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I lost my boy today

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winter12345 · 08/01/2022 15:59

He was 13. I knew it would be coming. But it is horrendous. He was my everything, genuinely my best friend in the world, the only one who has never let me down.

I've got the guilt about not being a good enough owner (I have an 18 month old who takes up most of my time these days), and not being as good as he deserved. I could have let him go on a bit but the vet said I made the right choice not to bring him round from sedation. I expected bad news, but I didn't expect to come home without him.

I don't know what I hope to achieve by this. I miss him so much. He saved me. He was my absolute world, and I can't imagine a life without him Sad

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DropYourSword · 09/01/2022 01:00

It’s so hard. But you absolutely did the right thing. You didn’t let him suffer. He walked with dignity until his last day. You made the very toughest of calls with his best interests in mind. You were with him when he passed.
Unfortunately death is inevitable. We can all only hope we get a good death. And you have him the very best he could have. You were both very lucky to have each other. I’m so sorry for your loss.

toomuchlaundry · 09/01/2022 01:05

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers

SantaClausIsAtTheDoorMum · 09/01/2022 01:33

So sorry for your loss. He will be in Rainbow Bridge. They really are a part of a family Thanks

JugglingJanuary · 09/01/2022 01:44

I'm so very sorry, it's heart breaking losing a pet, but one that's been there for you & with you through hard times is especially difficult.

It was the right thing to do for him though, he was already peaceful & sedated & didn't go through painful treatment. It's always too soon, we're never ready to say good bye.

He'll have a bundle of great mates over the bridge while he waits for you and plenty if dig mad people to spoil him too xx

GenialHarryGr0ut · 09/01/2022 17:51

I'm so sorry OP.

They really do break your heart every time. DH and I have owned dogs for 30 years and every time one dies we say 'no more' - the fact we currently have 2 beautiful dogs will tell you how good we are at sticking to this

However, we're facing this with one of the GroutPups - probably weeks left rather than months. He has good days and bad days and my greatest fear is leaving things too long. At the moment the good days outnumber the bad days.

CurryLover55 · 09/01/2022 18:21

So sorry OP. I used to work in a vets surgery & people would apologise for getting upset when their dog had to be put to sleep. I would tell them never to apologise because your dog is a family member & it’s incredibly painful when they go. Our beautiful rough collie died 30 years ago but I still shed a tear when I see a dog like him. There was one very near to where we used to walk our boy & he looked so similar, I wanted to throw my arms round him & give him the biggest cuddle. Be kind to yourself 💐💐💐

Ohisitreally · 09/01/2022 18:27

Am so sorry 😞. He was a very lucky boy to have you as his Mum and you have made the right and kindest decision for him 💙
It will get easier and there is a reason you feel so sad because we love our pets so much.🐾💕X

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winter12345 · 09/01/2022 18:31

I'm so sorry for anyone else on the verge of this. Give your pups an extra snuggle this evening from me.

We have two other dogs (bitches) but I don't have the same bond with them as I did my boy. I feel really mean saying that, but he was something else.

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KeepingAnOpenMind · 09/01/2022 18:58

I’m so sorry.
I lost my girl in august and it broke my heart. But it does get better and you will love again.
I’m starting to foster dogs now, putting that love to good use.

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 09/01/2022 20:16

I am so sorry. I can only reiterate what so many others have already said, your boy felt nothing but love from you, you obviously gave him a great life. You also allowed him, through your love for him, to have the best death possible, pain and anxiety free.

When we had to have our girl put to sleep, neary 13 years ago. I kept on telling her what a good girl she was, and how much I loved her, but the tears were just flowing down my face, which means that she will have felt confused and worried, and I still feel guilty that I put her through that at the end, but I couldn't stop them even though I really tried to.

Our boy has gone grey now on his muzzle and eyebrows, and he is getting stiffer, so I know that that time is approaching far too quickly again. But if they are lucky, dogs like yours and mine, are just as much a family member as everyone else, and yours obviously had a very happy life.

I'm so sorry that there is nothing I can say to stop your grief, but hopefully you have realised through what everyone here has said, that you have no need to feel any guilt, he won't have felt any less loved just because you now have a little one. I am thinking of you ❤

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