Whippet pup please help

[MmeCitron]

I’m sorry, I know this topic has been done multiple times but I’m really struggling and could do with some help if anyone has a minute to spare.

Husband and I brought our new puppy home on Friday and I’m not coping very well at all. She was very much planned, we’d been on a waiting list etc. and we’d wanted a dog literally for years. I’ve always loved dogs, had one growing up who only died about five years ago and I loved her more than anything. Now, though... New puppy is actually pretty good as far as puppies go but I’m crying constantly (proper mad weeping crying) and feel as though we’ve made a huge mistake. I knew there would be whimpering, chewing, pooping and all the normal pup stuff but now she’s actually here I feel like it’s all too much. All I can see is the ways my life isn’t the same and all the months of work ahead and suddenly I’m questioning if I even want a dog, which is upsetting in itself as I’ve always loved them.

My mental health is precarious at the best of times (anxiety and depression) and I feel as though I’ve been plunged back into a state I dreaded going back to. I’m not working at the moment following cancer treatment and husband has gone back to work full time so I’m alone in the house all day with no support network as we live far away from family. When my husband is at home he’s great, totally pulling his weight and we’re a good team but out of necessity it’s me doing most stuff at the moment and I’m just... not well. My husband is very supportive and understanding of my mental health but has said that if pup goes back to her breeder then we won’t try again as it isn’t fair on any of us, least of all a puppy that hasn’t done anything wrong.

Sorry this is so long. I don’t really know what anyone can say - I just see days stretching ahead of being sad, stressed and lonely and trapped with a decision I thought we were prepared for but apparently not. I feel sick, I shake all the time and I can’t eat or sleep. Please, if anyone can help I’d be so grateful. I don’t know what to do.

I'm sorry you feel like this. It will be okay! Honestly!
It does get easier and fast.
It sounds like you've got really in your head on this and perhaps just need to breathe? Let go and just go with it? A new anything can be scary BUT it will also be wonderful. You will be okay!
Can you go to the doctors and get some help with your mental health? And then just take a day at a time. Perhaps get a trainer in to help too?
Honestly you're going to be fine, you just need to believe you can do it and you will.
Huge hugs xxx

Also, it really wont be that much work. I babysit 5 whippets regularly! A nice big walk, cuddles and they are sorted for the day. They are like cats really!
With the pup dont be afraid to make life easier - ours come to bed with us, so no crying, lots of chews to avoid chewing everything and the rest will slot into place.
It sounds like the added questioning of the cecisik to have a dog is adding to the mental load, maybe just try removing that for a while and see how it goes. That way one less worry cycle.xx

*decision not cecisik

I understand your fear that having a dog changes everything and on some level they do, but in good ways as well as bad.
Yes they restrict some things especially as pups, but on the other hand they bring so much joy.
I have a Bedlington X Whippet and he bring us so much joy. He's 9 now so obviously we are well used to him, but he's been such a great thing for me and my husband, he's really helped to keep us together as a unit, we've had so much time together walking him it makes chatting about life stuff much easier.
Our children went to uni last year and having the dog has kept routine in our life. We've recently moved abroad with work and again the dog is giving us structure in an unfamiliar environment, I'd actually be lost without him.
Whippets are such lovely creatures and if well loved and secure they are great family dogs, my boy is so chilled, he really is very easy, he's friendly with most other dogs and loves most people.
I sort of agree with your husband though, you should either fully commit to this pup, or decide that a dog is not for you, not now or ever.
It's a very difficult decision to make but it really is all or nothing, but I'm sure there would be plenty of others who would love a whippet puppy so a good home would be easy to find.
If you make the decision to rehome, please don't feel bad or guilty, honestly dog ownership is not for everyone and if having a dog is making you feel bad then you need to listen to your true feelings, don't risk your MH. Wishing you the best whatever you decide.