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Should I Give away puppy?

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 07:13

Don't just jump,
We had 2 dogs, older dogs so very calm laid back but they very much like to do their own thing, lounge about, go for walks when they can be bothered, not interested in playing much (their not old dogs but their both around age 5)... we have 3DC, 2 with SEN and they was desperate for a dog to play with, take for walks and just interact with. So one came up and she was absolutely beautiful and great back ground brought up with children etc so we decided to get her

Where she was brought up she had full run of a massive farm house and grounds, so she basically dug an chewed everything (e got sent videos a lot an this is alls she did) now whilst it's cute watching her dig sn the kids join in.... she has chewed my house to shreds, she cannot be left unattended for a second. Literally chewed threw a draw in 5mins the other day and nothing literally nothing stops her

She is going on to 6 months and we still can't control it, we found out I was pregnant also so be a baby here soon so more chaos.
I don't just want to get rid of her as we absolutely love her and she is such a dream when she has you 1:1 but this isn't always possible !
my parents have said they will have her (they love her also! but both retired, my dad is experienced in training dogs and they can give her ALL their attention and I think this is what she needs and they have a younger dog who likes to play so she will also have another dog as my older 2 aren't keen on her and have snapped

What do I do for the best as I don't want to let her go but I feel selfish for not giving her the full 1:1 she wants?
So I keep trying or let my parents have her ?

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Isaidnoalready · 29/09/2022 07:14

Let her go even if it's for training you can't bring a baby into this mess

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 07:15

Isaidnoalready · 29/09/2022 07:14

Let her go even if it's for training you can't bring a baby into this mess

I agree. It isn't fair on her as if I need to go out washing away for example she has to go into a pen so I know she can't chew...

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Hellocatshome · 29/09/2022 07:15

You got a puppy that you knew chewed everything and now you dont want it cos it chews everything?

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 07:17

Hellocatshome · 29/09/2022 07:15

You got a puppy that you knew chewed everything and now you dont want it cos it chews everything?

On the videos she was digging an sometimes chewed whatever was in the garden.
This does usually stop but she just isnt no matter what we do

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 07:17

Hellocatshome · 29/09/2022 07:15

You got a puppy that you knew chewed everything and now you dont want it cos it chews everything?

Also never said I don't want her because I do hence 6 months in an still doing the battle

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NoSquirrels · 29/09/2022 07:19

Your dad wants her, and will train her. She’ll still be in your family. Do that. Why wouldn’t you?

tuttifruit · 29/09/2022 07:24

If your parents are truly happy to have the dog then that sounds like the best option for everyone. Just make sure you learn from this and don't get another puppy again hoping it will be different next time!!

Runningintolife · 29/09/2022 07:27

Win win, go for it

bloodywhitecat · 29/09/2022 07:30

What training have you done with her?

Hellocatshome · 29/09/2022 07:37

XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 07:17

Also never said I don't want her because I do hence 6 months in an still doing the battle

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What training have you done, what methods have you tried? I think giving to your Dad sounds like the best option but if we know what you have tried that hasnt worked we may be able to five advice on what will. Also what breed is she?

youlooklikeapenis · 29/09/2022 07:38

I usually stick up for people trying to make the best of situations on here, but this is ridiculous. Your TWO other dogs weren't enough so you got a puppy and have 3 kids and are pregnant!?! The fuck were you thinking?
And what do you mean they're 5 years old and can't be bothered going for walks or playing? Sounds like no one bothers with them.

Give the puppy to your parents and focus on the dogs you have.

BarrelOfOtters · 29/09/2022 07:39

Sounds like perfect solution for everyone.

America12 · 29/09/2022 07:47

Give it away and don't get another one.

Ylvamoon · 29/09/2022 09:39

What breed?

tabulahrasa · 29/09/2022 09:58

I mean, if you can’t cope with her you can’t cope with her.

But... a 6 month old puppy chewing and digging when you’re not paying attention is just what they do.

TaylorsSecond · 29/09/2022 10:01

Rehome and dont feel guilty at all . You are doing the right thing

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 12:28

Thanks for everyone who hasn't been to harsh, why not have dogs their a big big part of the family
My older 2 dogs have tons of attention and are well trained, they just prefer to walk at our holiday home as they go the beach and into the sea, their not as keen at home due to it been near a main road an they can't run as free so they usually pull to go back home

Iv tried sprays etc and just basic training and telling her no then moving her away and Iv had every chew toy imaginable that may help but she just guns for shoes and things she knows she shouldn't chew ?

Didn't know I was pregnant when we got her so has obviously changed circumstances but is irrelevant really as she's still our dog just don't know what to do anymore, will it eventually stop if we carry on with her? She is a dream otherwise she listens and can do tricks etc

But my parents said they wanted her when we did so it is a win win and she's still in our family I guess !

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alloutoflunchideas · 29/09/2022 12:47

Give her to your parents and don’t get any more dogs

lessthanathirdofanacre · 29/09/2022 16:17

In this situation it sounds as though you have a solution that will work for everyone which is fortunate for all involved (especially the puppy). But in general rehoming a puppy for behaving like a puppy is wrong and irresponsible IMO. A dog should be a lifetime commitment, not something to get rid of when the novelty wears off.

I appreciate there are situations when rehoming a dog makes sense, e.g. if the dog displays genuinely aggressive behaviour or if the owners experience a serious change in circumstances. But I see over and over again on MN that people want to rehome their puppies/dogs (often during the tricky adolescent phase). And it is usually because they have not put in the time and effort to train them. But they receive validation from other MNers that it is a "brave" choice, that they shouldn't feel guilty, that they're doing the right thing, etc. I expect many people will disagree with my post, but I really can't stand the idea of giving up an animal you have made a commitment to simply because you decide it's no longer convenient. (That's a general "you," not directed at the OP in particular.)

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XYZ32 · 29/09/2022 16:54

lessthanathirdofanacre · 29/09/2022 16:17

In this situation it sounds as though you have a solution that will work for everyone which is fortunate for all involved (especially the puppy). But in general rehoming a puppy for behaving like a puppy is wrong and irresponsible IMO. A dog should be a lifetime commitment, not something to get rid of when the novelty wears off.

I appreciate there are situations when rehoming a dog makes sense, e.g. if the dog displays genuinely aggressive behaviour or if the owners experience a serious change in circumstances. But I see over and over again on MN that people want to rehome their puppies/dogs (often during the tricky adolescent phase). And it is usually because they have not put in the time and effort to train them. But they receive validation from other MNers that it is a "brave" choice, that they shouldn't feel guilty, that they're doing the right thing, etc. I expect many people will disagree with my post, but I really can't stand the idea of giving up an animal you have made a commitment to simply because you decide it's no longer convenient. (That's a general "you," not directed at the OP in particular.)

Since we have 2 other dogs an never had any issues I'd say we do have that commitment and we are not stupid as my other 2 are brilliant dogs, they are trained so well.
it's just the change in circumstances that has effected us more then anything and made us question things, ie husband at work and I'm feeding. I'd not be able to get up an sort the dog every 2 seconds, or if I need to sort the baby etc and she is showing no signs of stopping the chewing
plus we've had some very devastating news today about 1 of our DC with SEN that has made the choice more obvious as it really isn't fair on her and it is selfish of us to keep her when she would be better with my parents? We didn't get her to be irresponsible dog owners because that we are not! and I never predicted these 2 things happening, the news today has broke me as it is so we need to be practical and do what is best for her and we go my parents every other day with the dogs now as it is around the corner so it's not going to be a huge change IMO
But I do get peoples points, it was wreck less we got her an should of kept to the 2 dogs, just stupidly thought it wouldn't be like this as we've never experienced it before and we had a lot to offer a dog- ie nice house big garden an land. Lots of love in a family home and a holiday home so their always at the beach and things !
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ScattyHattie · 29/09/2022 17:13

I met a dog who was shared between the family and grandparents. Its the best option to re-home when you can't provide what is necessary especially while pup is still young and better now than leave it to see how get on and other harder to fix behavioural/training issues may have also crept in.

Seems ideal solution to re-home with parents and perhaps if are local the kids can still spend time and you can help them out in future when your have a little less on your plate and hopefully puppy has matured into a more manageable guest.

hennaoj · 30/09/2022 22:59

Does she have anything to chew that she's allowed to chew, i.e. toys and dog chews? I went through a pizzle stick a day when mine was a puppy. His chewing slowed down a lot at around 6 months too. I know you've tried sprays but have you tried bitter apple?

caringcarer · 30/09/2022 23:02

Let you Dad have her to train. Don't ever get any more pets. You have too much on your plate to attend to their needs. Puppies need so much attention and care.

HollyJollyXmas57 · 30/09/2022 23:10

Give her to your dad. She will have a better life.

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