Elderly dog wee and poo in the house ..

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Hello - am really struggling with our dog . She does not really like going out for walks now and we carry her to a sniff spot or she walks to the local dog corner .
She has vacant periods now .
As she gets less exercise she is startkmg to poo and wee in the house most days now . We take her out regularly but we cannot be in all the time or next to her Ll the time . she cam be taken out but then wee ten mins again in the house . She sleeps in kne room downstairs at night worh pads but in the day we cannot
really contain her as she likes to follow is round the house for company . In the last teo days she has weed in the kitchen and pooed in it twice . She is sick if she eats too much at once and has been sick teice too . We are now giving her micro meal and she barks for more between and so she needs to be fed about 8 little meals a day to manage this .
she van enjoy some sniff walks amd likes to be near us .

i am wondering how on earth to manage . Dog nappies - but she is furry - cantsee how they would work . Two of my rugs are ruined now , the carpet marked and she has just done a poo when i left the house for ten mins .
i feel like I've got a very smelly house and am struggling now .

she does not seem anxious about her behaviour and does still ask to go out but she sometimes does not see us as she has poor sight

i am wondering how other people manage this please.

Oh, OP.

I don’t think you’re going to get the answers you might want…

Whenever my dogs have got to the age where they can’t control themselves indoors/have decent walks, I’ve had them PTS. A dog that can’t exercise properly (or enjoy it) and one that has to be carried to go to their ‘sniff spot’ + has no control of bodily functions is not a dog with a good quality of life.

I’m really sorry as I’m sure that’s not what you want to hear. But you need to think about her quality of life and whether keeping her going is the right thing…sorry, it’s a horrible decision/place to be in.

Oh bless you and her, OP, but it sounds like she's no longer living a good life and it's time to have a difficult conversation with your vet#. <3

I agree with the pp's, time to let her go OP.

Thank you . Sometimes she will walk for ten mins slowly sometimes she will even trot happily but its not that often . But often she does not want to which is why we carry her to a sniff spot . Sometimes she walks back from it too . ( 5 mins)

it is awful - the house I mean . But i read on line earlier that although this is a cheif reason for pts in a lot of people( “ sadly this is preventable “) - and dog nappies discussed.

I feel a complete failure - our dog is much loved and I dont want to loose her . But i am feeling today that I have little control of my house. I sit with her most nights and most mornings to provide company for her whilst she dozes. She cant come in the car anywhere with us now and looks lost in new places unless we carry her . So we feel quilt that to have any life outside the home we have to now leave her rather than her be with us .
I am sorry . I am teary and struggling today . The thought of the alternative feels terrible and not ok if we can manage this better .

She has control of bodily function’s sometimes and asks to go out . But if we ar e not right next to her - it happens then . The other day in the living room she weed right next to me though.
i feel like the only way to limit this it to either do lots of tiny walks a day / take her out each hour like active toileting.
how can i pts a pet just for being incontinent ? i know its an individual choice but the guilt would be immense when i believe their are nappies etc and others mustmanage this better than me .

I mean if I take her out every hour it feels a massive tie but one I Should do - to support her in her old age ?
Ive never been here before .

I'm sorry OP but it doesn't sound like she has quality of life, she is incontinent, you say she can't come in the car, looks lost unless she's being carried. She can only walk slowly. She's elderly and clearly her health is failing, poor wee thing. Time to let her go. You would not be failing her in the slightest.

I'm so sorry as your love for her comes through in your posts xx

I'm so sorry OP, but I agree with the previous posters. I think the time has come. Please don't feel like you are failing her though, it is actually the opposite. If she has no control, she won't be enjoying the situation either. Dogs can find it very distressing.

It is an unfortunate part of having a pet, but please take comfort in the fact that you are able to do this.

Big hug.

The thought of the alternative feels terrible and not ok if we can manage this better

Gently, OP. It’s not about you. It’s not about you managing. It’s about her. It’s about her quality of life. If she can’t control herself and can’t go outside some days without help, there is no way she’s happy and living a good life, no matter how hard you try.

Take it from someone who has been where you are now; you’ll look back in ten years and regret so much that you didn’t do it sooner. You’ll look back and think ‘I let her suffer, so I didn’t have to say goodbye.’

Dog ownership isn’t about what’s best for us, it’s about what’s best for them. It’s the hardest and cruelest lesson, but it’s the most important one.

Again, I’m really sorry.

I think I cling to the good days when I see her enjoying a belly rub what about those days ?

thank you for listening to me .

she has always followed me round the house and garden - now its she constantly looks for me as shw cant see so well ( but then sometimes she know s I am approaching the house still amd barks )

Devilshands ·

totally agree its about her - Its me thinking I am not coping v well to look after her .

she does not seem upset to be using house as toilet to be honest . She has some confusion .

I feel i am letting her down by not managing to take her out every hour or half hour.

you are right i do need to see it from her point of view . We did the quality of life test that the vet told us to do .As she still likes eating , and company , the test indicated her quality of life was ok so I assumed that we were dealing with a dog whose quality of life was ok and it was us that needed to try harder you see .

Oh OP, you're not failing her.

She's old and you need to let her go now