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What breed if any?

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Findyourneutralspace · 22/01/2023 12:02

My (young adult) DS wants us to get a dog. I can see how good it would be for him. Among other things, he had ADHD and needs to get out for a good bit of exercise every day. He also struggles a bit with friendships.
But….
I work full time, about 50/50 from home. When I work away, I’m gone from 10 till about 5. There is scope to pop home at lunchtime, but it’s not massively convenient. DS doesn’t work at the moment and likely won’t for a while, but in the lifespan of a dog, he will at some point start work and possibly move to his own place.
We also have a cat, which makes a lot of breeds unsuitable.

I’m going round in circles looking at different breeds that could manage being left for a few hours and might get along with (or just not try and eat) the cat.

Suggestions? Or do I accept that it’s not that feasible at the moment? While DS is home he has the time and energy for most things - and would thrive off it- but I don’t want to be short sighted and end up like one of those lockdown owners.

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Newpeep · 26/01/2023 14:17

If you want small consider a terrier. They are really under rated as pets.

They're smart, really trainable, cuddly, independent, hardy and really fun little dogs.

You do need to choose carefully. Terriers are still inherently working dogs but most don’t have the drive now unless they are from long lines of working stock.

Some are more terrier than others. Borders, cairns and westies are biddable great little dogs. Jack Russells can be but you’d need to make sure they have been bred for sound temperament.

I have a border terrier from a very good breeder. Mum is a lovely calm, friendly pet. Dad is a show dog. She’s cuddly, affectionate, fun, loves learning and is excelling at Dog School compared to a lot of other, more traditionally people orientated breeds. She’s growing every day in confidence and is a pleasure to take out (albeit at 5 months is still very puppy).

She is bouncy around our cat but it’s all play. Her relatives lived happily with the breeders cat and chickens! So we’re hoping when she’s less Puppy she’ll be less irritating. Our cat doesn’t care but we mostly keep them separate.

Grooming she’s not all that hairy but she’s likely to need hand stripping once every 9 months or so. She doesn’t really shed much.

Our last dog was a terrier sight hound cross. Again really trainable, lived with cats with zero issues and got to grade 5 in agility. She was a rescue we adopted at 6 months old.

Ive got a lot of experience of multiple breeds through my volunteer role of agility trainer. I know I could not live with a working gun dog personally. They need so much to keep them genuinely happy. They are busy busy dogs. They’re a disaster in the wrong home.

Anything with poodle in it is a real gamble. Can be great can be neurotic and really hard work. Pure poodles are lovely. I’d love a mini poodle as they are wonderful. But husband has a thing about them.

Agood idea would be to visit Discover Dogs at Crufts. Speak to breed enthusiasts and meet the dogs.

Ricco12 · 26/01/2023 17:12

Pug ... my sisters loves her cats

What breed if any?
Ricco12 · 26/01/2023 17:13

Also try pug rescue all of hers have come from there and they love the cats

WineThief · 26/01/2023 21:40

Golden retriever all day long!
We got ours a year ago - first dog - and needing to be good with cats was our priority.
The cat (older boy) loves him, and he is very respectful of/intimidated by the cat 😄

A calm dog, so loving, enjoys water, loves a big cuddle session, but definitely needs a couple of walks a day now that he's an adult. 1 X 30 mins, plus 1 X 60 mins is good.

Yes, they shed. But a quick run around with the cordless every day keeps on top of it (hard floors help!).

Good luck!

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 26/01/2023 23:49

Findyourneutralspace · 25/01/2023 18:24

That is so sweet @Idratherbepaddleboarding (love your username) . I haven’t mentioned it here but I have another DS who is autistic and a gentle friend would be very sweet for him too.

I’m still very torn on commitment. I think I’ll see what the next six months brings, but it sounds like a lab or GR could be a good fit. And not curly 🤣

Yes-Labradors can be very empathetic and very loving.

Ours was lovely with a grieving friend (not usually a dog person) - he just sat beside her and leaned gently against her when she wept. She said afterward how comforted she had felt.

He also befriended a friend's autistic daughter- her mother was very wary but watched in astonishment as the girl first played with and then laid her head on our dog. The two of them relaxed in the middle of what was usually a stressful social occasion for the little girl.

stevalnamechanger · 26/01/2023 23:59

samsam123 · 22/01/2023 20:09

please just find a rescue dog

You say it like that's easy .

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 27/01/2023 19:20

Labs and retrievers are big dogs imo.

We got a terrier cross and have a similar set up although dd is younger (teen). He's been a great little dog, easy to train, portable, fantastic company and character. We have a cat and there's never been an issue, we got him at 8 weeks old.

losingit31 · 28/01/2023 12:22

What about a dog from here? www.oldies.org.uk/

They will rehome with cats where possible and you give a dog a much needed home for the time it has left. I know someone who has had two dogs from there (first was PTS after many happy years with them).

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