My dog died today

[BookNerdy]

I’m so so so sad. I knew it was coming, she was old and it’s her time. But I just can’t stop crying. So I lit a stupid candle for her, and it’s only a tea light so I thought it would last a few hours, but it’s still lit and I can’t bring myself to blow it out, but I’m so tired and my head hurts so I need to go to bed. I know, I’m being stupid, I’m just tired. And sad 😔

I'm sorry about your lovely dog. It's heartbreaking when we have to let them go. Do you want to tell us about her?

You're not being stupid in the slightest, it's totally natural.

Try to sleep if you can and go easy on yourself, crying is normal and feeling like shit is normal. In time it will get easier, just be gentle with yourself for a bit. Un-mumsnetty hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter that you were expecting it. It still comes as a shock. I love that you lit a little candle for her - it's a small source of comfort. Big hugs to you x

@FreakinFrankNFurter she was so lovely and soft. A big and scary looking dog, but so gentle with my kids. She was old and poorly, but she always smiled and was so happy and kind

And you can blow the candle out so you can go to bed. You can always light it again tomorrow when you think of her.

Try to sleep. Hot chocolate with a shot of brandy if you have them in might help relax you.

So sorry for your loss. You’re not being stupid at all.

I'm so sorry OP for you losing your lovely friend. Its sore, they are such loving, loyal companions. It must hurt very much, you don't need to be in a rush to do anything. Try to take comfort that you're not alone. 💐

@BookNerdy she sounds lovely. How old was she?

I'm so sorry. It really hurts. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but I promise you will get to a point where memories of your girl will bring smiles rather than tears

So sorry. She sounds wonderful

Lighting a candle for her is just lovely. I'm so sorry you have lost her, I know how hard it is. But it sounds like you loved her very much and she would have known this You will probably be very up and down for a while so take care of yourself and please accept a hug from this stranger

Thank you everyone. She was 12. She was a mixed breed so old for one and young for the other. But she had health issues so it was a surprise she lived as long as she did

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl

Ooh no. I'm so sorry. It's so difficult. ❤️ lots of love x

Am feeling for you. Been through this more times than I care to remember. It's horrible. ❤️

My dog is in hospital tonight and I miss his snuggly warmth.

My other dog’s ashes are by the side of my bed.

They take a piece of your heart with them.

So sorry to hear this. 💐 Be kind to yourself and take time to grieve. My dog died just over a month ago. Like yours, he was elderly and slowing down due to health issues. He’s left such a huge hole though.

Thanks everyone.

@JimWelshTheSecond I'm not sure that idea is going to help the op who's dog died nearly a year ago

It's what every dog owner dreads and it comes to us all. God knows I have gone through this so many times and it never ever gets easier. I ask myself why get another when you know what will happen, but they bring so much joy don't they ? Years of loyalty and fun and companionship. I always say the kindest thing we can do for them is to know when it is their time and do the right thing. I wish it could be done for people.

Bless you OP. Light your candle. It's a nice thing to do.