DH and new puppy rant!

[Pugfostermum]

Just a vent really……..
So DH and I have a beautiful 11 week old puppy.
It’s in theory ‘our’ puppy, but I’m doing all the care, which is fine as I’m more into dogs and DH is at work all day. I’m not really working while pup settles in. All good.

However, the odd time DH should ‘watch’ him, if I’m in the shower, or popping out for an hour etc he doesn’t watch him…….. there are always wees and poos on the house, whereas on my watch they’re all in the garden.

This evening, in the space of a couple of minutes it took me to park my car and walk up the very small cul de sac, there was a poo in my bedroom, a poo in the hall, one that had been trodden on and smooshed into pup’s paws and a poo in the living room.

DH claimed he was ‘watching him’ while all this happened. Ffs………

No, I’m not having kids with him and no, he isn’t an abusive bastard.

He’s just really bloody annoying in that he CAN’T WATCH THE PUPPY!!!!!

Yep I feel your pain. Sounds like he's trying to do other things- do no other things, don't be on phone or whatever, just watch that puppy like a hawk!

He lays on his back looking at Twitter while pup sods off and does what he wants!

As puppies go, he’s actually pretty chilled, but you can’t just lie down and shut your eyes and then be surprised he’s weed, when you’ve literally just been told he’s due one!!!

Well he sounds lazy and it seems like (if this all happened in a few minutes) the puppy has gotten into the habit of pooing in the house when you’re not there.

If he’s not abusive and is generally a nice guy can’t you just say ‘Tim for Christ’s sake why are you saying you watched the dog? Are you suggesting you watched it shit everywhere and didn’t bother moving? Obviously you didn’t watch it.’

Does it not bother him cleaning up all the dog poo? Or would he rather sort all that than take the dog out to the garden?

Although I suppose it’s his evening he gives over to scrubbing dog poo/wee. Wouldn’t be for me but I guess if he’s happy to do it that’s his prerogative. Does get the dog into bad habits though.

You ain't got a puppy problem, you've got a partner problem. Bloody useless.

I’m assuming when you walked in to that you walked back out and told him to give you a call when it was all cleaned up?
Oh and ban pup from being upstairs unattended (or completely)

I now really want to know who cleared up the poo. Was it the op or was it her oh?
I remember when I was a kid and we had a puppy, if it did anything indoors my father would cover the offending poo, wee or vomit with a sheet of newspaper and wait for my mother to get home to clean it up. I seem to remember he did the same with children's accidents as well

Was the puppy your idea or his?

Is he trying to make a point of making you do all the work because it was your idea?

Welcome to the club op

My DH was a bloody terrible puppy Father,it just wasn’t his thing at all and he was actually quite jealous,(though he would never admit it) of the puppy taking up so much time.
Having said that,he did his share of the puppy care albeit begrudgingly and never allowed toilets in the house.
Almost 3 years on and of course,he absolutely loves her to bits but we won’t be getting another anytime soon!

He sounds as useful as my ex husband was with ours, hopeless doesn’t describe it. Is there any chance we could please see a pic of your gorgeous pup

I cleared up the poo as I didn’t want the other dog treading in it. DH took the pup out to the garden and dealt with the poo on his fur (which imo was the worse job - cold, windy and smelly!) poos were solid, so scoop with paper and wipe….

We’re in a small flat, so all rooms on one level…….

I’m not complaining today. 🙂 He’s at work while I’ve met friends for a sunny walk, then been chilling on the sofa for the last 3 hours while both dogs sleep……

Nothing like a bit of perspective!

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Oh for goodness sake! He’s absolutely beautiful ♥️❤️

Oh I hear you.

I went for the "if you don't put that fucking phone down now and watch this puppy with both of your eyes, it'll need surgically removing" approach

You have my sympathies! Our cherub is 7 months old now and we had some absolute humdingers of rows in the early days of no sleep, poos and wees everywhere, and the endless darkness of winter when the thought of walking him in torrential sleet and rain wasn't particularly appealing. We thought babies were hard - they're a breeze compared to puppies! It definitely gets easier - hang on in there

Ah I see. I guess if he doesn’t have to clean it all up then maybe it’s not much incentive to watch the puppy. Whereas because you scrub it out of the carpets you are more keen to make sure it doesn’t happen.

Your pup is absolutely stunning ❤️

@Kanaloa I picked it it up in a tissue and wiped the hard floor over.
DH went out into the cold and cleaned the poo off pup.
It’s the inattention I object to, not the (minimal) mess.

Right but I’d say it’s likely the attention is motivated by the mess. When we had our dog I watched her because I didn’t want to be cleaning up poo. If I thought someone else would do it I don’t know if my attentions would have been quite so thorough.

But regardless you say he’s a good guy, so just ask him why he wasn’t watching the dog. He can’t say he was watching it because then he would know it was pooing everywhere.

My pup only had accidents on DHs watch, I would be cooking and asked him to watch him and within minutes he wee'd indoors, I gave up asking and did it all myself. 9 week old new pup has arrived basically toilet trained, I am hoping it continues so I don't want to kill DH this time.

This is the reason that I'm glad I waited till I was separated before getting a dog. The combination of small puppy and sheer violent rage (against the partner) would have had me sent down for 15 years.