Grief

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I had my soul mate put to sleep a few days ago. I can’t even begin to tell you how empty I now feel. I feel like maybe I don’t even want to go on with life without him.

I want him back so badly. I would do anything to have him here with me now.

Can anyone offer any words of advice?! Rainbow Bridge etc isn’t going to cut it. I’m going to call the Samaritans when kids are asleep as I’m desperate.

I am so sorry and I don't have any words of advice other than that they steal your heart and leave a big hole

I can't think of any words that make it any less painful.

Having lost a cat recently to being killed by a dog in our garden I feel utterly robbed that we didn't get to get for him in his twilight years/ill health nor did we get to say goodbye 😭😭😭😭😭

We are all still heartbroken and it's still so bloody raw and the house is too quiet even though we have a car and dog still

It is more bearable now but there will always be a gap

Take comfort that he knew he was loved and you didn't let him suffer x

It's hideous isn't it?

I'm sending you love and hugs.

He was loved and had a wonderful life with you and I hope you can take some comfort from that

I am so sorry for your loss, I had to do the same thing with my dog a couple of years ago and it’s heartbreaking.

Initially I was thinking, did I do the right thing, could I have kept him alive for longer but in the end I rationalised it in my head that they rely on us for everything and to make the right decisions for them and in this instance it was the right decision and keeping him alive any longer wouldn’t have been in his best interest.

It does get easier as time passes, although it won’t feel like that just now.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss xxx

I understand that thing of a life changed without them. It may take a long time but if you can get through, eventually, you won't feel the way you do now. If you had to make the choice of allowing your loved boy to be put to sleep then you need to know you did the right thing for him. It will be horrible for a long, long time, but it will get better. We can't expect the best times to last forever, and the worst times won't be with us forever. You can get through this. During his lifetime he was so lucky to be loved as he was; a lot of animals aren't.

The Blue Cross used to have a bereavement helpline that I used after I made the decision to have DD2 pts. Might be of use if it's running? It's so hard, I'm so sorry. Everyone kept telling me I'd done the right thing but it took me ages to come to terms. I still can't really think about it and it's been years but it's less raw. Please give yourself time.

I’m so sorry. We’re 5 weeks on and while it’s still so painful, there are less moments of that real intense grief of the first few weeks.

I rang the blue cross line, and found it helpful, but other than that it’s just a matter of being kind to yourself and letting yourself grieve. Xx

I'm so sorry for your loss.

There is a pet bereavement helpline as pp as said. Not sure if it's the Blue Cross or not but Google should be able to help.
I know someone who used it recently and they found them very helpful.

Ime only time helps. But I used to take a lot of comfort that he had a life well lived.

I'm so sorry OP. It is heartbreaking. I don't really have any helpful advice except don't put pressure on yourself to be ok too soon - give yourself time to grieve. It will get easier as time goes on.

OP I'm so sorry for your loss, please be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve.
I lost my precious boy dog a year ago and I still think of him every day. Now it's with fond memories and not with the raw pain of recent loss. In time the pain will ease, but you'll never forget them, they'll always be in your heart and your memories

Sending to lots of love OP.
It's truly heartbreaking. I only stopped feeling guilty about ddog about 6 months ago, when I saw a video of her walking and realised how bad her legs were. It's 2.5 years for her now.

Unfortunately, they don't get better and it's the last act of love we can show our pets.

Be kind to yourself and take your time to grieve.

Thank you everyone for kind words.
I feel such deep despair. But today is ever so slightly brighter and I can talk to him rationally which helps 🥰
He made my world wonderful x

And I’m sure you made his equally wonderful. Xx

So glad to see you got through last night OP. The more they affect us with their going, the more it shows how much love they had in their lifetime. So he was a lucky boy.

I've noticed that a couple of posters that have had messages deleted on this thread also had messages deleted on a thread I started on the television forum yesterday. No idea what they're posting, but maybe try and find an aim in life.

Tell us about him if it's something that you might want to share xx