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To rescue or not to rescue

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LottieRose92 · 14/04/2020 14:03

After some advice, before all this crisis we were seriously considering a dog. I want DD to grow up with one, as I didn't and always wanted one. We did end up with a puppy when my parents divorced but I was older so I'm aware how hard they are. Anyway, I have found a rescue who is good with cats and children but I don't know if I'm being silly adding an additional need to the family! How do people manage with dogs when they take day trips and so on? I don't want to not be able to take the baby to the beach for example because we can't leave the dog or take the dog to some places. What have others done please? I don't know if I'm just over thinking but has anyone felt like a dog was a mistake?

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 14/04/2020 16:43

we crate trained our dog when he was a puppy (how to do so here), which allowed us to go away for short periods of time and know that he was safe. Puppies under six months shouldn’t stay in a crate for more than three or four hours at a time, but most adult dogs can stay in a crate for about half a day as long as the dog gets enough exercise and walks when he's out of the crate. Now our dog is older, it means we can go out on longer trips as we know he is sleeping safely in the crate (he has access to water etc). They do become part of the family very quickly and I don't regret it x

pigsDOfly · 14/04/2020 17:09

My dog was crate trained as a puppy because I wanted to know she was safe when I had to leave her, although it was only for short periods and overnight.

However, I soon realised that she wasn't going to chew anything and harm herself so I started to leave her loose in the house and she gave up her crate when she was about six months old.

I wouldn't leave a dog in a crate while I went out for the day it isn't fair and with most adult dogs, it's completely unnecessarily.

You're not over thinking this OP and it's a very responsible way of looking at potential dog ownership.

A dog does change your life enormously and will seriously impact on your freedom.

Having said that a well trained well behaved adult dog is a joy and should be able to go to the beach, and many other places, with you without any trouble.

But, you won't be able to go out for the day or away for the weekend on a whim unless you have someone willing to take your dog at short notice, or you go somewhere dog friendly.

Holidays will be more expensive because you have to factor in the cost of care for the dog, unless you have family will to take him/her for a couple of weeks, or again you go somewhere dog friendly.

In addition there are vet fees to pay, insurance, feeding.

Dogs are a big responsibility, they need a lot of input and training if you get a puppy and some older rescues can, but not always, come with issues.

It very much depends on how much you want a dog and how much freedom you're willing to forego.

A lot of rescues won't rehome to families with young children so you might find you have to do a lot of research to find one that does.

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 14/04/2020 17:13

It's a massive, massive tie. I don't have a dog myself but did grow up with them and i won't get one for a good few years yet, probably when my kids are over 10. I love dogs, but i also love being able to just go out for the day and not have to think about coming home early to let the dog out. Every single time you want to go out, you'll have to either take it with you, or make sure youre back within a few hours, or get someone in if you did want to go for a full day out. When your children are young, for me that's something i can do without.

Pipandmum · 14/04/2020 17:29

I have two dogs I've had since puppies and I crate trained them but once they were over a year never had to use a crate.
I've also in my life had three rescue adult dogs. None had any separation anxiety so leaving them for the occasional half day or so was not a problem.
Very occasionally I have had to leave them all day. I make sure they have a good walk first and they are fine - no accidents, no destructive behaviour, no anxiety.
It's a matter of training - and your own behaviour.

Windyatthebeach · 14/04/2020 17:34

We have 4 ddogs. Current one from 14 weeks old . As much as we wanted a rescue I was reluctant as ds is only 5.. We have 1 rescued from someone we knew and she came to us at 6 but not an unknown ddog. Ds has been around ddogs since he was born. An unknown rescue ddog around unknown dc wasn't for us at this time but def when ds is older... How old is your dd op? Most rescues say 5 +anyway.

LochJessMonster · 14/04/2020 18:32

Having a dog and a baby is hard. Just read the amount of threads on it.
I wouldn’t recommend it.

LottieRose92 · 14/04/2020 21:51

Thanks everyone, the dog I've found is 8 and I already in foster care with a family similar to my own! My mother and MIL all have dogs so think I'll have a conversation about dog sitting with them and make a decision depending on what they say! Otherwise I'll just have to be happy taking my fur brother and sister out for a couple more years Smile

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Branleuse · 18/04/2020 09:20

An 8yr old proven calm rescue will be a joy.
Yes its a pain sometimes for holidays, but getting my older calm rescue has brought so much to my life and the childrens lives.

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