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Is our dog miserable?

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Cannothtinkofaname · 30/01/2018 10:08

We have a just turned 2 year old cockapoo who is a really good little dog.
She loves her walks and is quite sociable with other dogs at first, has a sniff and hello and that's it. She also likes to be in front and quite happy to be on her own.
We're at home with her most of the time Friday to Sunday, and the rest of the week my OH goes out but she's walked before he goes, then he comes home at lunch time and I'm back home just after 3 and she goes for another walk.
She's a lovely little dog but at home just seems miserable. She sleeps most of the time and when we come in, most of the time she just rolls over for us to rub her tummy, no bounding up to us, although she does now and then - usually if we bring shopping bags in!
She's not a very cuddly dog, won't sit with us although wants to be in the same room as us but sometimes takes herself off to bed before us.
She really is a lovely dog but sometimes she looks so miserable and we're wondering is she's bored. We do play with her but she lets us know when she wants to play but most of the time she's happy to be asleep.
Does this sound right for a just 2 year old dog?
I'd appreciate any opinions.
Thanks.

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Bananarama12 · 30/01/2018 10:13

Seems very happy and chilled to me Smile my parents dog is like this, very independent.

roundtable · 30/01/2018 10:14

She just sounds like a dog who likes her sleep and her own company!

The fact she's not bothered by your return is a positive - she's not worried about you leaving.

Remember she's a dog not a human! People tend to give human characteristics to dogs and they're not and don't behave like us.

She sounds lovely and really relaxed!

Cannothtinkofaname · 30/01/2018 11:13

Thank you for your replies, it's made me feel better.
She is an independent little dog but it would be nice if she wanted a cuddle now and then but I suppose be careful what you wish for - some dogs won't leave your side!
We did think about getting another dog to keep her company but not sure she'd like it and she is so good, the other one might not be so good!
We took her to the beach for the first time on Sunday and she loved it and was running around like a puppy, then it's back in the car sound asleep, go in for a clean up, then bed for sleep!
She has her night time bed, a bed in the living room and a small sofa she's taken over - she does love her kip!

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bluetongue · 30/01/2018 11:47

I wouldn’t worry about any of that. My dog is desperate for human attention, goes nuts when I comes home and even pesters strangers for pats. The truth is I’d love him to be casual about me coming home as he has separation anxiety which is very difficult for both of us.

Relaxed is good Smile

MRSJWRTWR · 30/01/2018 11:49

Our dog is a bit like this. The only time he is really excited to see me after I've been out is when I get back from dropping DS2 at school and he knows it is now time to go to the park! He sleeps downstairs and quite often when we get up in the morning he'll pop his head up from his bed have a look and then go back to sleep.

missbattenburg · 30/01/2018 12:17

Honestly, she sounds like a calm little dog.

  • Not greeting you when you come in: the dog's way to greeting is more a reflection on the human behaviour than the way the dog feels about you. Dogs with calm humans who ignore them when they come in tend to ignore the owners right back. Dogs with excitable humans who make a fuss of them tend to get excited. It's not an indication of how happy they are to see you. Actually, it's a great sign that she is not distressed when you leave her.
  • Some dogs are just not cuddly. Cuddles are not an especially natural behaviour for dogs, anyway. We have three dogs: one that LOVES cuddles, one that quite likes them and one that doesn't like them at all. If I had to guess I would say the last one is by far the happiest of the three.
  • Some cockers just have a naturally miserable facial expression. My dad has one that constantly looks like eeyore yet has the most lovely life with lots of walks and spoilings and adventures and is a really happy dog. Her face lies.
  • Dogs also need about 16-18 hours of sleep a day. Yours night be towards the top end of that, but that's fine.
  • Many dogs take themselves to bed because their natural hours are different to ours. They are naturally alert early mornings and early evenings and, left to their own devices, would probably choose to settle down for the night at about 9pm and get up at about 5am.

She sounds like an easy going dog to live with Grin

Kurkku · 30/01/2018 12:49

Sounds like she is a content, well exercised pup who is very comfortable with her surroundings and life in general.
We have a golden retriever who is very similar, although she does like her cuddles too. She did perk up when we got a jack russell puppy last year, in the sense that they'd play often whereas the golden just liked to doze on and off when indoors. Now that the puppy is getting more mature they just lay around in piles 😁. Unless puppy is asleep on one of us humans. Yes, even the jack russell is super laid back indoors at just 1 year old.
I think it is just how you teach them; we have a quiet household with two adults and two older teens, and the dogs are played with and exercised outdoors.

crazymumofthree · 30/01/2018 12:55

She sounds like our husky (who we think could well be a dud as huskies are notoriously crazy and high energy!)

She also doesn't greet us at the door, prefers to stay in bed asleep and literally spends all day there too!

I wouldn't say it's being miserable, like previous posters have said she sounds relaxed and content! What you have written sounds like the perfect life for a dog so I wouldn't worry at all!

Cannothtinkofaname · 30/01/2018 12:56

Thanks for all your replies, seems we have nothing to worry about.
Pictures because I think she's cute!

Is our dog miserable?
Is our dog miserable?
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NoSquirrels · 30/01/2018 13:28

Ha - we rehomed a 2 year old in October and I can’t tell you the amount of times in the first few months I’ve googled “is my dog depressed?” And “Why doesn’t my dog greet me at the door?”

She will literally ignore anyone coming in! She’d be a rubbish guard dog Smile

But she’s very food and fuss focused- lives for belly rubs and training games with food, and we do allow her to cuddle on the sofa which she loves.

She’s quite happy to ignore us outdoors, so I’m working on building her focus on me and part of that is encouraging her to be a bit less independent... but truth be told she is extremely calm to live with and that’s a joy in itself.

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