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A van killed my dog.

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housewifeoflittleitaly · 10/12/2018 10:22

Can anyone help me, a van hit my dog yesterday and killed her outright. We were walking along the roadside back to our house when a van who was clearly speeding rammed into my dog.

She was my life & has literally saved my life as I have severe depression. She’s been by my side everyday for the last 10 years.

I don’t know what to do, emotionally or physically or pratcially. Can anyone help me please, what do I do?

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PeoniesandPretties · 10/12/2018 20:44

That is just awful, sending big hugs to you during this hideous time. How people can live with themselves I don't know, really hope you get some answers x

CharlesChickens · 10/12/2018 20:52

What a terrible thing to happen, i feel so sorry for you and your dog. It is horrible to think the driver will get away with this and didnt even stop. He must have mounted the pavement ?
Take care of yourself op, this must be the most horrible shock, it is a very traumatic thing to go through. Do you have support around you ?
Flowers for you and your little friend.

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 10/12/2018 21:00

Oh grief, I'm so sorry for your loss, your poor girl Flowers
How callous not to stop Angry

OrcinusOrca · 10/12/2018 21:07

This is horrific, I am so sorry. You poor thing, and your poor dog. I really hope they catch whoever did it. Despicable! Thinking of you Thanks

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 10/12/2018 23:17

When you got up? Did it hit you too? That’s definitely a criminal offence! That’s a hit and run and the police will take that very seriously.

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housewifeoflittleitaly · 11/12/2018 02:39

I fell asleep but I had a nightmare & woke myself up. I keep seeing her little face 😢

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housewifeoflittleitaly · 11/12/2018 02:59

I coincidentally had booked Monday off work but I called them tonight to say I wasn’t coming in today & told my boss what happened. He didn’t say much on the phone then txted me to say “I appreciate this is a difficult time but you are required in work regardless”.

I haven’t replied & ive no intention to go into work.

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Shinesweetfreedom · 11/12/2018 03:07

Will the doctor sign you off perhaps

Daisymclazy · 11/12/2018 03:11

I agree with pp, see doc tomorrow if possible and be signed off. Grief over a pet is real, they're a family member and often a great support to us.

theveryhighlife · 11/12/2018 03:15

You poor poor thing, how absolutely traumatic for you to have seen.
I think counselling is a good idea. I can't believe how insensitive your manager is being.
I don't think it's for him to decide if you're fit for work or not. Take the time that you need and don't be guided by his/her insensitivity.

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housewifeoflittleitaly · 11/12/2018 11:04

I was sort of knocked off my feet by the force of the dog being hit I think. I wasn’t hurt or touched by the van at all.

I’ve hardly slept all night & I can’t stop crying there’s no way I can go to work. DH is off today so we can bury her. The kids are at school so we can wait until they come home at 2.

I just don’t know what to do with myself.

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JustWhatINeededNow · 11/12/2018 13:02

How awful.

Be prepared to be asked very soon whether 'you'll get another one'

It's like after miscarriage- people always trot out inappropriate comments. Awful.

BuildingQuote · 11/12/2018 13:07

I can’t make it better but just want to say I really really care too and am so sorry at how your day must be.
When I lost a much loved pet violently I woke in the night in grief for months and now over a year on still think of my best little shadow daily and it is easier but will always be there.
I’m so glad you rang the bereavement line and it helps to talk to friends who understand too I found. Focus on the things you need to do like the children’s routine and certainly never feel guilt, there was simply nothing you could have known or done to avoid it.
I’m so sorry xxx

BuildingQuote · 12/12/2018 21:52

OP how are you today? Thinking of you all so much.

Pomsinspace · 12/12/2018 21:55

How has it all gone today? Did you speak with your dog? I expect you feel even worse today ☕️

Pomsinspace · 12/12/2018 21:56

Speak with boss not dog! Predictive text!!

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housewifeoflittleitaly · 14/12/2018 07:51

Thanks everyone for asking, it’s so kind of you all.

I’ve spent most of the week in bed when the kids are at school and then keeping busy in the evenings.

Honestly, I feel totally bereft ! I don’t know if it’s because it happened in such an awful way but I genuinely am heartbroken. I didn’t get to say goodbye or cuddle her or console her it just happened & I keep replaying it over and over again wishing I’d done something differently.

The police have been very helpful but no one has come forward (unlikely when you’ve committed a hit & run).

I am due back in work for a 12 hr shift at 12 today, I hate the thought of it. My boss couldn’t care less he’s heartless at best of times. It’s making me reevaluate my life.. work work work and not enough time for myself or family.

God I miss her so much.

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JustWhatINeededNow · 14/12/2018 08:02

Oh that's so hard.

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other for now. No big decisions x

Honeyroar · 14/12/2018 22:55

I'm so sorry. That must have been truly awful and a huge shock. What a shitbag van driver.

Try and focus on the fact that she died quickly and she knew 100% up to then that she was incredibly loved. And she loved you all back. Dogs leave a huge hole in our hearts when we lose them.

ToeToToe · 14/12/2018 23:06

Oh how awful for you. I am so sorry Sad Truly heartbreaking. Look after yourself, and take time to heal. Grief is awful - you feel it will never end - but over time you gain a sort of acceptance Thanks

QOD · 25/12/2018 19:33

I’m so sorry OP. Just come across this.
How are you? Just wanted to send you a massive hug and say I get it xx

Also sounds like ddog didn’t suffer and they don’t ‘know’ like We do 💐

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