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Please - if you can- and its not too hard for you - may I talk about my beloved dogs passing .

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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 08:54

Our beloved dog was 15 . We had a loveky day before she dies - she snoozes next to me .
She developed a painful condition that would have meant treatment that was painful plus after care she would have hated .
she waa blind , deaf and had some dementia.
I had had surgery one week ago and was due to have my stitches out the afternoon of the morning I found her suddenly panting amd I knew she was in pain.
This was at 9am.
I rang the vet surgery and the vet rang me an hour later saying she would be with us about 11 /1130 - in the last yeaR the vet Came to the housw aa she hated the vet plus oanikes as she could not see.
The vet said she was in pain and gave her pain killers.she said she could not guatantee that this issue of treated would not return and the treatment would be invasive and there would be a series of treatments during recover that we know she would not like.
the vet said i f it was her dog she would pts.
we agreed as we could not see her struggling with this .

the vet said she could stay with us for 24 hours on pain meds to have time with her . But that she could not guarantee that she would not be in pain as the meds ran out.
i asked her who this would be for and she said you not our dog . I said i did not want to delay for us as I would not want any pain for her .

the vet gave us a few mins amd we fed her some chocolate to soothe her as she loved it but it was forbidden-then the vet explained that she would give her first a sedative to relax her , then fit a cathetar to administer euthanasia. But she would be relaxed.

i said i wanted to play her her favourite music and she was in a lovely bed - this is meditation music i played and she recognised and associated with relxation .

this is where may massive regret begins..
i went out of the room to avoid hear her squeal with the injection - thinking i wd be then with her as she relaxed and began to dose. My dh was there.

when i came back in the room - expecting her to be gently alert then dose - she was deeply deeply asleep.
she did not know i was there and cdnt hear me as she was deaf.

I wasnt with her as she drifted away at the time she needed me most .
my dh keeps saying but she was in her favourite bed , she cd smell you- this was the place where we had snuggled together for hours the day before.

but i didnt get to say goodbye and i feel i let her down .
I was not with her as she feel into deep deep sleep.
It is haunting me . I am feeling so guilty. I was the person she was closest to and i was nt with her ( my stupid panicked brain did not hear that this would happen quicky ( dh said the vet did say she may sleep quickly ) .
i let her down at the last minute as i wanted to avoid the injection and thought id have time with her .

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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 08:55

I feel really ill at this thought. I have written a note to myself saying ‘ you owe it to your family to be well’ to try and cope- but I cannot stop crying amd feel a deep feeling of depression and guilt .

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MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 08:57

Op I’m sending you much love and compassion. I actually think you’ve been a wonderful owner for your dear dog. She 100% would have known at some level you were there and dh was there even when you couldn’t be. You absolutely haven’t let her down.

MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 08:58

She sounds like the most wonderful dog. What were her favourite things to do when she was well and how did you meet her?

MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 09:01

We’ve been through an experience as a family with a lovely dog needing to be pts to save him pain. He was my beautiful dog and I was away, but he suddenly took a turn for the worse and we had to decide to pts even though I wasn’t there and too far away to get back in time. My dm was there and she said it was so peaceful and that helped me get over not being there for him.

pickledandpuzzled · 08/04/2024 09:03

Oh sweetheart. I’m in tears with you. You were with her. You did everything right. She was relaxing in her best spot with you just yards away for a moment. She will have known you were there. She will have felt your touch and warmth, and smelled you with her. She will.

You arranged everything just right, made the right choices for your special girl

Please recover well from your surgery and mourn her without guilt. 💐

MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 09:03

Op please don’t forget if you need someone to talk to in RL please do reach out to friends and family.

Allthecatseverywhereallatonce · 08/04/2024 09:04

Oh @Namethattunes this is the worst part of pet ownership. You did the right thing for her. Please don't beat yourself up you were there with her when she died and I am sure she knew that deaf or not, dogs are very perceptive particularly where their owners are concerned.

Please afford yourself the kindness you showed to your lovely dog and believe what your husband said.
If you feel up to posting a picture I am sure we would all appreciate that
Be kind to yourself 💗

Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:11

Thank you so much . I feel such a coward that I left the room for the injection for the sedative.

we had her from a puppy .

she bonded with me v strongly as i slept with her the first fee nights so she wouldn’t be afraid in her new home.

when the dc were teens i bought a small old camper van - she came with me on adventures all the time . One day i looked across when driving for a second and she was smiling at me.

She used to come to work with me .

the kids built obstacle courses in the kitchen and she would jump them - the dc laughing in delighylt and giving a treat as she rushed toward them .

she once randomly took part in a dog show where working type dogs jumped little horse jumps against the clock- running beside the owner- the place erupted into joyful laughter at the sight of a small fluffy cloud of a dog running and bouncing over the jumps at great speed. We even have a professional photo as he was lined up near the jumps. She looked so happy. It was so funny her next to all the working type dogs.

In her older years she loved commimg to the pub and snoozing next to me and eating a sausage the bar staff cooked for her. In recent months she no longer liked that. She carried her or walked to her fave sniff spots for the news. In her last two days She lay snuggled up to me .

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pickledandpuzzled · 08/04/2024 09:13

Sounds as though she lived a perfect doggy life, OP. The kind that gives rise to the saying!

MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 09:14

I love this image of you having her with you as a tiny puppy so she wouldn’t be afraid and then her decision that you were her number one human. What a sensible girl!

She sounds like such an adorable character with her fluffy jumping antics and sausage eating. My dog also loved driving and loved speed and the wind in his fur if we drove with windows down.

You gave her a wonderful life op! Do you have a nice album of photos of her? If not maybe you could make a lovely memory box or album?

Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:15

Here she is . The lying down ones were the day before and the day before that .

Please - if you can- and its not too hard for you - may I talk about my beloved dogs passing .
Please - if you can- and its not too hard for you - may I talk about my beloved dogs passing .
Please - if you can- and its not too hard for you - may I talk about my beloved dogs passing .
Please - if you can- and its not too hard for you - may I talk about my beloved dogs passing .
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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:18

Thank you all so so much .

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BeakyPIinders · 08/04/2024 09:20

Oh darling, you did your absolute best for a very poorly dog. Many would have just eeked out their time for selfish reasons. You did what was best for her , and she wouldn't have wanted you to have your last memory of her oof one that was in pain. Remember the good times and fun you had

Theoscargoesto · 08/04/2024 09:25

It’s so difficult to lose a precious dog. I tend to think one always wants more time and it’s normal to play it all back and question oneself-especially when you just miss them so much. But you did everything for that dog, and I think they know how much they are loved. Grieve, sure, but if someone else was telling you the story, what would you say? I’m very sorry for your loss.

MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 09:41

Op she is absolutely gorgeous!! Love her little face. She looks so so happy. I honestly think you should try to give yourself congratulations for a job well done. A special girl lucky enough to have special owners all her life.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 08/04/2024 09:46

Oh OP what an absolute floof of a dog she was gorgeous. You did absolutely everything right. If you had been there she would have felt your stress waiting on the injection so that would have been worse. On behalf of your dog thank you for making all the right decisions and not taking that extra day, because yes, it wouldn’t have helped doggy.

Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:48

MissHavershamReturns do you think the body language when she is lying down is happy? (These pics wee the day before exeot the face one .)
i think so .
its the not being in the room with her when she had the injection to relax her that is haunting me as i expected to come back jn the room with her being relaxed .. sleepy - but concoius - but the sedative was strong and she was totally asleep so i cdnt say goodbye .

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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:50

Whatevershallidowithmylife · thank u - i feel a coward for leaving her those frw mins- i did expect her to be relaxed but drowsy so i cd talk to her . But she was so so asleep i cdnt

thank you for kind word s which i wll try to hear

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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:51

Thank tou everybody for your kindness xxx

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Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 09:58

Does she look happy on the bed - ? Thats where i lay with her the last two days. Dh brought a bed down to conservatory so that she cd lie with me as I recovered from surgery ( she cdnt come upstairs as she could fall off the big bed as sge was blind and i cdnt lunge to catch her)

i am lucky that we did this the last teo daysas we has no idea that this was coming and i wanted to be with her - as always .

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MissHavershamReturns · 08/04/2024 10:05

OP I think she looks very happy there. What a wonderful way to spend her last day

Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 10:08

Thank you . Very much .

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pickledandpuzzled · 08/04/2024 10:11

My boy would think a few days snoozing on the bed with me was idyllic. He often gets the huff when I have to get up in the morning!

Kindly, I think you may be obsessing about a detail to avoid really accepting it. I think you’d find a different detail if it weren’t this one- did you give her enough/the right kind of chocolate, was her favourite blanket there, etc.

Honestly, she knew you were with her- you were with her. Let it go, and concentrate on mourning with your family.

LunaTheCat · 08/04/2024 10:13

Oh what a beautiful dog and she was so so lucky to have you.
She would have known and felt your love with her when she took her final journey.
My beautiful Westie was PTS a couple weeks ago… I just adored her.
Its the final gift that we give our precious fur babies.

Namethattunes · 08/04/2024 10:59

When our pets are experiencing a euthanasia, their sense of smell will continue to comfort them up until the last breath.

ive just read this too ❤️

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