Request to separate dog from baby

[Surfskatefamily]

Hi.
A few months ago i told MIL we'd really like to separate dog from our baby once he starts to crawl. Shes very reasonable and agreed. However house open plan and she doesnt want to put dog outside when its cold.
We suggested getting her a safety gate which would have to be quite wide and could put him in kitchen then. MIL agreed.
Bought a cheap gate, mil didnt like it. Tbf i thought it was a bit too crap too anyway. No problem tho, bought another more expensive one. Not simple to open and close.
Bought a third pricey one which is fancy sleek, fits perfect and open and closes easily.
MIL unhappy as it doesnt stay open. So iv suggested we get some sort of hook to keep it open. Then she said no she doesnt want it up.
I said its easy to put up and down so me or hubby could just put it up every time we come over.
She doesnt seem happy with that.
Im confused as she agreed already to this and it wasnt a difficult discussion at the time. I dont know whats wrong.
I dont think that the breed should matter but just so you know dog is a big staff x pitbull whoes absolutely lovely but so boisterous. He barges, jumps at you and licks faces and i just dont want him all over our baby.
Its the same with my folks. My mum has to shut her jack russel in garden and my dad has 3 german shepherds that are locked away. Im making sure to be equal in treatment and requests to all grandparents.
I guess my question is where do i go from here? And i am being reasonable arent i? I said to her today that iv spent a fortune on gates and i that i know she wont put her dog outside so what does she want to do. Going round tomorrow so any advice appreciated. Please be kind my MIL is lovely...just a little frustrating on this

Emphasise that you have the same rule for the other grandparent's dogs too, so she knows your not implying their is something wrong with her dog.

I agree with others; if you go there you can't put the baby down, not even on the sofa etc. If she doesn't find a solution to the dog then she'll have to come to you every time.

The breed absolutely doesn't matter. My in laws had two soft as butter, well known, slow and sleepy retriever girls. None of us had any concerns about them at all. One day my crawling twins were racing each other (crawling) up and down the hall while one of the dogs slept and one of them sat and watched. Without any warning at all, the watching dog shot up and pinned my son to the floor by his head. She was soft mouthed and was totally just warning the 'puppy' that she's had enough, but it was terrifying and did nick his ear to draw blood. Son was absolutely fine, but if that nick had been on his eye not his ear things could have been very different.

This was in a house of dog lovers/trainers, supervised by people who knew the dog inside out and back to front. She gave no sign of distress about the kids, and in fact I don't think she was scared/distressed, she was just putting the puppies back in their place.

Both dogs were shut in the conservatory each time we visited from then on. I didn't need to ask for that as my PIL are sensible people and didn't want any risk at all.

Just don't go and when she asks explain why.

My MIL's "wouldn't hurt a fly" springer snapped at my ds when he was a toddler. The dog went to local kennels every time we went to stay after that.

If you have any concerns about the dog I wouldn't go there. We shut our placid dog away from young visitors as older dogs and toddlers are not a good mix (we do let our nephew in with him but only under strict supervision or if ddog is asleep in his bed (very common) ddog puts himself upstairs usually though

Thanks for everyones advice. We chatted this morning and have made compromise. We will bring the safety gate with us every time we come over.
Minor hassle but if it means baby is safe and mil is happy then it works for me

She can't even keep it in a spare room or garage or somewhere for you? I'd be visiting a lot less if I were you as it's a hassle bringing it over each time, if she asks why.

It is a bit..but id prefer it to not being able to let baby play safely. She said no room so will just leave it at this. Hopefully she will find somewhere if she notices its a hassle

Staffs are really needy dogs so maybe he’d misbehave if shut away? You can get dog gates that are much taller than stair gates.

You're very accommodating op ...! There must be somewhere it could be stored - behind the sofa? Garden shed? Garage? Under a bed?

Don't take your baby to anyone's house where you don't feel they'll be safe.