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Need a small rant and some reassurance please!

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Whattodo121 · 07/04/2023 21:35

DDog is a lovely, slightly nervy border collie. She is an absolute joy at home and with the people she loves, but quite suspicious of strangers. She goes to daycare and has a fab dog Walker who also does home boarding but is always booked up a year in advance. We have the in-laws who have a dog and will dog sit. Last summer when we went away, in-laws were offended that we didn’t ask them to dog sit, so we cancelled the home boarder and DDog went happily to them. We’re going on a short city break next week with my Dad and before we booked (in January) we double checked that in-laws could dog sit this time too. They said yes no probs.

In the interim I had started some meet and greet/settling sessions at a local kennels because I wanted to have more options for dog sitting than just the in-laws or our very in demand dog Walker, in case we wanted to go away at short notice etc. We’ve been taking it really slowly, been building positive relationships and associations with the dog. The in-laws didn’t know about this.

In-laws told us on Saturday that actually they’ve got builders coming in, they’ve already knocked down the kitchen wall and conservatory, the garden is a bomb site and actually they can’t really look after the dog for us after all.

So I’m attempting to accelerate the settling in process at kennels, she managed a few hours today without barking the place down and took treats etc but they couldn’t coax her out of the kennel once she was in. I’ve now got to spend Saturday and Sunday doing more settling sessions with the dog at the kennels (40 mile round trip!) and got major anxiety about leaving her and going away. DH is on night shifts so unable to help, and I’ve already trekked over there twice this week. Please can someone reassure me that DDog will be fine and we will be able to relax and enjoy our holiday. I’m at the point of considering cancelling the whole thing, I’m so upset about it.

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HappiestSleeping · 08/04/2023 18:35

One would like to hope that the people who run the kennels will be experienced and able to look after your dog perfectly well. Hopefully this is the impression you've formed of them already. 🤞

What I wanted to say though is that I sympathise with the frustration of how unreliable people can be. It's especially bad when they are relatives. In your situation, I think I wouldn't trust that you wouldn't be let down again, so would always make alternative arrangements. I've been there to be honest, and with people I trusted not to let me down. Live and learn.

Good luck, I'm sure it will all be fine.

ilovesushi · 08/04/2023 19:02

Have you checked with dog walker/ daycare about their availability? Maybe they have a cancellation. Could they suggest someone decent with a more low key homely set up? Clutching at straws I know but worth an ask if she seems unsettled still with kennels.

Whattodo121 · 08/04/2023 19:30

Thank you for your replies - I took her again today for another session and she went off with the manager quite happily to play catch and allowed her to take her lead off etc and she wasn’t traumatised about going on site, ran in quite happily. Unfortunately our lovely home boarder was fully booked and our daycare people don’t do overnights at the moment so our options were limited at such late notice.

What the in-laws don’t know is that recently my anxiety has absolutely spiralled and I’ve ended up having to double my medication. This whole scenario on top of an incredibly stressful term at work, and a stressful week next week taking my widowed dad away for the first time since losing mum means that I am just beside myself.

Rational me knows that it’s just a dog, she has an amazing life with us 99% of the time, if she’s a bit stressed in kennels it’s not the end of the world. Irrational me thinks that she will cry all night and day and bite people and god knows what.

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NoSquirrels · 08/04/2023 19:34

Your in-laws don’t fancy a staycation at your house to get away from the building site, do they?

I’m sorry that they put you in this position, but I’m sure the kennels will be fine - they sound like they’re caring people with the settling in. Give yourself a pat on the back for being forward-thinking and having already set up your back-up plan. I hope you can relax and enjoy your break with your dad.

NoSquirrels · 08/04/2023 19:36

In fact, could you in-laws be the standby emergency people to go and get your dog if she can’t cope at the kennels? They could take her back to your house if needed. Least they can do…

ilovesushi · 08/04/2023 19:44

So sorry that you lost your mum. It sounds like the stresses are piling on at the moment. Having your in laws as emergency back sounds like a good plan. Could your DH have a word and explain how worried you are? x

OllytheCollie · 08/04/2023 19:49

Sorry you are under so much stress. My BC is happier in a kennels which understands her than with a housesitter. I think she would find staying in someone else's house v stressful. At kennels they understand dogs, there's routine and lots of exercise. It's not her favorite but it's fine. Your settling in sessions sound like they are going well abd the fact the kennel takes them so seriously is a good sign.

Whattodo121 · 08/04/2023 19:51

The in-laws have agreed to be the emergency contact at least and will collect if necessary. They wouldn’t consider staying here, our house is not nearly as nice as theirs 🤣

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Whattodo121 · 08/04/2023 20:00

Thank you @OllytheCollie she settled absolutely fine in her actual kennel when she went yesterday, but just couldn’t be coaxed out (they only tried twice tbf) I also think that she absolutely would hate being in someone else’s house that she didn’t know really well.

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Whattodo121 · 09/04/2023 12:23

Took her for a final play today before her getting dropped off on Tuesday. She ran in quite happily with the manager and allowed them to swap to a longline lead then they played catch in the field. She was very happy to see her and bounded off without a backwards glance. Wouldn’t let her swap leads back over though, but didn’t bark or growl just wriggled away (which she sometimes does with us tbf) she came happily back up to reception to meet me and was fine. Am really hoping she’ll be fine - please can we all cross fingers 🤞🤣

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Whattodo121 · 16/04/2023 13:50

Just an update! We had a wobble on Wednesday when she refused to let them put a lead on her, and she wouldn’t go out for a wee, or go for a wee in her kennel 🤦‍♀️ thankfully MIL was able to drive up there and put the lead on and give her lots of cuddles. They then put her in a different kennel block with direct access to the outside, and from there she was a different dog 🐶 obeyed all the rules, and was good as gold. Each day she got friendlier and friendlier with the staff and by yesterday was accepting treats with a wagging tail from all the kennel workers, and not barking as they went past, and was giving lots of cuddles to the two who were in charge and tasked with looking after her.

So although it was MEGA stressful last week preparing her, and there were a couple of bumps, she’s had a lovely time. Has come home and is snoozing by the back door in her usual spot and seems completely unpeturbed by the whole experience.

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ilovesushi · 16/04/2023 17:25

Great news! What a relief for you.

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