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Feel guilty about stopping Doggy Daycare

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Daisy523 · 09/08/2023 21:32

Hi all! I’ve got a 2.5 year old beagle, and have been bringing her to daycare since she was around 10 months old. She enjoys her time there, is always excited to go, but the whole reason I began bringing her was because she was so full on as a pup, I wasn’t able to provide the activity she needed at all times. She was an absolute nutcase, and needed that stimulation of other dogs. I’m pretty sure she was allergic to sleep for the first year.

But now that she’s older, she’s calmed down so much! She now actually enjoys cuddles and naps, and is content with a quick walk or play around the garden. I’ve begun cutting down her days in daycare, and have been since April, but I’m now considering cutting it out all together. I just feel like she doesn’t NEED it anymore, not like she used to.

For context, I WFH so she’s never alone, and I have other dogs nearby she can play with (parents, siblings, neighbors all have dogs). I have time to walk her and snuggle her during the day as my work is largely on a laptop, and I plan on using the extra money I save (almost €100 a week) on extra toys, treats and interactive games. She enjoys being with me, and I honestly miss her when she’s at daycare. I don’t feel relieved for the break anymore, but sad that I’m not with her.

But I feel so guilty taking away something she enjoys. What if she misses it and is sad? I’m one of those people who lives for their dogs, and I want her to have the best life possible.

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laundryelf · 09/08/2023 22:16

Could you decrease the days to one a week?
I send my dog once a week as he enjoys it. We rarely need to send him more often but it's a good back up on the days my DH can't work from home; happens every few months only.
My lovely dog is so pleased to see the van arrive and if we meet a daycare friend on walks they have a great time.

Copperoliverbear · 09/08/2023 22:28

I have two beagles, I would not cut it out they love stimulation, little to mix and if you can afford it, it's better for them.

Daisy523 · 09/08/2023 22:48

For days where I can’t WFH (rarely happens, usually only once every 3 months and it’s always a half day), my parents are happy to have her for the few hours I’m not there. I live across the road from them, and they have a puppy who plays with my dog everyday, so she gets that stimulation. Additionally, my dad is an avid walker, and often takes her with him as she loves a good long walk (2 hours), so she gets her exercise in.

I’m not so much worried about her missing out on fun, because I have 101 things for her to do and be occupied by. She’d still be well exercised and well socialized (with both humans and dogs). I’m just worried about making her sad 🙈

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RedHelenB · 10/08/2023 07:00

Dogs are not humans. You're putting human emotions onto a dog. You dint have to spend the saved money on doggy treats to ' make it up to her". She'll be fine whatever you decide.

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 10/08/2023 07:12

You're projecting!

We have a beagle too and honestly yours will be just fine at home with you 🥰

crocodileboots · 10/08/2023 07:16

She really won't be sat there on a Wednesday (or whatever day she's normally at day care) thinking "omg, why haven't I gone to daycare today?? I'm fuming!".

She's a dog, they live in the moment.

SparePantsAndLego · 10/08/2023 07:18

It sounds like she has a lovely life and the very fact you’re concerned about dropping daycare speaks volumes. In your position I’d drop it, as it sounds like she has plenty of stimulation and exercise and then see how it goes.
If you feel she’s missing it you can always send her back, even if there is a wait for a space. She’s lucky to have you but I’m sure you feel that way about her!

caringcarer · 10/08/2023 08:07

If the dog enjoys going I'd probably just reduce her visit to once a week or once a fortnight. Could the dog go half a day each week?

Daisy523 · 10/08/2023 08:25

Thanks everyone! The projecting comments were a good laugh (in a good way!) because I totally do it! I can’t even watch those ads for rescues without crying, so when it comes to my dog, I’m far too emotional 😂😂😂

I do feel like it’s time to stop daycare. As it is right now, I’m up pottering around and my dog is still fast asleep. As a pup, she would have been up at 6am looking for something to wreck, which was why daycare was a godsend. Hearing the reassurance that she’ll be fine and won’t even realize (because she is a dog) helps

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