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Should I rehome? Put down? Absolutely devasted *please read update before posting MNHQ*

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wishiwasntpoor · 07/04/2021 11:27

I have a beautiful loved and treasured ddog. When we got her I had a husband a big house and garden. Sadly that's no more and I'm poor. She's 11 and ill. She started yelping and struggling to walk her on Monday. Took her to the vet yesterday who have prescribed loxicom for a week (£120 for emergency consultation and the medicine) they said that if it doesn't work she'll need X-rays and blood tests and long term treatment. She's in so much pain. Can barely stand and is yelping shivering and miserable. I am breaking my heart that if she doesn't get better after the week (and I don't think she will) I cannot afford all of the tests and ongoing treatment. I just don't have the money. I may not be able to afford the mortgage this month now. I phoned a charity for her breed yesterday to ask advice, and they will take her and pay for treatment and re home her but can't help me keep her and help me with the costs. She's 11. She loves us and her companion ddog 2. I can't see that rehoming her would be kind? She'd be in pain, displaced from her home, depressed? So the other option is asking the vet if we should consider putting her down. Which is also awful because she could with investigation and ongoing treatment she could be fine and live happily for another two three years.

I know I know that people shouldn't have pets they can't afford, but it's also impossible to predict the future. I had everything when I bought her. Insured to the hilt, then my husband revealed huge hidden debts and depression and took his own life. I lost the house and lived with my parents for five years before managing to get another. I didn't know this would happen. Perhaps when it all happened I should have rehomed them then? I don't know. I do t know what to do and am so deeply miserable. I can't bear to lose her and it's all so awful

OP posts:
Sittinonthesand · 08/04/2021 12:07

💐 for you and your ddog. It’s so hard saying good bye, I always think that taking the decision to save them further pain is the last and greatest selfless act of love that we do for them. We take on the pain of losing them to spare their suffering.

Overdueanamechange · 08/04/2021 12:07

Sorry, I missed your last up date. Best wishes to you. I am dreading this day. Flowers

contraversial2021 · 08/04/2021 12:23

You did the right thing.

GettingItOutThere · 08/04/2021 12:30

rehoming would be cruel, really cruel. she is (Clearly)!, loved by you, so in your shoes i would put her to sleep.

Cook her some nice sausages, phone the vet and do it sooner than later. shes suffering at the moment in pain.

Feed her sausages and let her go OP
big hugs

Branleuse · 08/04/2021 12:33

im so sorry for your loss OP x

Veterinari · 08/04/2021 12:37

 @wishiwasntpoor Thanks

Look after yourself. You've done the right thing

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 08/04/2021 13:13

wishiwasntpoor I'm so very sorry. Flowers You've taken the burden from her now - be kind to yourself.

UhtredRagnarson · 08/04/2021 13:13

Oh I am so sorry OP. Thanks take care of yourself.

Peach1886 · 08/04/2021 13:41

so very difficult for you love, but DDog is at peace and not hurting any more. the next little while without her will not be easy but find your favourite photos of her and put them everywhere so you can still see her whenever you need to Flowers and a big hug xx

MagentaRocks · 08/04/2021 13:43

Sorry to see your update. Flowers

Soubriquet · 08/04/2021 13:48

I’m sorry OP

You did the right thing

Run free over rainbow bridge little one

stayathomegardener · 08/04/2021 13:54
Thanks
altforvarmt · 08/04/2021 13:55

She had a good life with you and knew she was loved. Take care. Flowers

Profiterolegirl · 08/04/2021 13:58

Oh, your poor pup. She's out of her pain now.

LostArcher · 08/04/2021 13:59

ThanksThanksThanksThanksThanksThanksThanksThanks

summersolstice43 · 08/04/2021 14:12

Have you contacted the PDSA? They helped pay for our old dogs treatment and only requested a donation. Please speak to them, they may be able to help. Also, might be worth getting your other dog insured just in case.

2bazookas · 08/04/2021 14:13

Sounds as if the charity you contacted is not fully aware of the dog's medical diagnosis and prognosis. Realistically, no charity will be able to rehome a dog in that state.

You can't leave her suffering such pain and misery, and she is your responsibility. Have her put to sleep.

millerpie · 08/04/2021 14:18

I would like to say rehoming at an old age isn’t always a bad thing at all. I adopted all of my dogs as seniors, one 16 year old came to us after both of her owners died over the course of three weeks, they’d been ill for a while and she hadn’t had the best care and was quite poorly and a little bewildered but she pulled through with tons of love and attention she had two more wonderful years with us. Just wanting to give you the other side of the coin if you were thinking of the rescue route. Also please contact the PDSA hopefully they’ll be able to help and she can stay with you.

thequeenoftarts · 08/04/2021 14:18

In the end she made it easier for you to make that choice, I am glad for your sake and hers too. She was in huge pain and suffering so it was the right choice for her.

Be very kind to yourself over the coming days and weeks , expect tears, utter sadness and anger too. They are all part of the grieving process and it will take time to work through.

Veterinari · 08/04/2021 14:19

Could people pay attention to the thread title and read the OP's update before posting please

Clarice99 · 08/04/2021 14:20

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers

LowlandLucky · 08/04/2021 14:27

Phone the bluecross and explain the situation, they will be able to see your poor dog for free. You know your dog best, you will know when it is time for her to go to sleep. Please please do not re-home her.

Veterinari · 08/04/2021 14:28

@LowlandLucky
You don't even have to read the OP, just the thread title and update

yourfaceisaforeignfood · 08/04/2021 14:34

I am so so sorry for the loss of your beloved dog. She spent a life loved by you and you were with her at the end. I know it’s of little comfort to you at the moment but you did right by her and that’s the only thing that matters. I hope she’s running free in the sun at rainbows bridge waiting for you. X

jessycake · 08/04/2021 14:36

If it were me I consider having her put to sleep , she has been loved and has been happy and will have no idea what you are going to do . I wouldn't totally trust a charity with an older dog anyway .