Aibu put ddog to sleep

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I love my ddog and if there was anything i could do to make him better i would but sadly I can’t and i will be heartbroken to have him pts

he is an 11 year old Lhasa and was so active until about 10 months ago had him tested for cushings thyroid you name it vet couldn’t find what was wrong he was refusing to walk has a big pot belly so they were continuing to investigate what was wrong then he suddenly went blind so they suspect it neurological possibly a tumour on his pituitary gland

he hasn’t coped as well as i would of liked being blind he doesn’t go on walks just sleeps on the sofa which he has to be lifted on and off so is restricting me going out and leaving him luckily I mainly wfh and dh works nights so is home in day he can find his way out into the garden but not back in again he poos a lot more and there is blood in it he sometimes doesn’t make it outside no matter how much we clean his bum it’s usually messy and it looks sore

he sleeps on my bed and is mainly ok but have the odd night he whimpers all night or panting which makes me think he’s distressed

Aibu to have him pts this week as I am off on annual leave I have spent the week with him but am thinking of taking him to vets so it can be done calmly rather than waiting for it to be an emergency. He has very little quality of life and neither do we I get anxious leaving him incase he wants to get off the sofa but he won’t settle on the floor it’s awful coming home to him panting as he’s stressed it’s difficult working when I have to sort him out he usually sleeps all morning but can get agitated mid afternoon I work in a call centre environment so everything is monitored. Dh gets woken up by him barking at times as well

l love him so much and the house will be so strange without him i don’t want to pts as he’s an inconvenience and it’s difficult having him but I am putting off the inevitable he won’t get and I want his passing to be calm and peaceful help I thought i had made my decision but am doubting myself now having spent the last few days cuddled up with him on the sofa

Oh you clearly love him, and know you don’t want him to suffer and are mature enough to look after him to the end by easing the pain and ending the suffering for him.. what more can you do.. you ve done so well.. now for the final act of putting him to sleep peacefully. If possible do it at home so the least distress for all..

Poor dog. Yes I would do the same in your situation and wouldn't feel guilty at all. You've given him a lovely life, PTS now would be the kindest thing to do in my opinion

Yanbu. He's had a lovely life with you but it's ending now and with PTS you can make that ending peaceful.

You don't need to take him to the vet. Vets will do a home visit for this to minimise the trauma.

Thank you for your kind words it’s so difficult he’s family I don’t want to put him to sleep because caring for him is difficult he’s asleep next to me snoring away at the moment which makes me doubt myself if it’s time to let him go

We have had a lovely life with him he’s been an amazing dog such a character although I have said that about all my pets it’s so sad that this was so sudden he didn’t age He loved a run round the park playing with other dogs and especially after he had been groomed everyone thought he was much younger than he was

It's the kindest thing you can do for your wee doggie. As you say, he doesn't have much quality of life now other than snuggling into you which probably makes him feel safe and comfy. Try not to feel guilty that he's become more difficult and time consuming to care for, that's not the reason you're thinking this is time.

I think we thought something would happen that would make the decision for us that he would decline further but he hasn’t for example we had a 16 year old Dcat that was showing signs of being elderly mithery he went blind coped better ddog he had a lump on his shoulder under his fur that then erupted and was bleeding so we had him pts but I suppose this is the emergency situation I am trying to avoid with ddog

Sorry for rambling I am in tears my mind was made up at the beginning of the week spend time with him have him pts have a few days off to get over it but now my annual leave is coming to and end and I am doubting myself he’s my ddog so dh and adult dc say it’s my decision when to let him go

I clicked into this from trending. We don’t have a dog, but we had our darling cat pts last month. She was diagnosed with intestinal lymphoma and while we could have done chemo and steroids and still had her with us, we really didn’t want her to suffer. We booked a vet appointment and had a terrible, sad, but good end for her - it broke my heart but I wanted her to “go well” while she was still happy in herself. I miss her so much and still feel conflicted if we cut her life short. I know people say “if they have more bad days than good” but I didn’t want her to have bad days. Let your lovely dog go well, OP.

I've got 2 Lhasa Apso dogs and they have wonderful characters. What you describe does not sound normal for a Lhasa. Your love for your dog shines through but it sounds like he no longer has good quality of life. You've done your best by him and taken a week to be with him. It sounds like time to let him go. He knows you love him. By PTS you show you love him back and won't let him suffer. Take some photos of him first then you can put them in frames around your home. 🌈

That's really tough being left to make the decision on your own. He probably would have coped better with being blind if it had been gradual. Maybe have a phone call with the vet to share your worries but I think they'll agree with you that it's probably time.
Much as your DH and kids are leaving the decision to you, whether you have the vet come to your house or you go to them, don't be on your own. Make sure they realise that you need their emotional support.

Last time we were at the vet they questioned his quality of life and we said as long as he wasn’t in pain we could cope and we have just dh and dc listen to me we discuss it but i think they want me to be ready to let him go

@caringcarer he was a typical Lhasa when he was well blooming stubborn and a little dog who thought he was a big dog he was the boss of my dsis lab and dbil husky and Akita

Cast your mimd back a year or two. What would you have thought was a reasonable quality of life for him? Would you have said this was ok? I think you know he is not living a fulfilling life. He has no hopes and dreams for the future- he just lives in the present- the glorious thing about dogs. He would not have had a better life if he goes on for a few more months. I am sorry but it seems that the time has come.

Much better to let him go a bit early than to let him suffer, and it seems about right anyway. I’d let him go.

If you're asking yourself that question, then it's time.

It is the kindest, most respectful and loving act you can do for your beautiful dog.

It will break your heart, but you know that. That's because you love your furry companion so much.

Be there and hold your dear friend and let them rest now.

I knew when my best friend's time had come and I still miss him every day.

Sending you an unMNtty hug.

We had to let DBeagle go 15 months ago - broke our hearts. I can still well up when I think about it.

And it's DLhasa's time, isn't it? He's not going to get better, there's no miracle cure, and he's lost his quality of life. Get used to the idea that it's his time and agree a date with your family, and give your old boy a lovely last day. You'll cry all day - expect to feel devastated. But at this point it's the kindest thing to do.

As a birthday present later last year, DS gave me a wonderful photo of DBeagle galloping along the path towards me, all four paws in the air - it made me cry remembering him that way. But then I framed it and hung it on the wall next to the coat hooks and now I see him every day, remembering how he loved to run.

I'm so sorry, most difficult decision ever for you, but I think you already know it's his time. Sending you unMNy hugs.

You are the best sort of ddog owner op. Putting ddog first...
Give him a fantastic week before he goes on his way. We had ours pts 4 years ago. The guilt still stands as she was my ddog and I signed The Form.

We had her sedated first. Def ask your vet about that. Less invasive while ddog is conscious. No strangers around and no messy needles... It was an extra £50....
Well wishes to your family op.

Have a look at an objective quality of life index - my vet suggested this to me, also with a declining older dog. It's hard to see sometimes as the changes are gradual.
HHHHHMM - I found it very helpful. Dogs live in the moment so if he's happy in the moment, he's happy, but quality of life is important and only you can decide what is best for your dog.

It’s his time. I’m so sorry x

I think it'd be very brave, kind and wise to PTS now OP, sounds like the right time.

I'm sure he has had the best life with you x

It sounds like it’s time op - he’s happy when he’s next to you but it sounds like he’s struggling for most of the day. He’s not going to get any better - I know it’s hard now it’s coming to crunch time. This is the bravest and most loving thing you can do for him. I’m so sorry you’ve been left to make the decision which I can understand if he’s your dog but that makes it really hard to know if you’re doing the right thing. It sounds like you are, to me

Thank you all he is booked into the vets for Saturday. We’ve had a good day the weather was nice so he’s had a snooze in the garden while I did some gardening then I treated me and dd to chippy tea so bought him a sausage and he had a bit of my fish. He’s been settled on the sofa with me a dd while we watched tv and is now snoring on my bed

Better a week too soon than a day too late. It sounds like his quality of life has deteriorated and it is time. Its the best thing you can give your dog at the end of their life - a passing free from pain and stress, with you by their side. Its the hardest part of having them and the biggest responsibility we carry for them.

So sorry he’s not well OP; you know yourself when the time has come but you never want to let them go. It’s an awful time.
Sounds like he’s had a great life with lots of love. Hope he enjoyed his sausage yesterday.
Best wishes for Saturday

He’s crossed the rainbow bridge it was so peaceful and calm for him just how I wanted it to be and the vet was so lovely said all the right things I know it was the right thing to do for him but I am heartbroken and the house seems so strange without him

i know it will get easier I have had other pets pts Dcat a few months ago but tonight I am heartbroken and miss my boy so much

thank you everyone for the kind words and advice