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An incident yesterday. Make me feel better.

35 replies

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 09:19

Please be gentle Sad

I have a 3 year old Bichon. He’s as stubborn as a mule. He has been to puppy classes, adolescent training classes and intermittent refresher training classes we do a few times per year as well as training at home.

He has recall but can sometimes be distracted so I’m very wary of where he is let off lead.

At the back of our home is a huge grassy area which leads in to woodland. It is frequented by dog walkers but I only take him when he is only likely to come in to contact with one other dog whom he loves to play with and they get on great.

Yesterday afternoon, he was playing with said dog and I did not notice a man in the distance coming out of the woodland with his terrier.

My dog shot off in that direction and would not recall . He’s not vicious and just wanted to play with the other dog but I completely accept this is not acceptable. I ran over to get him but again , he would not recall as he was too distracted trying to engage the other dog in play. The other dog did not want to play .

Thus ensued a ridiculous scene of me trying to grab my dog around the man’s feet (dog was dodging me) on my hands and knees in the mud. I eventually had to ask the man if he would mind putting his dog on lead so I could manage to grab mine. I got him on lead and marched him away . At this point, man’s dog decided to play and started to approach my dog - but his dog did recall.

I apologised profusely but I was so embarrassed and stressed, I burst in to tears .

I scurried home covered in mud and shame and am furious at myself and DDoG. I still feel bad this morning.

Nobody was hurt , there was no aggression from any dog but I’m mortified . More so because there were other people about and I know I’ve been judged as a bad dog owner. I feel terrible as I try very hard to be a good dog owner Sad . I plan to keep Ddog on a permanent long line now.

Please tell me this has happened to someone else?

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Theunamedcat · 07/12/2021 09:22

Well he was super unhelpful wasn't he

I'm sorry that has happened to you long line is probably for the best for now

Indecisivelurcher · 07/12/2021 09:26

A dog I once had once ran across 2 fields to nip at the heels of a tractor. No idea why. I was heavily pregnant, had to climb through a hedge and plodge across ploughed fields, in November mud, to retrieve the idiot. The farmer laughed. I tell you this to make you feel better.

Honestly, no harm was done! Other chap was supremely unhelpful. Let's hope he has an idiot dog one day and isn't so smug!

actiongirl1978 · 07/12/2021 09:31

Was the man cross? If not, I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.

We live in the country and dogs always try to engage in play and then get bored if none is forthcoming. Labradors are particularly thick at reading the signs!

MissyB1 · 07/12/2021 09:32

Oh no been there done that! I feel your pain! Now when other dogs come over to mine and won’t go back to their owner I try to be helpful, I put mine on her lead and try to keep the other dog with me so the owner can get them. I don’t judge!

Cut yourself some slack, they are animals not robots.

RubyTuesday70 · 07/12/2021 09:36

In safety terms, you can't let him off a lead if he isn't reliable enough to come back to you so go back to the lead. Mine was nearly 2 when he ran off after a pheasant near a busy main road and honestly nearly gave me a heart attack. He was on a long line for a good year afterwards, until he twigged that I meant it and if he didn't come back, he was on it again.

Using a lead takes all the stress out of walking. And all the stress out of meeting unhelpful owners too Grin

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 09:38

The man wasn’t cross but I could tell he wasn’t happy either. His dog was getting a bit fed up of my dog and he was having to reassure it; that’s why I asked if he could put it on it’s lead to allow mine to be caught.

I just know it was one of those “control your dog” situations and I’m just mortified Sad

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Throwntothewolves · 07/12/2021 09:41

Don't beat yourself up about it, treat it as a learning experience and keep your dog on a long lead from now on, or hire a dog field to let him run safely without distraction or danger.
One of mine is unreliable with recall so I never let him off the lead in public areas, no matter how remote and quiet it seems to be. He loves to run, but that doesn't trump his or others safety.

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 09:41

Yes, he’s definitely going to be on a long line now. He can be stubborn but when he plays with the regular dog he does come back.

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MrsTimRiggins · 07/12/2021 09:47

Sounds like my little shithead dog, most of the time he’s an angel to recall… sometimes he’s a deaf speed dragon who heeds no man.
I’m not sure what matey with the other dog did wrong tbh. Long line is sensible for you and your little dog. No harm done, don’t beat yourself up!

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 10:18

We are due our walk at 11am to meet up with acquaintance and the regular dog. After yesterday’s performance I don’t know whether to brazen it out or arrive after they’ve left Blush .

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StrongLegs · 07/12/2021 10:19

Thank you for making the decision to put your dog on a long lead if he won't recall.

My son got a really nasty fright earlier this year when a neighbour lost control of her dog, and now ds has totally written-off dogs for good. He just knows the are not safe to approach and will not go near one (rightly so in my mind, after what happened.) A neigbour of ours also recently got knocked over by a friendly dog in the park and broke her back.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but I'm really glad that you see that it was a problem and are taking care to control your dog.

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 10:25

@StrongLegs I’m sorry to hear what happened to your son. For those very reasons, as much as I know my dog would highly unlikely be to hurt a child , he is never off lead near children. Ever. He’s a tiny soft little thing but he’s also an unpredictable animal.

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StrongLegs · 07/12/2021 10:30

@TheGoldenAbyss You are the perfect dog owner StarStarStar

BTW, I accidentally bought a totally savage hamster, that I can only handle wearing elbow length thick leather gloves. I think pet ownership can be more complicated than advertised sometimes.

vivainsomnia · 07/12/2021 12:33

It's a complete non event for me. It is totally normal to approach others in the woodlands where I live and dogs say hello.

Dogs who are reactive are normally in the lead and that would be more of an issue but I only very rarely see them in the forest.

I wouldn't have but an eyelid if your dog had ran to mine and wanted to play. If mine didn't want to play, I would have been happy you were trying to get yours.

no judgement from me at all in these circumstances.

MrsBobDylan · 07/12/2021 13:19

Both dogs were off lead and your dog wanted to play to stopped listening to you.

It is not that bad. At some point you stop cringing at the thought of kneeling in mud at a man's feet and find it funny.

If it makes you feel better, I had my little pug off lead in a new park when a child came into view. I completely over reacted and dived to the ground to get hold of his harness. I was covered in grass stains and earth and my husband and kids were doubled over with laughter.

It was only slightly less embarrassing than the time I jumped in after him into a pond which was only up to my knees.

My sister has had large rescue dogs for years and she can tell a few toe-curling stories of total dog shame.

Bebeschitt · 07/12/2021 14:41

I was taught to always end on a high. So if you have just spent 20 minutes chasing your dog over the moors/around the dog park/down the beach etc, get home and do something they know. Some "sit" "paw" "down". Just something positive for you both.
I recently had an awful experience with my fear reactive dog and 2 off lead "they're friendly's!"
It left me physically shaking but we carried on walking and she did some ace loose lead stuff. I was proud, she was relaxed.
Learn by it and move on.

pigsDOfly · 07/12/2021 14:57

I get very annoy with owners who let their dog leap all over me and my dog but and do nothing about it, but in your sort of situation OP I'm always ready to help get the unruly dog under control.

Dogs aren't robots and sometimes they can be a real pain. You did your best. The man was nasty to stand there, watch you struggling and doing nothing to help.

Put it out of your mind.

A long line is a good idea. Keep working on recall, you never know it might click with him one day. Hiring a field from time to time will give him some nice free runs.

ilovesushi · 07/12/2021 15:08

I feel your pain! My very bouncy teenage (in dog years!) lab generally has very good recall but I have had a couple of similar excruciating situations where she's spotted a dog in the far distance and decided she's off for a play. I tend to leave the lead attached to her collar now so I can grab it or step on it easily. Can you book out a field with another dog and dog owner to practice recall?

XiCi · 07/12/2021 15:12

Watch the 'Fenton' video on YouTube and cheer yourself up that it wasn't as bad as that Smile

Zandra123 · 07/12/2021 15:18

I too have a bichon, they have selective hearing and are definitely very stubborn, but I bet you couldn't be angry for long, those gorgeous eyes and bichon charm.

ilovesushi · 07/12/2021 15:45

Just googled Fenton. It is hilarious!

Floralnomad · 07/12/2021 15:50

It could be that the man didn’t put his dog straight onto his lead because his dog is aggressive on lead . My dog is very reactive on a lead but fine offlead unless he’s really harassed so in the situation you describe I’d have just made mine sit whilst you caught yours , not put him on a lead . I think you need to keep him on a line for now as it could just as easily have been an aggressive onlead dog that he ran up to .

villainousbroodmare · 07/12/2021 17:08

I once had a client come in with an absolute looper of a Great Dane. 80kg of drool and excitement. In for gastroenteritis.
She was dog-sitting him and I asked how it was going.
She told me that the previous day he'd wrestled away from her on the common, galloped over to a family who were having a picnic, hurtled straight through their food, grabbed a quiche and pissed on their baby.
Feel better?
Grin

TheGoldenAbyss · 07/12/2021 17:46

FEnton has made me feel so much better Grin

That poor man and his very naughty dog Grin

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Thatldo · 07/12/2021 18:17

Of course,everybody makes a fool of themselves at some point.specially if you have a puppy.we are all humans and fallible.when I read your story,I visualised you in the mud and ( please dont take this the wrong way)made me smile.have a glass of wine tonight and laugh at the ridiculous situation you were in.no dog was hurt,only one human had a mud bathGrin

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