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dog being euthanised

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orangelotus · 22/03/2023 22:14

i know no one can tell me this but when will we feel better?
my lovely girl is being put to sleep tomorrow and I cannot stop crying. i know it's the right thing for her we've see the vet and we know her quality of life is not good.
I honestly had no idea how awful this was going to be .

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Filde · 22/03/2023 22:18

Sorry to hear this OP. It is awful - do you want to tell us about your girl? Is she well enough to feed a favourite meal before it happens or sit in the sun? Handhold and unmumsnetty hug x

Nannyfannybanny · 22/03/2023 22:23

Am with you for a hand hold. When you feel ready tell me about your girl. It is absolute hell. We had our last boy PTS on 27th January,he was a Phalane (toy) he would have been 18 on the 2/3. It does get better/easier. You remember the good times, the daft things they did....buying the bulk food he then refused to eat, how clever he was.So many of my friends knew him,he was around so long. We have always had 2 dogs,used to have 3. Am so thankful we have a 7 year old border collie, but we have found a couple of lumps, are now wondering how the hell we would manage without her, because she is the loveliest dog we have ever had.

NoLongerATeacher · 22/03/2023 22:24

Big hugs to you - you are doing the right thing and she knows you love her. It is truly heartbreaking though and after having lost my boy after 14 years I feel your pain. 💐💐

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orangelotus · 22/03/2023 22:25

we've been feeding her bits of things she likes and have arranged to be at home with her all the time but to be honest she doesn't really know we are there. She just wanders around bumping into things and getting stuck under furniture.
She has been such a wonderful dog not ever a single problem since we got her as a puppy.
she's 15 now my children who are young adults now have grown up with her and she really kept them happy throughout the dark teenage years.
We have lost parents and siblings and this feels just as bad

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Floralnomad · 23/03/2023 14:14

It is no different to losing any other family member IME . 💐

spiderlight · 23/03/2023 14:45

So sorry. It's just awful - there's honestly no pain quite like it.

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orangelotus · 23/03/2023 14:50

Thankyou i arranged it fir tomorrow to give the adult kids a chance to say their farewells but i really regret it we should have bitten the bullet. she's even deteriorated over the past week

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orangelotus · 23/03/2023 14:51

and worse random people have started popping in to say farewell. it's awful of me but i want to tell them to f* off

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JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 23/03/2023 20:36

Give her some chocolate, let her have the sweet taste of it before she passes.

I have no other advice, you are doing the right thing, doesn’t stop it hurting like hell though.

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orangelotus · 23/03/2023 20:39

she's had acres of cheese and my son came round with chicken nuggets from McDonald's fir her!!!
So easy to start thinking she's ok

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ScottBakula · 23/03/2023 20:46

It is so hard but you know you are doing the right thing. .
Give her lots of cuddles and any foid you think she would enjoy.
Try to make the mist of her last night .
I would not recommend taking a last photo , I did this with my dog and it breaks my heart when ever I see it but I can not make myself delete it

Anewuser · 23/03/2023 20:49

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t think people understand unless they’ve been there. Others seem to think it’s just a dog so why are you so upset, but to us they are a huge family member.

My old girl was PTS last year and I’m still grieving now.

The day I took her in was one of the most painful and difficult of my life. I can still see her little face looking at me, but I know we made the right decision, just as you are.

I hope tomorrow goes smoothly and will be thinking of you. Take care.

Anewuser · 23/03/2023 20:51

@ScottBakula agree about the photo. Biggest mistake I made.

johnworf · 23/03/2023 20:58

I recently lost my dog and it's heartbreaking. You love them so much (as much as a family member because that is what they are). Try to celebrate their life and eventually you will start to remember the happy times.

I couldn't say a final goodbye to my boy (he had already passed away). I had to remember him as he was when he was alive and definitely no last photos for me.

Cry and grieve as much as you need to. Thinking of you xx

Letsnotargue · 23/03/2023 21:05

I find that it’s is easier once they have gone. It sounds cold, but they are free and out of pain, and then you can start dealing with things for yourself.

It does take time, and it does hurt, and don’t be in a rush to ‘get over’ it. I’ve had to have a few dogs put to sleep over the years and I almost see my sadness as validation of what a good relationship we had and how much we loved them.

It will get easier, but for now just enjoy the time with your girl ❤️

smileladiesplease · 23/03/2023 21:23

Oh darling she's family isn't she so it's heartbreaking. We are kinder to our animals than people though. I wish I could have ended my mums suffering but could not.,

Your girl has you to advocate for her xxxxxx

queenofthebongo · 24/03/2023 07:17

We fed ours chopped up sausage as it happened so her last moments were lovely. It made me feel better. But I cried terribly. Good luck today. 💗

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