Rehomjng dog- no judgment please

[squishyegg]

Hello.

We have a 1 year old miniature dachshund.

She is a bit of a nightmare and always has been but we dealt with it as much as possible.

We have paid for training but nothing seems to help.

Main areas are;

Constant barking
Nipping/biting faces
Peeing
Ripping up everything (furniture etc)

I recently had a baby and slowly been introducing them both with guidance from a professional.

Two times the dog had gone to nip the baby in the face. Luckily we've been there holding them both for it not to happen.

The dog is now living in the kitchen away from the baby and I in the lounge. Everytime we try to bring the dog in, she's hectic and tries to bite.

The barking is just annoying alongside the pee and as my partner is back at work 24/7 it's me having to deal with a baby breastfeeding, cleaning up after a dog and another child.

I just don't know what to do? The behaviourist came today and worked with her again and we are doing everything she has told us.

I don't want to rehome her as my partner and other child will be sad but the stress and anxiety it's causing is hell!

Any ideas?? We also are stretched to walk her two times a day, partner is too busy and I'm recovering from a bad c sec and sepsis. I said we could pay for a dog Walker but partner said no he will try to walk her but he hasn't so far.

Feel awful and I know I will get people bashing me for this but I'm just being honest and reaching out for help x

Tricky breed during lockdown with a young child, had another baby, lazy man who won’t walk the bored dog enough.
Ticks all the boxes really.
Rehome the dog OP, your son will get over it and everyone will be happier. Especially the dog

Ditto @Hoppinggreen

Dachshunds are the most stubborn breed of dog. I've had several of them.

She's going through adolescence at the moment and will settle but she needs a long walks to tire her out.

We had a chewer. He destroyed everything. Floors, walls, shoes, toys, pens, anything he could find he would destroy it. He had anxiety which we have worked on and at 6 he's fine now but it took years.

In the short term you should get a dog Walker or doggy day care if she's well socialised with other dogs.

This breed is a barky, disruptive and destructive dog who needs entertained, walked a lot and trained. Did you research the breed before you got her? Because this information always comes up.

No experience here but as someone who usually says you need to keep the dog I think in this instance it’s best if you rehome her

Confused that dp will pay for a home help but not dog Walker? Paying a dog walker to knacker her out is surely worth trying. You have a baby so you can’t do it at the moment.

My partner's mum (at our encouragement) got a mini dachshund a year ago and in hindsight, we were all incredibly naive about it. She wasn't her first dog but as pp have said, they're a tricky breed. Partner's mum's dog is clever, belligerent, stubborn and a massive pain in the arse. A month in my partner's mum had a fall and my partner moved in with her while she recuperated, so I was landed with raising the puppy. I actually found a lot of the information out there about mini dachshunds quite misleading. They need far more exercise than is generally recommended, and the breed tends to be aggressive which can be very difficult to manage. They're also one-person dogs - my partner's mum's dog has formed an extreme obsession with my partner which is endlessly irritating for everyone involved.

So I feel for you OP. Not easy. If I could go back in time I would do everything in my power to discourage partner's mum from getting her!

It really does sound like you don't have time for the dog. Breed tendencies are trainable but it takes time and effort you just don't have. Borrow my doggy isn't the solution, he needs focus and consistency.
I can totally see how, with a baby, that's not possible for you. If DH won't step up, I think rehoming is the best choice. Puppy is still young and has time to learn.

If you rehome your dog, make sure you lose your fucking useless husband too.

I’d go down the professional dog Walker , doggy daycare route first - as others have said dog just needs to be exercised / entertained and you don’t have time with a baby - it’s not fair on any of you and not going to work otherwise . Good luck .

@squishyegg 6 month old baby and a 1 year old dog here.

It has been VERY hard work. Many days I'wondered what on Earth we've done. Our dog is so boisterous and clumsy and I was petrified of putting them together in case he accidentally stepped on her or something. He has his space in the kitchen and my daughter has her space in the living room. We tried daily letting him in the living room but he'd steal her toys and destroy them, eat anything he could find... it was just a nightmare.

However, since we've started weaning and she spends time in the kitchen, he's been like a different dog! He comes over, has a sniff of her and then lays next to her high chair for anything she may drop

Since then, he comes into the living room and instantly lays down next to her.

It does get better.

Our dog walker takes the dog and keeps him at her house if needed. It costs me just under £20 for 6 hours of her having the dog. Very much worth it and he is exhausted when he comes home.