Advice on New Puppy

[HappDayz456]

So we got our adorable new puppy on the 7th and after a few very rough nights I feel we have made great progress he goes from 11:30-6:30 in his crate although I am still sleeping on the sofa downstairs!
Well that said he is very bitey as puppies typically are and as a result some of the kids are a bit stand offish. Again this is not the problem, problem is DH didn't really want the dog and just agreed to keep the family happy. Now every day when he does something DH keeps making smart remarks like "Wow hasn't he made out life better!", "This place is chaos since he arrived ", " That puppy is out of control" etc... Every second day I ask him to refrain from the comments are they are not helpful (and when sleep deprived they just upset me) but I think he's just anti-the dog and I'm beginning to feel his attitude will not change. DH has also had to go more around the house as puppy follows me around and he doesn't want to be in the same room as him.
Would it be better for puppy to go to a loving home now rather than continue with DH being so anti-dog, I really don't know what the best thing to do is. I do love the puppy and the kids are getting there but I do worry the damage it will do to my marriage.

You have had a puppy for ten days.

You got the puppy knowing dh was not on board and now you are considering whether to rehome.

Return the puppy to the breeder, never get another one.

This goes against absolutely everything in terms of buying a puppy. The poor puppy can't live with someone who won't be in the same room as them. How on earth has this been allowed to happen.

Either that or get rid of DH. What kind of man agrees to take on a small animal for fifteen years then ignores it.

He doesn't ignore it, he will feed him , take him out for wee etc... but he doesn't choose to be around him. He is not cruel to him in anyway and will pet him and say good boy etc...

Where is the puppy from? If a breeder or a rescue they should take him back

It's better to rehome him now than wait. Puppies are hard work and you have about a year of it being hard before he settles into a nice dog, even then he'll still be a dog and not perfect.

Your husband sounds unpleasant to you and you sound like you haven't thought this through

Kids always hate pups that nip all puppies do it it's just kids and less experienced don't understand that it doesn't last forever
The pup is going to pick up on your husbands attitude I've seen it happen. What dog is it OP?

You've only had the dog a couple of weeks puppies are a nightmare and I've never enjoyed puppy stage but with training time and love you won't regret keeping him you've only had him a couple of weeks give him a chance.

Puppies are hard work but so worth it! We have found with our puppy that when he starts nipping, he's usually ready for a sleep. We put him in the kitchen (where he sleeps) with some treats and he's usually asleep within minutes and much better once he wakes up.

I'd sit down with DH and make a decision you're both happy with

Rehome..
Be sure to list all his good qualities...
Sure the dpuppy and the dc will keep you happy!!
Seriously, my exh had wanted our dpuppy, but became critical like your dh, started blaming ddog for everything... He started being aggressive to ddog. Even after I threw him out ddog continued to have behaviourial issues.. And did until she died at 10... Rehome op. And consider your relationship with such a man. Having a dpet gives a good idea of the true person you live with.
Ime.

My dh was a bit like this with our old dog to begin with. A lot of unhelpful comments like ‘your idea, your problem’ but he came round and is now the one desperate for another one.
Puppies are hard and tiring and don’t always bring out the best in people. Puppy blues are a real thing.
If your husband really doesn’t want the dog then you need to return it to the breeder.
If he does want him but is just finding it hard then have a decent conversation and ask him to be less obstructive.

I have to go to work but I’ll be back later to tell you about Ddog and dh. It was hideous at the time but ended well!

@Elvesinquarantine

Rehome.. Be sure to list all his good qualities... Sure the dpuppy and the dc will keep you happy!! Seriously, my exh had wanted our dpuppy, but became critical like your dh, started blaming ddog for everything... He started being aggressive to ddog. Even after I threw him out ddog continued to have behaviourial issues.. And did until she died at 10... Rehome op. And consider your relationship with such a man. Having a dpet gives a good idea of the true person you live with. Ime.

The OPs DH is not your ex seems like you have lumped men all into the same category It's easy for people to say rehome it's not their dog. The dog is a puppy you took him on you owe it to him to make it work.

Under Lucy's law you can't rehome anyway.

The op stating her dh doesn't want to be in the same room as the dpuppy. Isn't boding well for a great relationship..

Puppies are hard work and this can continue for months when they hit their teenage phase. They impact on everyone in the household which is why you should never get a dog unless both of you are onboard.

Sit down and have an adult conversation about moving forward and whether both of you are committed to this puppy. If your DH isn't and doesn't want the dog then I think you would be better returning to the breeder.

You shouldn’t have got a dog unless both the adults in the house wanted one and I also wonder why a breeder didn’t ask that as it’s a basic question .

Start at the beginning, lets be positive and look at what the dog can bring to the family, plan trips out around the dog family walks etc
Talk to the breeder, to me this is all normal stuff.
The biting will stop lots of training advice on line etc ours was terrible but fine now.
Its hard work but worth it, I would crate the dog and have play time, quiet time in and out of the crate. Food time, walk routine etc.
Have a list of rules and commands and stick to it, all use the same.
What breed is it some are easier to train than others.

I really didn't like our puppy when we first got him, he was an absolute arse hole. DC (who was desperate for a dog) quickly retreated to his bedroom. DH was the only one fully on board.

12 months later and we all adore him. Its been a very challenging year. I think we've worked our way through every difficult behaviour a puppy can go through. I spent many many days daydreaming about how easy our life was before him and now I cant imagine how empty our home would be without him.

Cut you DH some slack. Sit him down and have a chat. I was always 100% committed to caring for our puppy despite my feelings towards him. As long as your DH is fully on board then I expect he'll fall in love with that little pest, it just sometimes takes time.

I would treat your DH like I would treat a dog (so probably dont follow my advice!!)

I imagine you DH is worried, feels a bit left out, out of control and a bit overwhelmed so is behaving like a bit of an idiot.

I would praise my DH for what he does for the puppy, mention everytime the puppy follows him and that DH is becoming the puppies favourite person, ask DH for advice on the puppy training (not necessarily take any notice of it) but make him feel involved, Thank DH for every time he feeds the puppy and take him out. Positive reinforcement goes a long way with all species