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Quick help needed. Advice

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:09

Have been at a bbq since 430. 1 ye old dog been in his crate. I came home at 8pm let him out for a wee etc and he is now eating his dinner.

Rest of family still at bbq 10 mins down the road,
Husband cross with me for puppy ruining social life.

Do I return pup to crate after dinner for a few hours. He normally sleeps in crate 11-8am

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Frenchfancy · 31/07/2021 20:11

Dogs should not be kept in cages. Take your dog back to the BBQ with you or spend time with your dog.

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:13

@Frenchfancy

Dogs should not be kept in cages. Take your dog back to the BBQ with you or spend time with your dog.
He is quite happy in crate he takes himself in there half the time
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ThreeB · 31/07/2021 20:13

Take him to the BBQ with you. You can't leave a puppy in a crate for 16 hours, that's obscene

AwkwardPaws27 · 31/07/2021 20:13

If he's happy in the crate, I probably would; maybe give him a Kong or tasty chew to encourage him to settle back down.
I wouldn't if he is distressed.

TokyoSushi · 31/07/2021 20:13

No you can't put him back in as it'll be bedtime when you get home, take him to the bbq or stay with him.

AwkwardPaws27 · 31/07/2021 20:14

I'd be prepared to get up earlier the following morning though!

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:15

@AwkwardPaws27

If he's happy in the crate, I probably would; maybe give him a Kong or tasty chew to encourage him to settle back down. I wouldn't if he is distressed.
He had a kong in crate earlier: It is no issue just wondering what other people do. Surely I can't be the only one who goes out in the evenings??
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AlmostSummer21 · 31/07/2021 20:16

Did your DH not want a dog?

Is there a reason DDog can't go back with you? If not I'd probably stay home with DDog, he sounds nicer than your DH.

But if you want to go back I'm sure DDog will be fine in his crate for another couple of hours, but I'd take him for a good walk before expecting him to go to sleep overnight.

thistimelastweek · 31/07/2021 20:16

Husband needs a quick lesson on the responsibilities of pet ownership.
They do impact on your life. And you have to accommodate their needs.

Sundancerintherain · 31/07/2021 20:17

How on earth did your DH think that a puppy / dog WOULDNT affect your family social life?
I would stay with the pup.
My dog is 7 and we would never , bar an utter emergency, leave him for longer than 4 hours. And he isnt crated.

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:18

@AlmostSummer21

Did your DH not want a dog?

Is there a reason DDog can't go back with you? If not I'd probably stay home with DDog, he sounds nicer than your DH.

But if you want to go back I'm sure DDog will be fine in his crate for another couple of hours, but I'd take him for a good walk before expecting him to go to sleep overnight.

He could go back, but it's hardly relaxing having him there. Garden not secure etc. It would be like entertaining a toddler.
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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:19

@Sundancerintherain

How on earth did your DH think that a puppy / dog WOULDNT affect your family social life? I would stay with the pup. My dog is 7 and we would never , bar an utter emergency, leave him for longer than 4 hours. And he isnt crated.
To be honest this is the first night it has been an issue. We were all having a lovely evening and I had to leave to see to dog
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KateTheEighth · 31/07/2021 20:20

I wouldn't leave my sleep loving 9 year old dog that long, let alone a 1 year old pup

Sundancerintherain · 31/07/2021 20:23

So in the future you need to send him to a dog sitter overnight if you are having a night out.
Ours loves his dog sitter, he goes maybe 3- 4 times a year.

Branster · 31/07/2021 20:23

Just take the dog to bbq and keep him on a lead. Yes a bit of a nuisance if you haven't fully embraced the restrictions a pet would bring into your life, but that's puppies for you. And it will be good for his socialising skills.
I have no idea about the crate situation as i never used one.

crazycatgal · 31/07/2021 20:26

Either take him to the BBQ or get a dog sitter.

I either take DDog with me (if suitable) or get a family member to watch him if i'm going out for an extended period of time.

spinningspaniels · 31/07/2021 20:29

That's horribly cruel.

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:34

@spinningspaniels

That's horribly cruel.
I'm at home with him. I haven't left him. Genuinely interested what other people do. We are now going h out more and more. I can't believe e people send dogs to sitters every time
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pingittypong · 31/07/2021 20:43

When ours was a puppy and crated we never left her more than 3 hours a day in it, and obv overnight 10pm-6am.
Now she's 2 she's out of her crate and has free roam of the house.
She'll be left 9-3 (so 6 hours) twice a week when I work. The dog walker takes her out for 2 hours though during that time, 30 mins to pick all the dogs up and drop them all home after and an hour walk.
Plus we have a cleaner here for 2 hours on one of the days, and my parents will pop in if they're passing.
If we are going out in an evening and she's been on her own in the day time when we've been at work then we will drop her with parents or a dog sitter.
If we've been home with her all day then we will leave her say 7-11pm, but no longer.
It's not fair to leave them for more than a few hours a day, and I've never leave them that long in a crate.

Xiaoxiong · 31/07/2021 20:43

If we went to a BBQ at 4.30pm I'd bring our dog on a lead, or go home at 8pm as you did.

If we went out for dinner at 7pm I'd be home no later than 10.30-11pm or so to take her out for a wee.

If we have to be out for a really long evening, we had a babysitter for the children who played with the dog and let her out into the garden.

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Munkeyface · 31/07/2021 20:46

@Xiaoxiong

If we went to a BBQ at 4.30pm I'd bring our dog on a lead, or go home at 8pm as you did.

If we went out for dinner at 7pm I'd be home no later than 10.30-11pm or so to take her out for a wee.

If we have to be out for a really long evening, we had a babysitter for the children who played with the dog and let her out into the garden.

Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. I have been made to feel a complete party pooper for returning to my third child 😂
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LadyCatStark · 31/07/2021 20:47

We do go out without our puppy of course we do but we would have either taken him and kept him on his lead with some chew toys and then taken him home to bed at 7ish (best option), gone to the BBQ from 4:30-7:30 max after he’d had a decent walk if we found the take him, or gone to the BBQ at 7pm onwards as he sleeps then anyway so we’d be less concerned about only leaving him for 3 hours maximum. Once we got home we’d make sure he was up for a bit before settling properly for the night.

Floralnomad · 31/07/2021 20:48

And this is why cages are bad , because people abuse them and I don’t care if the dog loves it’s cage and walks in on its own , it’s cruel to keep dogs in cages for hours a day .

magicstar1 · 31/07/2021 20:53

We go out for a couple of hours sometimes. But our dog is not left in a cage, she has the whole of downstairs to roam around.
I’d take the puppy back for an hour or two and keep him on a lead.

Xiaoxiong · 31/07/2021 20:53

Your DH needs to accept that a puppy will curtail your social life - you're not a party pooper, you're a responsible dog owner. If the hosts are ok with it, I'd bring your puppy back on a lead (then it doesn't matter if the garden isn't secure) - otherwise, that's you in for the night!

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