I needed to hear that, that’s it not too early. I can’t bear to think of him in pain. He’s snoring at my feet right now, but dosed up on painkillers. You wouldn’t think anything was wrong, but it’s there.

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Fourfurrymonsters · 04/03/2025 14:52

Offredismysister · 04/03/2025 13:45

Those eyes, it’s like he’s looking into your soul. I’m so sorry for you all. He knows he’s loved. X

Yes, he is isn’t he? I’ve felt that from the beginning with him. They say you’re lucky if you get one heart dog in a lifetime, and he is mine xx

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Fourfurrymonsters · 04/03/2025 14:55

My daughter has always said his eyes are like little galaxies. This is going to really, really hurt 💔

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Honeyroar · 04/03/2025 14:56

Thinking of you. We had a beloved cat pts at home a fortnight ago. It was so calm and peaceful and although I miss him, I’m glad he’s not here looking in pain anymore. This is the worst thing about pets, they don’t live long enough and they take a bit of our hearts when they go.

SophieFichini · 04/03/2025 15:30

Thinking of you @Fourfurrymonsters
I had to do this yesterday for my darling boy. Also a rescue, I like to think his gentle soul will be looking out for your boy. I hope you can find comfort in that you gave him a wonderful life and are one last time doing right by him, he will go surrounded by love.

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Fourfurrymonsters · 04/03/2025 15:36

SophieFichini · 04/03/2025 15:30

Thinking of you @Fourfurrymonsters
I had to do this yesterday for my darling boy. Also a rescue, I like to think his gentle soul will be looking out for your boy. I hope you can find comfort in that you gave him a wonderful life and are one last time doing right by him, he will go surrounded by love.

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your pupper is a beauty xx

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SophieFichini · 04/03/2025 15:45

Thank you so much @Fourfurrymonsters And so is your so very handsome boy; your DD is so right, his eyes are like galaxies and what a beautiful thing to say xx

Buildingthefuture · 04/03/2025 15:55

I’m so sorry op. It’s just an awful, awful thing to do. I’ve done it more times than I can count and it never gets any easier. But, it’s the last kindness we can give them, the last thing we can do for them after a lifetime of love and loyalty.
You are doing it the best way possible, he will be at his home with his people, he will know he is loved. It’s all you can do. Sending a massive hand hold, you are doing absolutely the right thing for your beautiful boy xx

Onedaynotyet · 04/03/2025 15:58

I am so sorry. He is beautiful and looks so loved. We had to do the same, for the same reason last year, and ddog was also the dog of our hearts. Too good a soul to leave to suffer, and so we let go before it became unendurable. Hardest day of my life, but it was the last kindness we could give.
You are loving him into peace and safety, as you have done since you started your journey together.

LibisMum · 04/03/2025 16:06

It's the last act of kindness we can give them - to go peacefully, feeling safe.

I had to take an elderly friend's dog to the vet when she had waited too long, and the dog was really unhappy - it really taught me that it's better to let them go a bit too soon than too late, it really is. You are doing the right thing.

You've given him a wonderful life x

CanIbeRio · 04/03/2025 16:09

No words....Just a great big hug. You are doing the best thing for your boy x

SophieFichini · 05/03/2025 10:22

Sending you lots of love @Fourfurrymonsters

Fourfurrymonsters · 05/03/2025 14:12

Thank you all so much.
My boy is gone 💔
He had a fairly settled morning and dined like a king. I even got a wee tail wag for the first time in days. His vet and his favourite nurse came to the house and gave him the gentlest, most peaceful passing in front of the fire with my DH and I. I told him that he was the best boy ever and that we all loved him so very much as he drifted off. I know it was the right time. I know it was the right thing to do. But my heart is utterly shattered. He was my special boy and I’ll never have another pup like him ever again 💔💔💔

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notgettinganyyounger · 05/03/2025 14:28

What a beautiful boy, and such a heartbreaking situation. Having been there myself, I know the pain you are going through. You have made the right decision for him and he would not have wanted to suffer anymore. He's running over the bridge with a spring in his step. Thinking of you xx

Blistory · 05/03/2025 14:37

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take your time to grieve him and don't force yourself to move on. It will get better but those initial memories are painful for a long time but they will eventually bring joy, fondness and gratitude for what you both had together.
Sweet dreams to your boy.

BruceLeTerror · 05/03/2025 14:56

🩷🩷🩷🩷🐾🐾🩷🩷🩷🩷

spiderlight · 05/03/2025 14:57

Thinking of you. You've done him proud, and I hope it will be a comfort to you one day to know how safe and peaceful his last moments were, wrapped up in your love.

Empress13 · 17/03/2025 23:25

I’m so sorry 😢 he was gorgeous. I absolutely dread that day

Flozle · 18/03/2025 07:41

Late to the thread, but I’m so sorry for your loss. He was beautiful 🐾💔