Should I be concerned

[Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese]

So dh thinks our boys just being a bit of an arsehole in his old age, but I'm starting to think it might time to worry.

DH is working from home and lets our dog out to toilet, he's very good during the day at letting us know when he needs to go out.

Over the past 3 weeks about 6 times, in the evenings after we've put ds to bed and we're cuddling on the sofa he just starts peeing, no warning, sometimes he doesn't even stand up, he'll just be cuddled up with us and start to pee, this is usually an hour or 2 after we last let him out, so we've started putting him in the garden after ds has gone to bed, and this week we thought we'd sorted it until tonight it happened again.

DH has banned him from the sofa, which I get, but our boy is 15, he's old, he's used to sofa snuggles.

He's fine through the night, and through the day, it's just in the evenings, so I'm sure he's not incontinent, but I don't know if it's worth a vet trip... Dr Google has got me a bit worked up this evening so please be gentle.

I've got an oldie too and I'm struggling with his decline so I get it op.

Might he have a touch of doggie dementia do you think?

Sorry to agree with Tanfastic but it may well be dementia. We had a dog from the age of about three and at the age of about 13 she started acting a bit strangely; standing staring at walls, suddenly sitting down on something (a step, washing basket etc) in a sort of human way, and struggling to navigate the very low step to get in and out of the back door. At that age she started to wee indoors when, up 'til then, she only had a couple of incidents when we first got her (she hadn't been a pet up until then). I hadn't heard of doggy dementia until I started to ponder if it existed and found out it did. I got puppy pads and dotted them around the place.

I doubt very much your elderly boy has decided to be an 'arsehole' at this stage of his life. It's very much between you and your husband, but there's no way I'd ban a 15 yr-old from the sofa when it's something he enjoys and had always been allowed. Are puppy pads something you could consider for your sofa, so your boy could still have his sofa cuddles?

Take him to the vet and look after him in his old age.

Don't ban him from the couch :(

He's an old man. He needs comfort and love in his old age.

Accidents happen. He could have dementia, or he could just be getting caught short.

Poor thing :( it's horrible watching them get old. Wish they could stay with us forever!

Thank you @Tanfastic and @SakiSiam I didn't even know doggy dementia was a thing, I'll look into puppy pads, and give the vets a call tomorrow.

DH is a bit of a softie where our boy is concerned and although he's banned him from the sofa, I'm pretty sure that's where they both will be when I get home from work... I think it was just the frustration of being pee'd on again that made him react the way he did tonight.

@LeahDownTheLane I'm sorry but what else am I going to do? He's my baby, he's going to get nothing but comfort and love from us. I'm not going to do anything but look after him?

You're right @joanwinifred I really wish he will stay with us forever. He's my first baby, the reason we bought our house 😂

Reading my op back it feels a bit clinical, I've been quite tearful with what I've read online and I tried to be more to the point and factual and it doesn't come off how I'm actually feeling about him.

It doesn't sound clinical at all Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese. You just sound like someone who's struggling with the reality of the situation, because it's horrible to contemplate. It is hell, but what might the alternative have been for our pets if we hadn't taken them on, despite knowing that at some points our hearts will be broken by them? It could have been good; it may not have been. The greater the loss for us, the greater the love they've had in their lifetime.

I’m glad you read your post back and realised it sounded a little clinical. That’s why I said take him to a vet, could be a UTI or bladder stones or worse. He’s definitely not being an arsehole.

I also would wonder about dementia.

I’m also in agreement with your DH about the sofa.
I get that he’s really old and used to it but I wouldn’t let him on it anymore either, athough i also would largely stop using the sofa and would sit on the floor instead and give the old dog cuddles as i’d feel guilty.

But having three kids who have all had lots of wee accidents on my various sofas, once you’ve had more than one or two puddles in my experience you can never quite restore the sofa back to its former glory and it needs replacing so I agree the dog shouldn’t be let on it anymore.