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Grieving over loss of elderly dog

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Catttt · 31/12/2022 17:43

Yesterday we had to have our much loved 14 year old pug put to sleep. She had been so healthy up until March of this year, never any issues and only saw the vet for vaccinations.
In march she had a funny turn, vets discovered she had an enlarged heart. They weren’t sure she would make it, but she responded well to her tablets!
Fast forward to this month, slowly going off her food, drinking so much water and weeing constantly, sleeping all the time. Then yesterday she wouldn’t eat at all, couldn’t really stand and just seemed so sad. The vets did tests and said her heart wasn’t beating as it should, and she could also see a mass on her liver so suspected cancer. It was agreed that she was deteriorating fast so it was kindest to let her go.
The vets were beyond kind. Her favourite nurse came and spoke to me and chatted about our little pug, and then when it was time I was given time to say goodbye and the vet came in with chocolates for our little dog as she was finally allowed them! I then held her while she peacefully slipped away. She looked like she just fell asleep.
She had a fantastic long life. She was so very loved by us and our other dogs. We took her on holidays, she even made it to the cairngorms in sept and loved it!), and I cuddled her every night.
So why is the guilt eating me up? I feel like I should have done more, maybe looked into different meds, paid for more scans. I feel bad that when she passed I was holding her but not looking into her eyes , more holding her to me.
I’m not sure what I’m looking for as I know the vets were right, and I’ve said goodbye to so many dogs over the years. I just feel so sad that such a big part of my life is now gone.

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RandomMess · 31/12/2022 17:47
Flowers

It's so painful but you did the responsible thing, saved her from endless vet visits and invasive procedures. She didn't have deteriorate and soil herself and her be stressed and anxious.

What an amazing life she has. Far better a week to early than an hour too late.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 31/12/2022 17:52

As the saying goes, better a month too early than a day too late.

She is fine but I understand your heartbreak. FlowersFlowersFlowers

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 31/12/2022 17:52

I lost mine at a similar age, two years ago. He is still constantly in our thoughts and barely a day goes by without my husband or me saying 'Doggie would have liked this' or 'Do you remember when Doggie did this?' It does get easier and you reach a stage where the memories bring you pleasure not sorrow, but this does take time. From everything you say, it was the right time for your pug to go and she had a peaceful ending in your arms, which is the best we can hope for for our beloved companions Flowers

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 04/01/2023 01:31

Op I share your pain ... and the guilt. Flowers

My lovely Lab was PTS yesterday. He was only 10 but had terrible arthritis in his front shoulders and then suddenly lost use of his back legs.

He was in pain and it was the right thing to let him go... but I miss him so - and also feel guilty (about not acting soon enough or not arranging his life so this didn't happen to him etc.). I think it is a stage of grief.

A good friend (another dog owner) reminded me of the hope that one day I will again be thinking of the funny - lovely times this wonderful dog and I had together and the pain of his loss will be further away. May this happen for you.

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