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Scared people will think my reactive dog is dangerous

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Gsdmama · 11/10/2023 10:13

So I've been working really hard with my girl since we had her at 9 weeks. So a little background. I started training with my girl from the minute we had her with basic commands. We signed her up for puppy class once she had her second injections. The first session went well though she was a little shy. The second session a cockapoo barked at her and lunged which nerved her a bit. The third session the minute she saw the other dogs she reacted barking and lunging and the trainer did nothing to help me and she barked for ages. The trainer then told me to go in a corner out the way. From this minute on the trainer seemed to not spend as much time with my dog, just gave me basic commands to practice which my dog already knew. The last session we had was recall and all dogs had a turn off lead. Trainer didnt want her off lead but was happy for the snappy cockapoo to be off lead who ran straight to my dog. We let mine off and she came straight to me no issue at all, then the same cockapoo snapped again and my dog growled and barked and the trainer basically blamed my dog! I guess because she was the biggest there. I came out of that class in tears and never went back.
We found someone who deals with this breed and within seconds of meeting him my dog was under control. He took her to built up areas with barley a bark. He said shes not aggressive just slightly unsure and reactive and rather than letting her greet dogs and people to have her leave it and walk past. If we see someone we know to stop, have her sit and wait. So I've been working so, so hard on this and she's got so much better. She sometimes will bark but I stop, have her sit and wait. She's so much better with people but not a fussy dog she would rather sit and wait than have a fuss. She goes to work with my dp and gotten to know the people there and loves them. She sometimes even barks at people she knows well. She's still not 100% on dogs and will bark if they stare or run towards her. We have another dog aswell and she loves her, we have rabbits which she adores and is so gentle with. I dont leave her unsupervised with them so please dont worry. People shake their head, cross over or snap at me when out walking. Some people praise me for the work I put in. I would like to have her greet different dogs but because of the way she acts when the dog gets close, noone is willing to help me really. I have her off lead when no one is around, her recalls fab and she loves a ball so no matter what dog is around she will not leave my side but on lead she's different, as my trainer said she's more restricted on lead so has no where to run if feeling threatened. She's quite protective of me aswell. I've read in the news that people can report dogs if they see them as dangerous and this scares me. I don't want people to see her that way. She's such a good, highly intelligent dog and would hate to think someone would report because they don't understand her or how much effort I've put into training. She doesn't like strangers coming in the house so will bark and sometimes growl but she backs away and after seeing them a few times she'll go for a fuss. Hes never bared teeth or truly growled in a nasty way. If someone comes in the house shes unsure of she barks, slightly growls, sbiffs then runs to find a bone or toy. She's currently in the window watching workmen as quiet as a mouse when normally she'd be barking so my training is paying off in most ways. All the news regarding dogs recently has put me on edge because I don't want people think that of her. My other dog has no issues. I do walk them separately so I can concentrate on the training 1 to 1. Ive had many dogs successfully in the past but none were reactive. Im fully aware having a big dog bark at you can be scary, ive had it myself and been the one to judge unfortunately because i assumed these owners couldnt be bothered to train their dogs but now i know different. Little dogs in the street bark all the time but people find this cute and coo over them but when mine does it, its a different reaction. Any advice thanks and sorry for the long post just wanted to add as much as possible.

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tabulahrasa · 11/10/2023 15:48

Janedoe82 · 11/10/2023 12:32

When was the last time you saw the local drug deal with a cockapoo or Labrador 🙈

I mean there’s a massive link between puppy farming and drugs... so cockapoos weren’t the best example tbh.

I’m now thinking of people who are definitely drug dealers and own dogs... Samoyed, deerhound and lurcher, greyhounds and a little scruffy terrier, french bulldogs and a pug.

No labs or cockapoos to be fair, also no GSD’s so a bit pointless really.

Also - soft mouthed is a fairly pointless trait in a pet, as it’s nothing to do with willingness to bite or bite strength. Unless you think the difference between good or bad pets is the ability to carry things?

tabulahrasa · 11/10/2023 15:56

The thing is OP, you can’t control how other people feel about your dog, some people don’t like dogs, some don’t like certain breeds.

All you can do is make sure you’re doing what you can with your dog and assess whether you’re happy with how it’s going.

As long as your dog is under control, people’s opinions are their problem.

YoDood · 11/10/2023 16:53

It’s unfortunately the downside of buying a larger, scary-looking dog. Regardless of the dog’s personality, people are going to be much more wary of them and particularly so if she’s barking and lunging.

You will just need to adjust to people feeling less comfortable around her than a cute dog. I don’t think that will change, even if she’s well behaved.

Sympathy though. Sadly GSDs are increasingly a difficult and nervous breed these days. I know two people locally with nervous GSDs and their lives revolve around training and avoiding stimuli which might set the dogs off. It’s very very difficult.

ADuck12 · 11/10/2023 16:54

No advice unfortunately, but I just wanted to say I completely sympathise with you.

We got a rescue dog six months ago (not a GSD but a large dog nonetheless). She was a stray before we had her, and was reactive to other people and dogs. Not aggressive at all, but she would bark at them if they got too close. We worked with a trainer to help her overcome this, and she’s doing so much better. The improvement in her is amazing and just so lovely to see.

The only thing she struggles with now is if an off lead dog approaches her or runs up to her. As we keep our dog on a lead, we think she gets frustrated that the other dog is off lead as she wants to play with them!

Like you, I do sometimes worry about what other dog owners think, but I also know how far our dog has come so I try to not let it bother me! Just to say, if your dog barked at me, I would have no judgement on you whatsoever! Just complete sympathy as I know how hard it is. You sound like a wonderful owner.

Gsdmama · 11/10/2023 17:21

ADuck12 · 11/10/2023 16:54

No advice unfortunately, but I just wanted to say I completely sympathise with you.

We got a rescue dog six months ago (not a GSD but a large dog nonetheless). She was a stray before we had her, and was reactive to other people and dogs. Not aggressive at all, but she would bark at them if they got too close. We worked with a trainer to help her overcome this, and she’s doing so much better. The improvement in her is amazing and just so lovely to see.

The only thing she struggles with now is if an off lead dog approaches her or runs up to her. As we keep our dog on a lead, we think she gets frustrated that the other dog is off lead as she wants to play with them!

Like you, I do sometimes worry about what other dog owners think, but I also know how far our dog has come so I try to not let it bother me! Just to say, if your dog barked at me, I would have no judgement on you whatsoever! Just complete sympathy as I know how hard it is. You sound like a wonderful owner.

Thankyou so much and a massive well done to you on your dogs progession. She certainly is improving. Some people have been very sympathetic or praised me as they can see me training her in the street. Others with reactive dogs who have see me with her have noticed a difference and even asked me for tips! It's very hard having a reactive dog ot takes so much time and patience and I have no tears left but I refuse to give up in her because she's amazing in every other way.

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margotrose · 11/10/2023 17:24

It’s unfortunately the downside of buying a larger, scary-looking dog. Regardless of the dog’s personality, people are going to be much more wary of them and particularly so if she’s barking and lunging.

Yes, unfortunately I think this is true.

People will always be wary of certain breeds - especially when those breeds have been in the news in the past for killing people.

IngGenius · 11/10/2023 20:01

I know I am being a pendant but!

You can not train a dog to change its emotions.

You need to change the emotions to change the behaviour.

If your dog is barking from fear unless your dog does not feel fearful you can not stop the emotion of fear. You may occasionally stop a behaviour but if the dog is still fearful it will offer alternative behaviours. eg not lunge but bark, or bite.

You need to be talking to a behaviourist and not be so tied up on "training" your dog

SirSniffsAlot · 12/10/2023 14:30

It's a nice Facebook feed - with more than a few GSDs in service/assistance and high obedience examples along with bully breeds.

OP: worth a look because it could well give you some hope? 😀

Gsdmama · 12/10/2023 17:13

SirSniffsAlot · 12/10/2023 14:30

It's a nice Facebook feed - with more than a few GSDs in service/assistance and high obedience examples along with bully breeds.

OP: worth a look because it could well give you some hope? 😀

Thankyou I will take a look.

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villainousbroodmare · 12/10/2023 21:21

Walking in residential areas is really not fun for a lot of dogs.
Get up early, go somewhere where you can see what's around you and keep her out of situations where she is likely to react.

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