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[Babsexxx]

My 3 year old dog came down very sick very suddenly just got home from out of hours they are saying she might not make it I’m in absolute pieces I can’t breathe I can’t function.

Has anyone been told this and there dog recovered??? I’m so desperate please someone help.

I'm so sorry your dog is so poorly. She is in the very best place and I'm sure they will do everything they can to help her. Dogs (and humans) do recover after the medics say this sort of thing but they do have to say it to make sure you are prepared. Hugs to you.

this is the worst feeling ever one vet said give the antibiotics 24-48 hours then I’ve just taken her to the hospital and they’ve basically declared her dead already I’m soo confused I can’t stop crying I just rang my mum and she said that they have to tell you worse case scenario I am just praying that she makes it I’m absolutely heartbroken if she makes it to the morning do you think that’ll be a good sign? If they thought she was that bad why wouldn’t they advise euthanasia??? I wish I asked more questions but I was too hysterical xxx

Your Mum is right, they will tell you the worse case scenario, but they might not be able to predict anything at this point. You're right, if there really was no hope, they would probably suggest euthanasia. Keep hanging in there and keep hoping, that's all you can do. Give them a ring for an update maybe if you're feeling a bit calmer, write down any questions so you don't forget? xx

I'm so sorry , have they told you what is wrong , a diagnosis.

Just got the call she had a huge seizure and neurologically wasn’t there anymore after it so I had to make the heartbreaking decision for them to euthanise her 😭😭😭😭 I don’t know how I’m going to ever recover from this 💔💔💔💔 xxxxxxxxx

I'm so sorry xxx

Oh gosh I am so sorry @Babsexxx
It will take time but you will recover. You'll never forget her and she will always hold a place in your heart. Cry and take as much time as you need to grieve. One day the tears will lessen. Big hugs.

I am so so sorry.

The same thing happened to us three years ago. He was at the out of hours and we got the call to give consent to euthanise. It is so very hard when you can't be with them to say goodbye. I really feel for you right now.

Be gentle with yourself. It takes a long time to get over a loss like this.
Sending you sympathetic hugs xxx

Thanks I can’t even sleep or think I just keep thinking of how awful this whole situation is they can’t even pin point a diagnosis as her bloods where all over the place this really is just horrific I wish it was just a nightmare how you can have a perfectly healthy dog one minute and a deceased dog the next is just devestating xxxxxx

I know - it is impossible to comprehend how it can get to that point so quickly. It truly is devastating. Our was a robust healthy 7 year old in his prime, he suffered a reaction to a Nobivac vaccine that was supposed to protect him from illness. It gave him thrombocytopaenia and haemolytic anaemia. he died with blood pouring from his nose and we we weren't even there because it was during covid lockdown. It was horrendous, it broke us both; almost drove us apart tbh. It was a couple of years before I could even look at his photos.

Take it slowly. You need to process her loss and your emotions will be all over the place in the coming weeks; you'll go through anger, guilt, confusion, you'll cry a lot and it is just completely mentally draining. You have to just keep reminding yourself that your girl knew she was loved and that although you can't bring her back (if only...) she is still an important part of your life.

This type of loss is absolutely the worst though, believe me; I've lost a few oldies and it's horrible but you have time to slowly prepare for it whereas an unexpected death like you've just experienced is traumatising and leaves you feeling battered and grief stricken. Nothing really helps except time.

xxx

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I don’t know if it’ll help your processing, OP, but a necropsy can be used to try and find out what happened. I had one done when one of mine passed away in very traumatic circumstances and it really helped me come to terms with what happened (I blamed myself and thought I must have missed something - I now know there was 100% nothing anyone could have done).

I am so sorry for your loss though, losing a pet is awful. Losing them when you think you’ve got years left is worse and words cannot describe the pain

O that’s is horrendous I’m so sorry you went through that 💔💔💔😭 it doesn’t even feel real 😭😭😭 normally she’s sat with me whilst I drink my coffee And I let her out for the toilet etc it’s just beyond awful xxxxxx

This is it she wasn’t 4 until January 😭💔 if it was ten years down the line I’d think well she’s had a nice long life etc but I just can’t comprehend this xxxx

I kept getting his bowl out thinking I had to to feed him. It takes ages to fully process it 😢

OMG - she was so young 😧 That really is tragic 😢

I'm so sorry. That is devastating. x

This is really sad. So sorry for your loss xx

I can’t stop crying I really can’t please someone anyone tell me when this rotten feeling goes away my face and eyes are a mess pretty sure I’ve got several stys come up in my eyes….last week I was looking at the giant range dog/human bed for her for winter this week I’m looking at urns 😭💔 xxxxxxx

Does it get any easier when the ashes come back??? I just want her back I feel like running to the vets and getting her I know that sounds mental but I’m in such a state xxxx

I'm so sorry you're going through this anguish and I know exactly how it feels. When you get the ashes back you at least feel they are safe because you know where they are and it is reassuring, but that is only the start of the grieving process. You'll still probably go through anger (as to WHY did this happen to MY dog???), guilt (is there anything I could have done differently?), panic - just because she isn't there when you get up in the morning and there will be a lot of crying. I had headaches and felt sick all the time after Algy died because I cried so much. Me and my husband didn't speak to each other for days after it happened - we were just numb because we'd gone from a big healthy dog to a wooden casket in such a short time.

I also went into puppy hate. It was a bit like when women who have miscarried or lost a young baby keep seeing pregnant women or meeting babies in prams everywhere and it traumatises them. When we lost our boy I kept getting emotional if I saw my neighbours walking their dogs and when one of them got a puppy I had this weird sort of jealous annoyance and had to avoid seeing her.

I know I'm not being helpful saying any of this but you will go through a long process of grief before it slowly starts to become a little bit easier.

I really feel for you and I wish we could sit down over a cup of tea together and bond over our losses. Be kind to yourself.

Sending gentle hugs xxx

It’s such a wicked world my kids are absolutely beside themselves aswell sitting in the morning with my cuppa doesn’t feel right at all 💔💔💔 I can’t eat constantly feel sick I had a lemsip this morning again completely congested from crying heads pounding I just can’t believe this is real the snapping at eachother has started in the house but it’s mainly me because the older ones are asking allsorts and I’m not mentally equipped to deal with it all on my brain right now they are asking the same things over and over honestly it’s making me worse! Xxxxxx

If you're panicking and feel you want to talk you can PM me but if you don't feel up to it that's fine - we all need to grieve in different ways. You can just connect on this thread if that's easier.

I just want you to know that I empathise - sudden loss is the most horrendous thing because you feel so completely bereft and overwhelmed and really, nothing helps...

It's not. My dog was PTS at home (also too young although not as young as yours) and then the vets took them away. That night I went and parked outside the vets just to be close one last time.

You are bereft. I am so sorry. It helped us a bit to write down memories in a notebook, and to print photos in case we lost them. I am so sorry for your loss.

I can help re. the kids. We had exactly the same unanswerable questions and undirected frustration with ours and I couldn't cope. I told the vets and they said they would speak to them directly on a phone consultation and do a debrief as it were. It really helped them. Could you do the same?

Also Blue Cross do free bereavement counselling by phone. For children as well as adults. Our vet recommended them. It didn't help me, I'll be honest, but it did help my dd very much.