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Looking for a dog to suit a family but it's a minefield- where do I start?

67 replies

Abneyandteal19 · 20/12/2021 21:26

We have 3 DC 6, 4 and 2. We have been thinking about a dog for a while- the kids love them and don't seem scared etc. both had dogs growing up (bulldogs) and think we could offer a great home, I'm a SAHM, DH works from home, medium sized home with decent garden, semi rural and close to coast.
My first instinct was to get a rescue dog but this seems totally impossible with children? I've looked at as many as I can find.

I've tried to look at puppies in local area but you hear so many horror stories and we of course don't want to be part of any puppy farming or the like.

Can any recommend a) any particular breeds and b) steps to go about this.

Thank you! Smile

OP posts:
Dizzywizz · 21/12/2021 10:42

Contact your council and ask for a list of dog breeders - we found our shih tzu boy like this after a near miss with pets4homes (things had changed since we last bought a dog 14 years ago)

icedcoffees · 21/12/2021 10:57

@Dizzywizz

Contact your council and ask for a list of dog breeders - we found our shih tzu boy like this after a near miss with pets4homes (things had changed since we last bought a dog 14 years ago)
It's worth noting that puppy farms are often council licensed. All a license means is that you breed more than a certain number litters of year - it's no guarantee of a good breeder or healthy puppies.
GuyFawkesDay · 21/12/2021 11:08

Honestly, ours came from someone we know via work. But we waiting til kids were older as my god, puppies are hard work! Amazing, rewarding but it's basically like having a very bitey furry toddler intent on destroying your house and clothes 🤣🤣🤣

lastqueenofscotland · 21/12/2021 12:07

I also agree a puppy and a two year old sounds awful!!
Definitely not a collie if you don’t want to be doing loads of walking and not around very small children either

I like cavs but they sadly come with a lot of problems so would need a very carefully selected breeder but I’ve never met one that doesn’t have a gorgeous temperament.

Instead of poodle crosses what about an actual poodle? Again lovely dogs.

Dragongirl10 · 21/12/2021 12:29

op if you can only manage one decent walk a day you need a fairly low energy breed.
a show cocker spaniel is very gentle, trainable and a good family dog, do not confuse with a working cocker as they are VERY high energy and need to be busy all the time...labs are great too.
Please only get a puppy from the kennel club breeders website, (approved breeders)you will have to wait a bit but it will ensure you avoid puppy farms, don't buy from a website however authentic it may look.

cjpark · 21/12/2021 17:21

Wait two years until your youngest is in school. Puppies are bitey little buggers and need supervision and repetitive training. Maybe walk rescue dogs for the time being whilst you get on a breeder list for the right pup to come up

Whitney168 · 21/12/2021 18:34

Buying puppies is an absolute minefield, OP, so when you do decide the time is right (and I'd be inclined to agree your children are a bit young yet, but finding a well-bred pup is often a long process), then the first thing to do is decide on your breed.

I have no issue with crossbreeds in themselves, as long as they have appropriate health tests and are well reared - but the fact remains that the vast majority are puppy farmed and a fancy website talking about how well they do things is certainly no reflection of reality.

It is not so clear cut nowadays, but I would still say that the best advice is to treat licensed breeders with extreme caution. I know many dog breeders, and it is true that more true hobby breeders do need to be licensed now, depending on their local regulations, but when you are coming from it cold I'd still say that on balance a licence is an alarm bell rather than a comfort. This is even more the case with some breeds like West Highland Whites, Miniature Schnauzers, Miniature Dachshunds, Pugs etc. which are very commercial.

When the time is right, if you are unsure of the right dog, 'Discover Dogs' either at Crufts (at the NEC in March) or in London is well worth a visit. You can meet the dogs in the flesh and talk to owners about how they are to live with.

When you have decided on a breed, don't look for a puppy ... look for a breeder. It is normal to be questioned extensively by responsible breeders - good breeders have lots of interest in their puppies, they can pick and choose the right homes.

Only then, when you've found the right breeder, should you look to put your name on a waiting list and wait for a puppy.

Stroopwaffle5000 · 01/01/2022 19:21

My kids were 7 and 9 when we got our puppy last year and I'm glad we waited. The nipping phase was difficult even with the kids being school age, l wouldnt leave them alone together because those puppy teeth are like needles. I definitely wouldn't have enjoyed the combination of a toddler and puppy. They are so boisterous and take up a lot of time and energy, I couldn't have coped with both!

OompaLumpaLabrador · 01/01/2022 20:59

Another vote for a Labrador. We have a gorgeous boy and he’s been a delight. Easy to train, fun to work ( he is gundog and agility trained) and so kind to everyone. He is super chilled at home and loves children. I was a little worried about exercise needs, but he is equally happy with a morning retrieving, a three hour hike or a half hour mooch on his lead. The downsides are that he is a terrible thief and eats what he finds ( which has resulted in several costly and stressful vet visits) and he is very, very strong. He’s been hard to lead train ( mostly our fault as he is country dog) and my ( older) kids would not be able to hold him unless on his long line (and we will overlook the incident in which he saw a cat and broke my septuagenarian mother’s thumb 😬)

Suerossi · 01/01/2022 21:09

Toddlers are heavy handed with pets, they think they are toys and are rough and climb all over them, I’ve seen that a lot, so I’d definitely not have a puppy until they are older. Puppies are also a big time investment and I doubt many parents with young children have that kind of time. When you do decide to proceed look at the Kennel Club website as they have a section on breeds and their characteristics

Hoppinggreen · 01/01/2022 22:39

If you do decide to consider rehoming from abroad maybe consider why most UK charities won’t rehome where there is a child under 8 but overseas ones do.
Clue - it’s not because UK Rescues are run by dog hoarders

ABCDEF1234 · 02/01/2022 08:18

We have collies and a toddler. They dogs were 1 when baby was born and from day 1 I cannot fault them. Yes mine will herd sheep but they have never shown even the slightest sign of herding my child - they are best friends together

DobbyTheHouseElk · 02/01/2022 08:25

@Wellington17

And St Giles rescue in Somerset rehomed my boy to me (at 12 weeks) when my little girl was 6 months.

He's a staffy cross lab and the most loving dog ever.

I wouldn’t recommend that rescue place at all. I had a long and complicated situation with them via a neighbour. They will literally rehome an animal to anyone. Regardless of how suitable the home is.

I wouldn’t go near them. Very dodgy practices.

islaviolent · 02/01/2022 09:31

A border terrier fan here .

Also going with a decent breeder won't necessarily mean a dog will be available immediately . I waited a year to get my dog . We went through a Kennel Club breeder who didn't charge ££££ . I'm so pleased I waited , she's the best little dog we could ask for .

Sorry if I'm repeating what someone else said Iv been up most of the night with a sick child

hennaoj · 02/01/2022 18:06

@StillMedusa

Collies are herding dogs..and herd by nipping at ankles... and they do have a tendency to try and herd small kids so I probably wouldn't go for a Collie! I woud suggest holding off until your youngest is older, but in the meantime get yourself to Discover Dogs..it's an absolutely lovely day out and you will have the opportunity to talk to literally hundreds of breed clubs. We went a few years ago, with only 'I want a decent but not massive size dog and like wolfy faces' and discovered a breed I'd never heard of. Went on breed club walks to really get to know the dogs, met several breeders, was absolutely grilled as to our suitability (I've had easier interviews!) and after a long wait , brought home our girl who is flat out snozing right now. Even with knowing her breed characteristics, it has been more difficult that we anticipated, and a huge learning curve and I wouldn't have wanted to train and walk miles in the rain with a toddler in tow!
Erm, not all collies are the same. Rough collies are great family pets and certainly do not herd by nipping!
GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 02/01/2022 18:08

Greyhound, rescue ones are readily available and generally really good natured. I have terriers but they can be unpredictable and I'd not be happy with a rescue with such small children

Didiplanthis · 04/01/2022 20:44

Firstly I 100 % agree with waiting till your youngest is school age at least. My 9 yr old is struggling with our current 4 month old puppies razor-sharp teeth ! Also be careful with Labs. Ours had very strong working lines and was actually a very difficult dog. We massively underestimated the effect of the worker in her. After 2 dog trainers gave up on her we found one that said forget she's a lab, start again as if she were a collie. It really helped but she was never a laid back family dog. We currently have a whippet who is just amazing. But seriously bonkers and super high energy, there is NOTHING lower than 6' she can't reach somehow. She quite literally runs up the walls to spin and bounce off them 🤣

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