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Can anyone talk me through the implications of choosing a female dog?

27 replies

opalescent · 13/06/2021 14:49

Thank you all. This is my first dog. My instinct is to choose a female, but I am aware that she will come into season a couple of times a year.

What will the reality of this be like? It is possible to prevent mess as much as possible? What other things might we need to think about?

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alwayswrighty · 13/06/2021 15:04

I had my bitch spayed after 1 season. It really wasn't that bad. More mopping and washing of her blankets.

GlutenFreeGingerCake · 13/06/2021 15:10

It's best to get them spayed if you aren't planning to breed as it prevents all these problems and things like uterine cancers.

WrongWrhododendron · 13/06/2021 15:13

Females ruin your lawn more, they are more expensive to spay and are prone to dribbling pee as they age which stinks but is easily treated with Ned

I've only had female dogs!

Floralnomad · 13/06/2021 15:18

I would always go for a boy , given a choice , as all the nicest natured dogs I know / have known have been boys .

InTheNightWeWillWish · 13/06/2021 15:21

Google the signs of a season, it’s helpful anyway so you don’t take them out at the wrong time, but you can spot the signs of a season before you get the blood. So you can prepare by putting some old towels down and restricting access to some areas. Most dogs will clean themselves and keep themselves very clean, so you might just see a few spots of the floor. Get them spayed if you aren’t breeding and it’ll stop the worrying about seasons and the health concerns for not spaying.

opalescent · 13/06/2021 15:31

Thank you all, that's really helpful 😊

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randomkey123 · 13/06/2021 15:37

I've got 2 spaniels.... boy aged 8 and girl aged 2. The boy is entire, as he never showed any sign of behavioural/humping issues and vet advised leaving him be. Which was completely the wrong thing to do, as he's had a lifetime of being targetted by other male dogs Sad. He's been attacked about 5 times, 3 times by another dog in the village that now has a behavioural order on it. If I had the time over, I'd have neutered him.
However, as he's entire, we had our girl done at 6 months and she bounced back in days. They don't have to have a season before spaying. She's also been much much easier to train and she's very chilled in comparison to our other who is always on guard and rarely relaxes.

LivingLaVidaCovid · 13/06/2021 15:41

We didn't mind I rescues a girl and my sister rescued a boy.

They both have their quirks- she pees when too excited, he initially peed randomly to boundary mark and now just generally needs to go out more than she does.

They are the same breed - Both are delightful but he is def higher energy!!!

Happyoldbat · 13/06/2021 15:43

You can get little sanitary belts for bitches in season. Pet shops sell pads to go with them, but a very thin stick on human liner cut in half works well and is cheaper. They definitely get pmt and then become rather wayward and full of themselves when they get into season properly and it is all a bit of a nuisance, though spaying obviously stops thisand puts them on a more even keel. Male dogs tend to bark more at other dogs. I have had male and female dogs, but couldn’t really generalise about which makes the better pet as they all had very different personalities, even within the same breed. Meeting the dog’s parents is useful to gauge how the puppy’s personality is likely to turn out. Friendly and laid back is good, nervous and barky will may mean a highly strung puppy.

hoochymamgu · 13/06/2021 15:44

Girl westie here, had her spayed after two seasons, she is smaller than a boy, easier to pick up, never noticed patches in our lawn at all.
Always had bitches when we were growing up, Lakeland terriers.
It's all good, have a great time with your dog/bitch Grin

Einszwei · 13/06/2021 15:48

I've always found female dogs to be more loyal, and easier to train. Just get her spayed and you wont have to deal with multiple seasons.

It's also nice to be able to walk them without the need for them to pee on every vertical object.

HelenHywater · 13/06/2021 15:48

It wasn't the bleeding and mess that was the most annoying (that was minimal for us), it was keeping her on the lead and her skittishness and the reaction of all the male dogs in the vicinity. I also felt really ashamed that she was in season - I felt it was irresponsible.

Mine came into season during lockdown. She's spayed now and it's a relief not to have to think about it anymore,

InTropicalTrumpsLand · 13/06/2021 15:59

We wanted a female dog due to living in a flat - we didn't want marking! Also due to living in a flat, we opted to not spay, seeing as she was only walked on a lead.
She bled extremely little, a quick wipe was all it took. We didn't use diapers seeing as they do not allow for peeing, and ddog was taught to use a sanitary pad as needed between walks.
She ended up being spayed at 9, when she caught pyometra. We nearly lost her, and recovery was slow. A couple years later I rescued a female cat, and as a precaution, I had her spayed after her first season. The following morning she was jumping on furniture again.
If you don't plan on breeding, just spray. And, even if you do want to breed, spay her once she's done having litters. Really work it.

AdaFuckingShelby · 13/06/2021 16:06

On the upside- not having to look a dogs penis. Can't stand the things!

3ormoredogs · 13/06/2021 16:47

I’ve had a fair few of both now.

The females tend to be more loyal however this hasn’t always been a good thing. My girls are more protective and one person dogs. The ones I’ve had issues with around being stroppy with other dogs etc have been the girls.
They tend to be more focused on me so easier to train. The boys can be a bit more easily distracted.
I always spey after the first season. Some are messier than others but I’ve always found it manageable. I don’t leave entire as I don’t want to deal with a pyometra or mammary mass.

Given the choice I find boys easier once they pass the horrible adolescence phase!

Scarlettpixie · 13/06/2021 17:21

Why wouldn’t you get her spayed?

cupsofcoffee · 13/06/2021 17:31

I assume you'll get her spayed at some point, though? Unspayed females are at increased risk of mammary tumours, certain types of cancer and pyometra. The risk of pyometra increases with each passing season, too.

However, the recommendation these days is to let them grow to maturity before spaying, which generally means waiting until around 18-24 months of age, so you will have to deal with a season or two first.

I would be prepared for:

  • accidents
  • bleeding on sofas, blankets, bedding and the floor. You'll want to have lots of blankets/towels around to protect your furniture
  • a change in behaviour
  • potential phantom pregnancies

You'll also have to change how/when/where you walk her. Bitches in season need to be kept on a lead and away from other dogs at all times. Male dogs (even neutered ones) will leap over walls or out of windows to get to an in-season bitch. They'll also fight with each other. You'll need to walk her very early in the morning/very late night and in quiet locations as well.

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman · 13/06/2021 18:14

I grew up with an intact bitch, and currently own two.

Things to think about are:

How to handle seasons. We have a hard floor in our kitchen and bitches in season are confined there (we do keep them company, they aren't abandoned!). When ours are in season they walked in quiet places at quiet times of day, trailing a longline, and are kept on lead if either a) in standing heat - peak season, very receptive or b) there are other dogs about (or might be, in woods, behind hedges etc). We live fairly rurally, and know the local walks well, and ours have good recall, so this is possible;

If and when to spay. Personally I prefer to let a bitch reach physical, mental and social maturity before spaying. Our two are from a late naturing breed and it's amazing how much the older one shifted gear after turning three. She's due to be spayed this summer, less because of dealing with seasons, more because of the health risks. Which brings me to:

Health issues. A bitch is at risk of pyometra (a potentially fatal uterine infection) after she has had a season (I've known a bitch have it after her first). Keeping a bitch intact also increases the risk of mammary cancer, at least in certain breeds. However, spaying - especially spaying early - can cause incontinence, as well as predisposing to other cancers and to joint issues. Data varies by breed, and unfortunately it's not available for all breeds, but there is a lot of info in this paper here

Most of what I've said in the second two points also applies to male dogs - neutering isn't a total win for them, either. For both sexes, Early neutering can bugger up a dog's conformation too, as some bones will stop growing before they should have done (this is probably what leads to the joint issue, IMO).

I've had much more to do with bitches than dogs, which is probably why I prefer them, but I think both are equally trainable (you see both performing at a high level in field trials, for example) and I've known both bitches and dogs who are complete softies.

opalescent · 13/06/2021 18:45

Amazing to be able to tap into this level of first hand knowledge, thank you all, this is so helpful!

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Skyla2005 · 13/06/2021 18:49

Why wouldn't you slay her. Irresponsible to not do it. Don't let her breed and create even more dogs when the rescue centres are full up

Skyla2005 · 13/06/2021 18:51

Spay of course !

Jobseeker19 · 13/06/2021 18:55

Its so interesting to read that a bitch in season attracts so much attention. I dont have a dog but its still interesting to read what male dogs will do when they can smell a female dog.

It makes me think about men in real life lol

Darklane · 13/06/2021 18:55

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman is quite right on the points she’s made.
I’ve had both male & female for decades.
If you have her spayed do wait till she is fully mature, same for neutering a dog. It’s really important that they have finished maturing. Physically early spay/neuter can interfere with the growth plates closing properly which can lead to all sorts of problems especially as they get older & they really need to go through puberty mentally.
Just to add a point to GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman’s excellent advice, if it’s a pedigree puppy & you may be interested in showing you can’t show a spayed bitch or castrated dog unless you have written proof from the operating vet that it was done for entirely & urgent medical reasons .

Wolfiefan · 13/06/2021 18:57

I wouldn’t spay until mature. Especially if a big dog. But keeping on a lead and away from off lead dogs is a pain. Don’t put nappy type things on they need to clean themselves and it risks infection. Spaying reduces the risk of certain cancers and also ensures your bitch doesn’t get pyometra.

Roselilly36 · 13/06/2021 19:31

Our bitch suffered a phantom pregnancy before she was spayed, it was quite upsetting, she acted quite aggressively at the time too.

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