Hello everyone,
I'm looking for opinions on the following please.
Teenage daughter insists on a house party for her 19th birthday this year (and her 16th, 17th and 18th so far. It's normally relatively calm, about 7 teens and a few adults(our friends who were invited without our knowledge taking numbers to say 20, nice for them to be invited but really not something we'd ever organise ourselves)
We live in a relatively large house, spread over 3 floors but our house is right on the main road and no gate between us and the main road, we're currently recall training our 6 month old puppy with mixed success. Sometimes he's amazing but our house fronts into a popular dog walking green so if his attention is taken by another dog he would bolt across a busy road to get to them.
So far so good as we always have doors we can shut before the front door is opened but in a party scenario I would brick it all night keeping the dog safe and genuinely don't think he's under control yet to stop on my command.
Taking him to another room in the house isn't an option as he's a sociable dog and would howl with fomo all night if he thought he was missing the opportunity to say hello to people. The noise level on a teenage party with music would definitely prevent any safe crating upstairs option for a couple of hours.
I've said the puppy must be my priority on that night and if the party has to happen I'll need to take the dog out for the night or ask our lovely daycare lady to take him overnight. Teenager wants the "Instagram" opportunity of photos with friends and her puppy. There's an element of show here but I've said it's not a safe environment for the dog if people are in and out of the house all night.
We're now slightly at logger heads as she now suggests I'm being overprotective of the puppy. I think asking to have a 19th birthday house party with the dog she's "always wanted and would do anything for" is at odds with keeping the puppy safe.
Genuine opinions are welcome, cancelling the party is not an option but my absence has only just become an issue. Husband will be there to keep things under control on the night if I'm out of the house. In my shoes would you take the puppy away from the party?