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2 dogs. Holiday. Dog care.

8 replies

Doodles29 · 21/03/2023 18:46

Hi all.

Asking for some advice please.

Myself and boyfriend have been together a year. We each have a dog what we bought to the relationship.

We are moving in together in two weeks eeeek! Meaning that the dogs will be ‘ours’ together.

We have started talking about a summer holiday.

We went on one last year and my mum looked after my dog (as my parents own my dog’s sister and they get on well).

My boyfriend’s father looked after my boyfriend’s dog, but they have since fallen out and no longer speak.

I feel that it is unfair to expect my mum to look after both my dog and his, as she will then have 3 dogs to take care of. My boyfriend’s dog is a very energetic Springer spaniel, and the dynamic of having the three dogs together can be hard work. My Mum has already expressed this.

The only other option for my boyfriend’s dog would be a kennel. My boyfriend has said that he feels that it isn’t fair that only his dog goes to a kennel and that both his and my dog should be kept together for this time.

I partly understand what he is saying (that it should be fair and that both dogs should have the same experience); but equally I feel that him falling out with his dad was beyond my control and I do feel bad for my dog if she has a place to stay but I still decide to put her in a kennel. My Mum also commented on how this seems unfair on my dog.

Am I being selfish? At this point it’s looking like both of our girls go to kennels or there will be no holiday.

many thanks.

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Snowbaldy · 21/03/2023 18:50

Have you considered a pet sitter who will live in your house with the dogs while you’re away? It might not be a great deal more expensive than the cost of kennels for 2 dogs.

lipstickwoman · 21/03/2023 18:52

Or go somewhere where you can take them?

Doodles29 · 21/03/2023 18:54

@lipstickwoman it would just be nice to have some time away without the dogs for once...

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Sisisimone · 21/03/2023 19:31

I'm sorry but your boyfriend is being ridiculous. Why in earth would you pay for boarding for 2 dogs when yours is quite happy with your mum? If he no longer has someone to look after his dog he needs to arrange boarding. I imagine he thinks if he keeps pushing it your mum will relent and have them both which sounds like it would be really unfair to her. I'd honestly just tell him to book a kennel and stop being an idiot.

Timeforachangeisitnot · 21/03/2023 20:24

How are the dogs together and how long until the proposed holiday?
If the dogs get on well together, can settle and sleep in close proximity, then I would tend to kennel them together. But if there is any tension I would avoid that at all costs.
Either way, your boyfriend is being ridiculous and anthropomorphising ; it’s not about his feelings, it’s about what’s best for each dog.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 21/03/2023 21:34

As far as I can see, you have four options:

1 - your dog goes to your mums as normal, and your boyfriend arranges separate care for his dog.

2 - they both go to kennels

3 - you find a home boarder and send them both there.

4 - you hire a dog sitter and both dogs can stay in their own home environment.

BabychamGlass · 21/03/2023 21:37

He's being ridiculous, they are dogs not step siblings. His dog is not going to be pawing away a silent tear every night, thinking of your dog living it up at at her grannies.

And I say that as the owner of two dogs who I adore!

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