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If you're worried about your pet's health, please speak to a vet or qualified professional.

How do you know when the time has come? 🥲

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WouldBeGood · 22/08/2021 21:52

Just that really

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Tanfastic · 22/08/2021 22:57

Sorry don't know why I said good luck.

WouldBeGood · 22/08/2021 22:57

That’s fine @Tanfastic, I’m so grateful for all these posts.

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WouldBeGood · 22/08/2021 22:58

And I know what you meant!

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FlowerArranger · 22/08/2021 23:07

@WouldBeGood - sadly I know how hard this is...

Just remember: dogs have no sense of the future. They do not have a bucket list of things to do before they go. Do it if your gut tells you it's time. Then deal with your pain.

It's what we sign up for when we decide to adopt a pet. It's our responsibility. When the time comes it is us who have to make that decision.

It never gets any easier. However many canine or feline companions we share our lives with, it is always so, so hard. I am crying now as I remember them, all of them.

WouldBeGood · 22/08/2021 23:10

@FlowerArranger 💐

They’re just so lovely. It’s hard,

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pumpkinpie01 · 22/08/2021 23:17

Ah my heart goes out to you op, it's heartbreaking , they are such a part of the family. Our dog was pts in the first lockdown , we were the opposite though - we found out at 1pm she had cancer and she was pts at 4 , she only showed signs that morning she wasn't well. We had no choice and no time the vet said her lungs were filling up with fluid and she would have collapsed and died within a couple of days. Although obviously it was a hell of a shock for us and utterly heartbreaking we didn't have weeks to think about it or watch her deteriorate and I do think that's worse . When you love someone you want them as long as possible , but go by your vets advice . Ask them what they would do if it was their dog . Big hugs x

FlowerArranger · 22/08/2021 23:26

[quote WouldBeGood]@FlowerArranger 💐

They’re just so lovely. It’s hard,[/quote]
It is. There's no sugar coating of how hard it is.

I know you'll do what's right.

Thinking of you and your girl FlowersFlowersFlowers

Cocolapew · 22/08/2021 23:30

My dog has been going downhill over the last few months. She has arthritis in her back legs and hips. She isn't able to go for a walk but likes to potter about the front garden and lie and watch the birds.
She wasn't eating very well but has rallyed, probably because she's getting chicken and sausages mixed in with dog food!
I have to help her up the stairs and I've said to DH as soon as she can't manage to get up at all or down by herself or looks in pain or isn't taking an interest in anything at all, it will be time, which I don't think is too far away.
Flowers for you and your DDog

WaitinginVain · 22/08/2021 23:31

@WouldBeGood I'm so sorry Flowers.
I've lost a lot of much loved boys, including one earlier this year. With one exception there was a clear cut moment and on that occasion our lovely vet confirmed what was best.
It's part of the love that we have for them that we will do what is right for them when the time comes. I think you will know.
They are all special and unique and you have given each other something precious and wonderful.

PinniGig · 23/08/2021 00:14

Sorry you're having to make this decision. It's the hardest, most painful thing and the only reason I never want to have a dog – knowing this day is gonna come and it will tear my heart out all over again.

It's such a personal thing, specific to each and every dog based on their quality of life, how much they are able to do what they have always done and found comfort from doing and it also depends on how you personally feel and where you are with it too.

For me the decision to call it with my dogs is always based on them, what's right for them and I know is in their best interests which sounds obvious but it's something I tend to do in an automatic, default hard-faced sort of way which can make me seem or come across as quite cold and hardfaced.

Many of us understandably feel a sense of reluctance and guilt / worry they don't have the right to decide, that their pets will let them know and nature will take its course etc but really, that's something we do to ease the burden somewhat. I get it - 100% I get it but I also feel personally this is the one time that our dogs need us more than they ever have.

Pets seldom have a natural peaceful death in their sleep the way most of us would like to think. They might die in the night whilst we sleep but for them the reality isn't necessarily so and if we can let them go peacefully, without any pain or distress, we should.

They have given us so much and ask so little in return but this one is the big one. They need us to do this for them and let them go peacefully which is one luxury and privilege we do have i.e. the ability to just let them go to sleep and not need to suffer.

This general quality of life assessment can be really helpful in just noting and thinking about what's right.

I am sorry you're in this situation and feel for you. It is the shittest, most painful and unfair thing in the world xx Sad

cloud9vets.co.uk/vet-services/quality-of-life-assessment/

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