Hi I'm just posting here for a bit of bolstering really.
I adopted a rescue 9 weeks ago. I've found it so hard and I wish I hadn't done it but I would never return him now . He is lovely
He freezes a lot on walks, this was getting better but yesterday he just freaked out completely and scarily when an off lead dog came up so was super nervous again today.
I have struggled a lot with being unable to leave him. I'm a single parent with a 14 year old son so I can leave him with him at weekends for errands. I had got the leaving up to an hour but I do need to get to 3-4 hours to visit family who I would usually see all the time and haven't been able to as much. I haven't practiced for a week and today I just went out and sat around the corner in my car expecting to get to an easy 45 mins and after ten mins he was worse than I'd ever seen him , really crying and throwing himself at the door and leaping at the window. He's never done more than the odd whine before and I've always come back quickly.
So this has scared me as now I think he will hurt himself if I did have to leave him.
I have to take my DS to an urgent GP appt on Fri for worsening asthma but I'm going to have to change it as I can't leave him doing that - hoping if I postpone the appt a week I can improve the leaving esp if I train late pm when the apt will be . But what a rubbish parent moving an urgent medical appt. I have no one at all to ask to sit with him. I asked a neighbour once but she thinks I'm nuts for not just going out ! I do book sitters for afternoons sometimes but they won't be available at that time . Plus it's fireworks night so I'm loathe to go out.
I'm just really miserable and feel more lonely and stressed than ever . I know it's early days but right now it's just so hard and I can't bear it. I think if it was just me I might send him back but DS adores him. When I have said I'm not sure I can do this he's got really upset about the idea of sending him back. As do I really, I'm just finding it hard, but I'm not sure I could really send him back now.
He also won't come in from the garden at night which is driving me demented. And now I'll have to put a lead on him for a week or so in case of a firework going off and spooking him so I'll have to stand out there freezing !
Sorry for the moan. Thought there might be some on here who had been through this journey and had a happy ending . I thought I had done my research but I don't think I understood what a massive thing adopting a rescue would be. It's also affecting my work with all the separation training 
I did contact a trainer a while back who gave me helpful advice for free so I was thinking about booking him. He did say it was so early days. But it's £100 and I'm already spending so much on sitters. But maybe some obedience training would help? I just don't know what I'm doing !