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If someone rehomes their dog would you judge them if they then got a puppy?

59 replies

Moongazingbare · 26/07/2021 11:41

Friend rescued a dog and kept it for a few years until they had children.
The mother decided she couldn’t cope with the dog and children so rehomed it.

Friend has now excitedly shared how they have bought a puppy.

Their situation hasn’t changed. They now have more children than before and have never had a puppy.

I’d love to be pleased for them but I’m just feeling very judgemental and quite disappointed in them really.

They both work and when I asked how they would train it and what they would do with it when they are at work, the answer was to use a crate.

OP posts:
Redact · 26/07/2021 13:55

Yes I would judge

TheBitterBoy · 26/07/2021 13:57

Yes I would judge them, just as I judged a distant family member for getting a kitten only a few years after getting rid of their older cat 'because of baby DS's allergies'

luckylavender · 26/07/2021 13:57

I would judge in the circumstances you describe. There may be different circumstances that I wouldn't judge.

Canigooutyet · 26/07/2021 14:06

Yup, I told the arsehole family member who did this what I thought of them. Constantly getting puppies and kittens, once they get older they are rehomed and replaced within days. Takes the puppies out once a day, then wonders why the poor sods start to chew the furniture, door frames etc. No children in the house and doesn't work so has plenty of time.

ilovesooty · 26/07/2021 14:15

I wouldn't be friends with them any longer and would tell them why.

GrumpyTerrier · 26/07/2021 14:19

Yes. I take my committment to my animals as seriously as to a child. People don't seem to realise how emotionally traumtatising it is for dogs to lose their homes. It scars them forever, no matter how nice the new home is. Mine have emotional troubles they will never get over, as a result of multiple rehomings before I got them.

There would have to be extremely extremely compelling reasons why it was better for the animal, before I rehomed.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 26/07/2021 14:24

I would def judge.

Please update the thread when she finds out puppies are exhausting, hard work and poop and cry and her DC don't help and she didn't realise how hard it would be and she doesn't have time/can't afford it and is re-homing it after the 10000 insta posts with cuddly pup

Jinxdoesit · 26/07/2021 14:34

I would definitely struggle to have much respect for them. I very reluctantly rehomed my dog to my parents. She was a rescue and despite years of training could be very unpredictable and snappy. This was fine when it was just me but when I fell pregnant I knew my DP was right when he sat me down and said we couldn't have her round a baby. My parents took her and said they never got their own dog because they always knew they would need to take her if I got pregnant. It's actually worked out great as my parents have retired so she always has them around and they have a huge big garden that she loves so she seems happier than she has ever been.
However I wouldn't feel right getting another dog now as although it was the right thing to do there is no way I would give my dog up and then turn around and get another!

Mantlemoose · 26/07/2021 15:11

I wouldn't be friends with people like this.

Roselilly36 · 26/07/2021 15:13

Yes I would. I expect this dog might ended up being rehomed too. I knew someone who followed a similar pattern. Never should have had a dog.

Gingerninja4 · 26/07/2021 16:08

In those yes not in all .

Was guilty of re homing a puppy

I foolishly got a puppy when my youngest ds was a toddler .2 weeks in I realised was not right time and yes went back to breeder

Was right thing as over time realised extent of ds4 disabilities and would not coped also marriage failed

Ff several years when youngest ds was 9 got a puppy again who is now nearly 8 years old .This time was in better position to cope ,do training walking etc also more clued up (did pre puppy training then puppy classes /dog training (gold award )

Should add no way give my boy up or even consider it despite some tough times in those 8 years

intothewoodss · 26/07/2021 16:35

[quote Moongazingbare]@intothewoodss I’m so sorry you had to rehome your dog.[/quote]
So am I. But ultimately he is happier now, so when I think of him I can smile and my conscience is clear.

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman · 26/07/2021 16:38

In this situation I would judge, yes.

But if (say) someone with young DC misguidedly got a high-drive puppy they couldn't cope with, realised this fairly promptly and rehomed it responsibly, and then 5 or 6 years later took on a puppy that they were much better able to cope with then, no, I wouldn't.

SupermanWithTheGreyHair · 26/07/2021 17:12

But if (say) someone with young DC misguidedly got a high-drive puppy they couldn't cope with, realised this fairly promptly and rehomed it responsibly, and then 5 or 6 years later took on a puppy that they were much better able to cope with then, no, I wouldn't.

I would. You don’t need to do much reading about what having a puppy is like to realise it’s full on hard work. Add a young child into that, again there’s plenty of information out there telling you it’s hard. If people really can’t work out that this combination is going to mean not much sleep, constant supervision, shit and piss everywhere (from puppy and child) etc...then I give up. How can they possibly have given it much thought and decided that it wasn’t going to be very tiring. That’s without adding any other parts of life in. So they either haven’t thought about it in which case 🤬 or they have thought about it, known it’s going to be difficult, done it anyway, and then when it is hard.... which they already knew it would be, they fuck the dog off. So no, I’ve no time for people like this. I’ve see it all too often.

ObviousNameChage · 26/07/2021 17:21

Yes . We've been there, and for various reasons OH had to rehome the dogs. I've learned how much work they are in many ways and I'm too lazy and selfish to offer them what they need(because it would be me ending up giving all the care, just like with previous dogs).So despite DD wanting a dog very ,very much it's not going to happen. I know my limitations and it wouldn't be fair on a dog to live with us.

Bellyups · 26/07/2021 17:22

Yes I’d judge

GreyhoundG1rl · 26/07/2021 17:22

Of course I would.

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 26/07/2021 17:23

Yes, very much so.

EL8888 · 26/07/2021 17:24

Massively. Ridiculous and selfish behaviour. Poor dogs

TheNewBlack · 26/07/2021 17:28

Judge them? Absolutely.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 26/07/2021 18:08

Absolutely! I have. No longer friends and told them why and how vile they are.

PollyRoulson · 26/07/2021 19:02

Trying to be an optimist. Would you be able to support them so that they can succeed this time?

Can you find them a good trainer and maybe babysit so they can go to training classes etc

Would you be able to find a trainer that can educate them on their options when they go out to work and give them dog sitters info etc

Or am I being an idiot in thinking it will make any difference?

DeathByWalkies · 26/07/2021 19:05

I'd massively judge them too

pigsDOfly · 26/07/2021 20:04

Yes, I would judge them.

Add to that their answer to you about training and work and that would be the end of the friendship.

Poor dog.

Creamcrackersandricecakes · 26/07/2021 20:21

People who thinks it's ok to lock young puppies in a cage for 8 hours should be forced to do it themselves and see how they like it. Arseholes.

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