Can I visit my dog?

[Cait73]

I recently (2 weeks ago) had to let my adored 10 year old dog go to friends, he seems happy and settled but I miss him dreadfully

They're encouraging me to go and visit him, I'm reluctant because I don't want to confuse him; we haven't been apart since he was 5 weeks old 💔

I cry every day and would like nothing more than to see him but I won't if it's going to upset him, can anyone guide me on this please?

Really? Why? Has something happened?

His new home need me to have him when they go back to work (I wasn't expecting this) I can't "share" him it's not fair on my dog who's default setting is me

Grandson hasn't changed BUT we're moving in 3 weeks to a bigger house (I'm in a flat right now) with a garden

I visited him yesterday and he was begging me to take him home it bloody broke my heart, he was even taking my grandson toys as if to say "look, I like him" lol he's "okay" where he is but unless there's TOTAL separation he'll never really settle, he's been with me 10 years he can't help it

Oh well it sounds like you’ll manage in your new house if you’ve more room and a garden. That’s a bit naughty of them not saying that initially.

I think this time you absolutely have to make it work for you he dog. You can’t send him away and bring him back again. Use your stair gates and make a fuss when grandson is sleeping.

Sorry should say the dog not you he dog!

@Honeyroar no I definitely won't be letting him go again and they should have told me he'd be left alone up to 6 hours I'd never have agreed to that, obviously I'm not working at the moment but when I was my Mum had the little man, she's more than happy to help out again, she has a dog the same age

I'll spend the next couple of weeks planning so it's all good for dog and grandson, as you say if I put the stair gates in the right places everyone's safe & happy and the rooms are a lot bigger so I won't feel bad

And right now I don't care what you call him as long as it's MINE!!!

Noooooooo please dont go!!! It's really not fair on the dog it will 100% confuse him. I know your pain as I rehomed my beloved dog and made the mistake twice of going visiting him, on the last visit he jumped into my car when I was about to leave and rammed himself up against the seats and refused to get out!! He knew I was leaving him again, I'll never forget the look on his face, I had to drag him out and I drove home in floods of tears. I made the decision to not see him again after that as it was doing way more harm than good. If you love him/her the way you say you do, you need to be strong and do what's best for him. They need to establish their new home and new owners and you popping up will hinder that progress.

I now only get yearly updates on him, photos etc. I will never ever forget him but I wanted him to forget me and not constantly feel abandoned

@MissMaple82 I would agree except they're asking me to have him when they go back to work, which I know won't be possible so I'm going to have him back