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Seeking Advice - separation anxiety with rescue dog

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gillefc82 · 04/11/2023 03:14

I’m looking for some advice / practical tips to help deal with my new rescue dog’s separation anxiety.

Background:

Adopted him 2 weeks ago. He’s 8 months old and we are his 4th home! Spent only 2 weeks with the family before us until circumstances meant they couldn’t keep him. Prior to that he had been bought from the breeder at 8 weeks (obviously far too young) by a young lad who clearly didn’t know what was involved in raising a Belgian Malinois. The dog was getting very little exercise and interaction, being left in his works van on his own during the day. He’s clearly had no proper socialisation- is petrified of getting in cars, pulls like a train on the lead, had no idea how to play with other dogs and had no doggy manners when first interacting with my two (quickly corrected by my two other dogs; a female Malinois and a male Kangal). Eventually the owner’s mother realised the dog was not having his needs met, so she arranged via a breed specific facebook group, for him to be rehomed - to the people I got him from. It was via this group that I first saw him being rehomed and how the previous owner contacted me to see if I was interested in adopting him.

The issue.

I WFH most of the time, but approx 1 to 2 times a fortnight have to travel to London from the North West for meetings. I will leave the house at 5.30am and won’t be back until around 7.30pm.

My DH works M-F out of the house, usually leaving around 5.40am and back around 5.45/6pm on a typical day.

When I’m due to be working on London, my parents will call in on the dogs to let them out, feed them, play with them etc at lunchtime which has always worked perfectly for my two (and a previous dog no longer with us). I had arranged for the same this past week, with them meeting the new fella before hand to start building up a relationship with him.

He sleeps in the living room at night along with my other two and was given freedom to roam all of the downstairs, same as my other Mali. The Kangal is crate trained when we go out the house, as he is a prolific chewer.

This Tuesday, after myself and DH had left the house, new dog would not stop barking.l (seen and heard on the Ring cameras we have set up in the living room and kitchen/diner).

As we didn’t want to annoy the neighbours, I had to get my parents to go round before 8am and sit with them all day.

Obviously, this isn’t sustainable, so am looking for advice on how best to deal with it. For example, should we crate train him?

When I’m at home with him he’s really good and I’m conscious that he’s still settling in after only 2 weeks with us. We’re his forever home, so will do whatever it takes to sort this.

Pic for attention and so you can see the handsome chap! Second pic is him with his big bro and sis (he’s in the middle).

Seeking Advice - separation anxiety with rescue dog
Seeking Advice - separation anxiety with rescue dog
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Labtastic · 04/11/2023 07:51

Look at his amazing smile! He's gorgeous.

Can you go back to basics and start regularly leaving the house for 1 min/2 mins/5 mins/10 mins etc and build it up so he knows you'll come back? Never making a fuss about leaving or returning.

margotrose · 04/11/2023 08:00

I don't think you can expect to leave an eight month old rescue dog all day long with just pop-ins from your parents. Even if you crate train him it will take months to get him happy to be okay for long periods on his own.

Either your parents need to sit with him for the foreseeable future or you need to pay for professional care. Your set up isn't really appropriate for such high-needs puppy/adolescent.

natura · 04/11/2023 08:10

I also had a rescue with separation anxiety, although he was elderly when I got him.

Training separation takes a long time.

As @Labtastic has said, tiny intervals of leaving and returning and building it up slowly is the way to go, but getting up to hours can take months (and a lot of standing outside your house in all weathers looking like a weirdo!)

If you're going to keep him, you need a dogsitter for the days you and your DP are away.

Sprig1 · 04/11/2023 08:15

Far too much too soon. You need a house sitter for the day you are away or for him to go to someone else that day.

Blistory · 04/11/2023 09:20

Are you leaving him free to roam in the house with your female Malinoise ? After just two weeks ?

I'd be really wary of that due to my own experience. There is no way he has settled enough to be trusted with that amount of unsupervised access to your existing dog.

I had the sweetest rescue boy but after 2 months, he felt confident enough to challenge my existing girl, maybe due to teen hormones or feeling more settled but it took me by surprise and resulted in a nasty fight when they were left whilst I was in the garden.

Rescue dogs can be unpredictable for some time and if he's already anxious about being left, he's not just not ready, he's also not safe to be left with your others.

EdithStourton · 04/11/2023 10:16

Out of curiosity, why do you think 8 weeks is too young? 8 weeks is entirely normal for puppies to go their new homes.

Good luck with him - he looks like a wonderful dog.

Newpeep · 04/11/2023 13:35

A. He’s a (gorgeous) very young pup. He’s nowhere near ready to be alone
B. He’s a rescue so will need extra help there.

My 14 month old pup (from a breeder) is only just being left for short stretches, having built up to it and put a lot of work in to lay foundations. She’d not cope with a day with pop ins for a while yet.

You need to find a sitter for your long days and then get working to teach him it’s ok, you’ll always be back in tiny tiny steps once he’s settled in. The more he’s anxious the worse he will get. They don’t get over it. It gets worse.

21ZIGGY · 04/11/2023 19:33

A crate wont stop separation anxiety.

Get a behaviourist asap. I recommend nose to trail in cheshire.

In the meantime dont leave him alone as it will undo any training you do

Wolfiefan · 04/11/2023 19:36

The only way to cure separation anxiety is never to leave a dog for longer than it’s happy with. For some dogs that means not at all. Dog training advice and support on FB have great advice.

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 04/11/2023 22:52

No idea but that's for the photo. I just love that toothy grim Grin

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