Dog Owners- AIBU here?

[Aury26]

Had a silly but heated argument with bulldog owning friend.
I generally like dogs although dont have one myself, so not sure if IABU or not. However, I wouldnt say I am the hugest fan of bulldog smell/ dribble. My friend is a "my dog is my baby" type owner and she called me out the other day, saying that she didn't appreciate how I behave towards her dog. We are close friends and I've always been honest with my feelings towards her dog- that I'm perfectly fine with it from afar but would prefer not to have it near me as she only has to brush her face against your legs and you are covered in slime. I will be honest and say that when the dog tries to come near to me i push it off me and say go away (sometimes acconpanied with the odd swear word, but never in an aggressive manner towards the dog or anything like that)
My friend told me that the way I behave towards her dog upsets her and shes been biting her tongue. I explained my feelings about how its not the dog its the dribble that is my issue. She said "how would you think i wouldnt be offended hearing you tell my dog to eff off?!" and compared it to saying it to someones child.
I told her that I thought she was being silly and my dog owning sister agreed with me and said if her dog is being annoying she doesnt really blame visitors telling it to bugger off. My friend though has got offended to the point where she has now said that maybe i shouldn't come round to her place anymore when the dog is there!
I am trying to see her side as its caused a rift between us. AIBU?

Ah so the ddog gate crashed The Holiday then?
Is your friend the one who didn't organise ddoggy care and expected you to be OK with that?
If so it does put a different spin on your attitude towards it...

My dogs an idiot but this is her home, if someone behaved towards her like that I probably wouldn’t have them round.

If someone swore at my dog whilst at my house, they wouldn’t be coming back.

Maybe cut out the swearing but as a dog lover, I completely agm free with you! No one has the right to allow their dog to physically touch you or to mess up your clothes with mud, hairs, slobber and stink.

You friend is BU allowing her dog to get near you when she knows you do not welcome it. What would she think if you just gobbed on her jeans every time you met up? Just sitting there having a cuppa and you hocked up a nasty one and spat it at her. She'd be absolutely horrified, right? Cos it's disgusting from both people and animals!

Oh and cutting out the swearing is for your friends benefit, not the dog's. I can happily assure everyone offended on the dog's behalf, that the dog absolutely does not give a flying fuck about swearing. Not even a bit.

The dog will pick up on the tone by which it is said.

I can't believe you swear at the dog, thats horrible! YABU for that.

I hate slobber too, but there's easy ways to move the dog away

You clearly have issues with the dog, so the easiest way forward is to meet at your house (and say no dogs allowed) or meet up somewhere that just doesn't allow dogs at all.

When you go to your friends' house, remember, it's also the dogs' house. My dog is allowed on furniture and we don't restrict his access to certain rooms - he can go wherever he pleases and he'd be very confused if someone came over and he was just shut out.

If you're not comfortable with the dog, don't put yourself in a situation where you're going to have to be around it.

It's the dogs home so your out of order. Don't go round and meet somewhere else.

I wouldn’t be pleased about you swearing at my dog either OP, sorry. But that said I never understand these people who say “her dog, her house, her rules” either. Like yes, most of the time when they are at home alone/with husband/wife/partners etc then yes. It’s their hike and their rules. But when someone visits how exactly is it acceptable to excuse a dog’s behaviour by just blindly stating that it’s their house and their rules? Sure it is, but is it not also polite to make sure that your dog isn’t slobbering all over everyone or doing anything else that someone finds annoying? My dogs are a pain for competing over lying on your lap, that’s fine when we are home alone but I’d never let them do the same to strangers regardless of whether the stranger seemed ok with it or not. I mean there’s having rules and there’s letting your dog do whatever it likes regardless of whether the other person likes it or not.

I’m sorry but I have to be honest and say I’d feel angry and offended if I was your friend.
I wouldn’t say anything to you but I would spend less time with you with a view to phasing you out.
Us dog people do really love our dogs...

I would happily keep the dog away from any guest who had explained to me they don't like slobber etc. No problem at all.

Swear at the dog and that becomes a different situation, in my mind. It shows a total lack of consideration for something I love. That's not what a friend does, imo.

YABU and a bit of a T.

I think you’re both unreasonable. If someone was coming round who I knew didn’t like my dog I’d pop him in a different room, but if someone swore at my dog I would be quite angry and upset with them.

I have dogs they don't slobber but malamutes shed. If anyone comes to my house they are aware I have dogs. I introduce dogs to any guests I dont lock them away. If my guests don't like dogs they sit in another room. If anyone doesn't like dogs and were to tell my dogs to F off personally I would tell them to leave. If you don't like dogs then your not welcome at my house meet somewhere else.