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Saying goodbye to my girl

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milawops · 12/11/2022 17:53

I have to take my 7 year old girl in to be PTS on Tuesday. She has cancer. They can't operate. The vet says she's got 6 months maximum but if the tumour grows more and ruptures her blood vessel she could go anytime. She's on painkillers at the moment. I know I have to let her go. I know it's best before she starts feeling pain but I don't want to. The selfish part of me wants to cancel the appointment and keep her with me as long as I can. I know that's not best for her but I honestly don't know how I'm going to walk through that door knowing I have to walk back out without her.

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Glenthebattleostrich · 12/11/2022 17:56

I'm so sorry. The worst part of having a pet is letting them go.

PritiPatelsMaker · 12/11/2022 17:58

Oh I'm so sorry mila.

Would cancelling the appointment and asking the vet to come out to you help in anyway?

doodleygirl · 12/11/2022 17:58

Im so, so sorry, it’s such a hard decision and It hurts so much. We lost our girl October 11th and we had a vet come to the house. It meant she didn’t have to go to the vets and we were all with her. Are you able to do this?

Which ever way you choose please believe me this is the greatest act of love you can do for your beautiful girl. Sending you lots of strength ❤️

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milawops · 12/11/2022 18:02

I did think about doing it at home but selfishly I can't stand the thought of seeing where she died everyday. My dad offered to come round and take her but I can't palm this off onto someone else. She's my responsibility. People tell you that pets break your heart but I never understood how hard it is until I had to face it myself.
@doodleygirl I'm so sorry for your loss

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Overrunwithlego · 12/11/2022 18:12

So sorry to hear this. We have a 9 month of puppy (our first ever dog) and already dreading this moment. Objectively it must be for the best though - presumably a rupture could be painful if it happens? So deep breath and a hand hold.

Buildingthefuture · 12/11/2022 18:14

Having done this so many times, and being heartbroken every time, my advice would be to do it at home. She knows it, it’s her safe space, it’s where she is happiest. For me, yes it’s truly awful, but it’s the last thing I can do for them. And I never think of it as where they died…it’s where they lived, with me, and brought so much joy. I’m so sorry xxx

ErrolTheDragon · 12/11/2022 18:14

Flowers I'm so sorry, it is tough but you're right you need to do it.

Is someone, maybe your dad, going with you to the vet?

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milawops · 12/11/2022 18:14

Overrunwithlego · 12/11/2022 18:12

So sorry to hear this. We have a 9 month of puppy (our first ever dog) and already dreading this moment. Objectively it must be for the best though - presumably a rupture could be painful if it happens? So deep breath and a hand hold.

Oh yes its absolutely the right thing to do for her. It's just ripping me apart. I wish you many happy years with your pup. As painful as this is I wouldn't give up a second of the time I had with my girl even if it meant not having to go through this.

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Spanielsarepainless · 12/11/2022 18:16

My first dog was PTS at home, on his bed with me holding him. I got comfort from seeing the place we had ended our earthly journey together. Due to Covid dog number 2 was PTS in the back of my car and it still feels odd that he couldn't be at home.

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milawops · 12/11/2022 18:18

ErrolTheDragon · 12/11/2022 18:14

Flowers I'm so sorry, it is tough but you're right you need to do it.

Is someone, maybe your dad, going with you to the vet?

No I'm going alone. That's my choice. I sort of feel like I brought home on my own so we should do the last journey just the two of us. Plus I know I'm going to sit in the car and bawl my eyes out after it's done and I want to be alone for that.

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ErrolTheDragon · 12/11/2022 18:19

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to whether you take her to the vet or have them come out. We had to have our dear old boy PTS this summer - he liked the vets, never minded going there. I'm not sure but I think he'd have been quite discombobulated if the vet had come to our house.

Overrunwithlego · 12/11/2022 18:20

Thank you Mila. Best wishes for you and your girl.

c24680 · 12/11/2022 18:20

We had to put our 10 year old Labrador to sleep in May, we haven't gotten over her not being with us still as she was a massive part of the family but we have taken comfort in knowing we didn't let her suffer and did what was best for her and not us.

I know what you have to do is hard but it is for the best, sending lots of love.

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milawops · 12/11/2022 18:21

@ErrolTheDragon oddly mine likes goiing as well. Probably because she always gets a treat from the receptionist.

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Oasis1975 · 12/11/2022 18:36

Take lots of photos and have lots of cuddles - I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but she is lucky dog to have an owner who loves her so much and has her best interests at heart. Take care of your self too

Sunflowers765 · 13/11/2022 07:45

OP I'm so sorry. It's utterly heartbreaking but it is the last gift we can give to make sure they don't suffer. I lost my girl in May quite suddenly. When she was a tiny pup I promised her I'd be there at the end for her, and it gives me comfort that i kept that promise. She was PTS at the vets in my arms eating her favourite treats. It was very peaceful and I felt her slip away. I'm so glad I was there for her. The grief is awful but those last minutes with her are precious and will stay with me always.

PritiPatelsMaker · 13/11/2022 20:32

If she likes the vets and it gives you the chance to cry in the car then going there sounds like the right choice for you.

Hope you've managed to spend some time with her in the sunshine this weekend Flowers

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milawops · 15/11/2022 16:57

She's gone. It's was as awful for me as I was expecting but it was calm for her. She fell asleep on my lap. Which for a 6 stone dog is no mean feat and I held her and told her how much we all loved her until she was gone. Walking out of the vet carrying her collar was the most heartbreaking experience of my life.
Thank you all for your kind wishes. I hate to think of anyone going through what I have today but knowing some of you have has made me feel a little less alone so thank you all x

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Anono2022 · 15/11/2022 18:19

I was faced with this today. I couldn't do it. Part of me was hoping the Vet was going to say something was wrong to help me make the decision. She didn't. Mine in old and his body is giving up on him and his QofL is deteriorating.
I thought I was prepared. I wasn't. When I was given the choice of today or return to do it another day I couldn't see through my tears. I must have looked a state walking through the vets after but in that moment I was very aware I was alone and I could not comprehend leaving there without him today. I just need a bit more time to process it, to help my son understand and to spoil our boy for the little time he has left.
But now I know our time together is limited I'm utterly heartbroken

Overrunwithlego · 17/11/2022 06:45

I’m sorry Mila and Anono. I hope you are both doing OK.

Iamanunsafebuilding · 23/11/2022 13:09

My old boy has just had a diagnosis of Lymphoma which has spread to his spleen. He's 13 and I'm not putting him through chemo, the vet mentioned steroids as palliative care but we haven't made any decisions yet. He's well in himself so there's no immediate need to PTS but the day won't be too far in the future now.

I was expecting the diagnosis but I can't stop bloody crying!

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