so my inlaws always keep their dogs outside, their dogs, their choice, I prefer and always have to keep mine inside at night as part of the family and in a warm safe place. The inlaws house is in 2 parts, as a semi detached situation, DP lives in one side and they live in the other. Over the years there have been compromises with where my dog goes when I visit, for the last 10 months or so it was agreed the couple nights I arrive, as long as she is clean (which she always is) she can stay inside. So we bought her a bed and keep her in 1 room and I clean the house once a week even though I do not live there. DP side of house is old and smells musty, paint peeling off the walls, and generally not minded as, especially since my appearance he is at my house most of the time. (I own my house). At the moment I am having works done so have been staying at the house next to the inlaws for 4 weeks, dog has ben inside at night, no problems, she doesn't bark, chew or mess in the house at all.
But today apparently its not acceptable anymore and we were told dog can not stay inside, has to live outside in the shed.... Now I know its not my house and I know I am lucky to have somewhere to stay during the works but come on. Apparently they didn't think the works were going to take so long and they do not believe that dogs are meant to be inside blabla. but she welcome to go into the cold damp shed, what harm they said. She isn't even in their house, its the one next door that is apparently DP house, but today it is their house and they are not having it anymore. sigh
no point causing an argument, it is their property, but it is clear that once married we will never be living here which just makes life much harder for my partner. and why now? Comment was made that he (father inlaw) doesn't want his wife to have to be cleaning the house... what when she never cleans her own she going to start magically cleaning our half? No one even removes their shoes when they walk into to either house, and the floor all old, (hole ridden) lino. Just don't get it.
Just very frustrating to have the goal posts always changing
Needless to say I have not put my dog into the damp dirty shed, she is in my car on the back seat. They tried to say oh you don't have to leave her in there just use the old shed, i said no thanks, my dog, my car, thats where she can go until I go home. But I tell you, I am visiting my house tomorrow and I am telling the builder to get the water connected asap, because roof or no roof, I am going home sooner rather than later. If I had water plumbed back in, I would of left this evening.
the father in law probably freaking out also as we not yet married (we are engaged and due to be married this year) and we sleeping in the same bed. Its that kind of mentality that we are trying to live with. We are both 30+ too. So not as if we are frolicking sweet 16 years old getting up to no good in his house.