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Resource Guarding / Sleeping

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Anyoldname12 · 01/12/2020 23:42

We have a 1 year old rescue. Came to us 6 months ago (he’s not a “lockdown dog” in the sense that we didn’t know what we were getting into or wanted a dog due to boredom) however he did have some issues due to his past. A few times he growled / snapped at DP, we honestly couldn’t find a reason, all difference scenarios. Put it down to him only being with us a month, settling in etc. He had been more attached to me, so DP did everything to bond like walks, food etc. All the good stuff and been fine since.

He sleeps in our room (under our bed) just because of his separation anxiety, he howls and barks etc. We are working on SA (and have built up from him crying when I went to the toilet, to him being comfy to sleep in another room during the day, not constantly following me around and being left alone for a short amount of time when we are outside the house. We didn’t want to rush it as it’s so tricky. We wanted him to not sleep in the bedroom anyway but the only reason we do is the howling / barking keeps us (and the neighbours) awake and not wanting to leave him distressed.

The last few days he’s growled at DP a few times, once he was on our bed with me, so we assumed resource guarding me. Bed and sofa is now off limits. However tonight his tail was sticking out from under the bed when we were getting ready to sleep, I brushed his tail with my foot (no pressure on the tail at all I didn’t stand on it) and he growled at me. He’s never growled at me before. We’ve removed him from the bedroom all together now. He’s currently whining outside the bedroom door but I know the barking will start soon.

We are seeing a behaviourist next week, so hoping to get some much needed help from her, but are we doing the right thing just leaving him outside the bedroom even though he’s howling and barking? I feel like I’ve read website after website and books and books and I’m so muddled and confused about what I’m doing anymore there is so much conflicting advise, I feel like I’m failing him and us. If I go out and tell him to be quiet he’ll be very excited and try to get back in the room. If I ignore he’ll be barking all night. I’m wanting to put in the hard work but I just feel like I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I feel stupid for even getting a dog as I’m useless.

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LisaLemon · 01/12/2020 23:48

You're not useless but it doesn't sound like he's the right fit for you? You haven't got children have you? It's one thing to commit to him and try and work through his issues if it's just you and your partner but you can't risk this behaviour with kids in the house

See how you get on with a behaviourist but I'm not sure if you having to literally tip toe around him is going to add to your life

Anyoldname12 · 01/12/2020 23:59

No children. I would absolutely feel the same if we children. I’m really hoping the behaviourist can help there was a 4 month waiting list for her but she’s very highly recommended so we’ve waited. Thinking we should have gone with someone sooner maybe. Urgh I just wanted to do right by him Sad

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LisaLemon · 02/12/2020 00:31

Well it sounds like you're trying your utmost here. See if the behaviourist helps and then make a decision from there

Honestly, don't feel like you simply HAVE to stick with this decision. There's always options. A pet is supposed to enrich your life and not show aggression towards you.

Sitdowncupoftea · 02/12/2020 11:17

Firstly I would try to find out the background info on him. Secondly make sure the behaviourist is qualified google the qualifications there's a lot of people self taught behaviourists they can do more damage than good. Resource guarding can be solved hes only a year old so still young. My rescue did it when I got him. He's over it now don't worry.

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