Dog keeps peeing on my bed - help!

[MummyRuns]

We have had him for 3.5 years. We are often away and when he stays with our good friend who dog sits, he always sleeps overnight in the bed with them. At ours he sleeps downstairs in the kitchen in a pen. He is allowed in DCs rooms and more recently on my DDs bed - never overnight. He regularly has accidents in my room (peeing on carpet) so he is not allowed in my room - although it’s hard to keep him out 100%.

Last night I realised he had peed on my bed, on top of my duvet - this is about the fourth time. Anytime he gains access to my room he pees - the bed soiling is the most upsetting.

I don’t want our dog in my room and definitely not sleeping in my bed.

Any advice appreciated.

I think op wants someone to wave a magic wand so her animal stop peeing where it shouldn’t. Sadly having an animal who lives in your home you need to actually train it. When it starts doing something undesirable you need to retrain and that takes effort. Like installing a barrier long or short term to prevent your animal soiling your carpets. Teaching kids to close doors, my 4 manage it it’s not difficult tbh. I think people have dogs and once they are past the puppy stage think training ends.

People have rocks for brains.

Keep the dog out of all bedrooms and living rooms at all times. It's a dog for gods sake. train the dog.

Baffling how people can't work it out.

He clearly likes sleeping in bed with your friend and is scent marking so your bed is recognised as his spot too.

Dogs are pack animals, he doesn't want to sleep alone and this is his solution.

There's nothing malicious in it, just instinct.

You'll just have to keep him out of there.

Our dog is not allowed in our bedroom - we keep the door shut, my youngest is 5 and she knows to shut the door so the dog doesn't go in.

Our dog is allowed anywhere else in the house and sleeps in my son's room (sometimes on his bed!) she did wee on his bed a couple of times when she was younger and it was scent marking - since she has slept in his room she has never done it again so I think your dog is also wanting to sleep with you as it gets to sleep in the bed at your friends it's mixed messages!

We have one stair gate up in between the kitchen and utility room so if I need to contain her eg while the door is open during a food shop delivery or when we have guests over for dinner so she doesn't hover for food! But in general she has the run of the house now, she's 2 and thankfully never been a destructive chewer. My friends 3yo beagle has to be left in utility with stair gate whenever they go out as he gets into mischief!

They are not “accidents”. The dog is scent marking. Dogs do this. It’s why male dogs pee up lampposts etc and sniff where other dogs have peed.

Just keep him downstairs.

If your children leave the bedroom door open accidentally I think you need a padlock on the outside of the door, lock it when you leave and keep the key on you.
You really have to have a foolproof way of keeping the dog out of the room.

Make sure the kids close doors behind them.

My 'children' are18 and 20 and I still have a stair gate for the dog. I don't want him in our rooms at all. I have one of those concertina ones. Not elegant but keeps the dog out of our rooms.

Ours sleeps in the bedroom with us BUT has lost his "upstairs unaccompanied" privileges after one or two similar incidents.

The kids would probably space out and leave a stair gate open too, but get a lock for your bedroom door, and use it always. Keys only to you and your other half.

Thanks all for the helpful replies. The kids were traumatised - lots of tears about their ‘brother’ not being allowed upstairs. There was a sit in protest and collective wailing in his pen for a while.. the dog was very confused.
We finally compromised on blocking off part of upstairs so I have bought a ‘dog stopper’ to see if this works. Seems like an over priced piece of board but less expensive/fiddly to fit than a stair gate..