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Getting another dog after losing the doggy love of your life.

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DeadButDelicious · 29/08/2017 10:37

My rescue pug Lola passed away in march of this year. She had a condition called NME (necrotising meningoencephalitis) that caused her immune system to attack and kill her brain. She started showing symptoms a few days before her 4th birthday and thanks to the quick action of her vet getting her referred to a neurologist we managed to control it for just over a year before she quietly relapsed and it became clear that it just wasn't right to carry it on. She was 5.

At the time I swore I would never have another dog. Ever. She was it for me. I adored her. Another dog would feel like a replacement and there was no replacing Lola. But as time has gone on I have softened to the idea (as has the husband) and it's become quite clear that I am one of those people who 'needs' a dog in their life. I don't feel right without one. I could never get another pug, I would spend the whole time terrified it would happen again. But another little dog? Yes, I could see myself with another little dog.

So tell me, how did you move on when you lost the doggy love of your life? Did you do it straight away? Or wait a while? I would just like to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. She set up camp in my heart and there will always be a pug shaped hole in it.

(I have included a picture, because she was gorgeous)

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LaurieFairyCake · 01/09/2017 12:11

I waited too long after my boy died (2 years) and decided I was a fucking idiot when I got my adored girl. I should have got her sooner, literally all the pain left when I got her.

Totally different dog, but you need somewhere for the love to go.

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dingit · 16/11/2017 15:42

As promised I've painted Lola. It's yours if you want it. Hope you have a new pup in your life.

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StandardPoodle · 16/11/2017 19:38

I've heard it said that you have one dog in your life which is that extra-special one for you, and Lola sounds as though she was yours.
We lost the old girl whom we'd inherited from my Mum on 21 December 3 years ago and found our new boy 3 months later.
You will know when the time is right for you. You are not replacing Lola - you couldn't - but filling that dog shaped hole in your life.
On a lighter note, your painting is brilliant dingit!

isthismummy · 16/11/2017 20:19

I'm so sorry for your loss OPFlowers

I lost my papillion boy three years ago at the age of 16. He was my absolute world. I loved him from the moment I laid eyes on him as a six week old puppy. He was the light of my life and I will miss him every day until I die. I will never love another dog as much. Ever.

I got my new puppy four months ago. She's a Shih Tzu (I didn't want another Papillion as like you I knew I would just compare) I adore herSmile She is the sweetest, cuddliest, happiest little dog ever. She has brought me so much joy.

A new dog will never fill the hole left by your lovely girl, but your heart will expand to love them. Dogs bring so much love and happiness into our lives.

I wish you luck with finding the perfect new companion when the time is right.

crimsonlake · 16/11/2017 20:21

I lost my beautiful cavalier Oct 2016 and it is only in the last couple of months that I could even consider replacing her. I was surprised at how devastated I actually was when she died and until recently felt it would be a betrayal to replace her. Everyone is different I agree.

Elend · 16/11/2017 20:38

We had to say goodbye to one of our gorgeous boys a few days ago. I am heartbroken but he was suffering and I know it was best for him. We had to have our old girl pts 2 years ago and I'm still not over it so I think that's why I feel so bad this time.

Our brood has gone from 5 to 2 in the space of 2 and a half years and I'm not sure I have the energy in me to lose many more pups. Love to you OP and to everyone else x

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 16/11/2017 20:48

dingit that’s fab. ❤️

DeadButDelicious · 17/11/2017 08:23

Thank you all for your kind words. Lolly was a one off, a truly special little dog. I miss her every day.

We've decided to get Christmas out of the way and then start the search for our next dog. I've gone back and forth on another rescue pug, there are so many being given up right now, it's heartbreaking but no decisions have been made yet.

Thank you so much to dingit. The painting is beautiful. It's captured her beautifully.

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Cammymyle · 17/11/2017 08:40

It's a great compliment to Lola to want to have another dog in your life.

The longest I've waited was a couple of months, but I live alone and the house is so empty without a dog.

To be honest, sometimes when the new dog has arrived, I've wondered if I've done the right thing, as I knew and loved the previous dog so well and it can be hard at first getting to know the new one and its ways. The feeling never lasts though.

Lola is in your heart for ever but I hope the new year brings lots of joy with a new dog.

KarmaNoMore · 17/11/2017 08:48

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user1497997754 · 17/11/2017 09:35

Def get yourself another dog...your Lola would want you to....you are to much of a dog lover to not do so....your Lola looks lovely x

dingit · 21/11/2017 11:01

Lola is winging her way to you. Also sent you a pm. Smile

DeadButDelicious · 21/11/2017 11:19

Speed and replied. Smile

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DeadButDelicious · 21/11/2017 11:20

Speed should be spied. Bloody autocorrect! Grin

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haveacupoftea · 21/11/2017 14:26

I lost my little soul mate last night. It was so sudden. I have two other dogs but she was my first one. My little old loud one and the house is quiet without her. I think my heart is broken Sad

DeadButDelicious · 21/11/2017 14:33

Oh haveacupoftea I’m so sorry for your loss. Flowers

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DeadButDelicious · 21/11/2017 14:35

Sorry my iPad got a bit carried away and posted too soon.

That was my Lolly, the little loud one. I know all too well how it feels to come home to that quiet house. Here to listen if you need it.

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guestofclanmackenzie · 21/11/2017 15:15

@ihaveacupoftea

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Aliiiii · 21/11/2017 23:35

I lost my gorgeous rescue bulldog to cancer 6 weeks ago
2 weeks later I took on a foster dog who is a sweetie but not my girl
She’s just found her forever home and will be leaving us sometime this week
I suffer from depression and anxiety and my bulldog helped me through some very dark times
I decided to foster rather than permanently rehome as I’m not ready for that, but fostering has meant the dog shaped hole has been filled, all be it temporarily
As PP have said, everyone is different- there is no right or wrong answer
I wish you all the best

Gingersstuff · 21/11/2017 23:54

I lost my beloved golden retriever Dylan in Dec 2010. Though I'd been owned by dogs all my life really, he was mine and DH's first baby. When he went I was properly grief stricken and swore up and down I'd never have another dog, the pain was just awful. Five months later I had a scrap of a goldie pup in my arms. I'd begun to cross roads to ask for hugs from strangers' goldies so I knew I had to have another one. He was never a replacement though. From the start he was my dog to the core in a way that Dylan wasn't (D's special person was my DH).
Fast forward to now and we have 4. Our latest is a Romanian rescue who had a horrific life before he came to the UK, and he and I have bonded like no other, probably more so because he is a damaged wee soul. I have loved, and love, all my dogs fiercely but he is my heart dog and I am his beloved human.
Every dog that comes into your life will give you something different though equally wonderful and loving. Don't be afraid to give that love again ❤️❤️❤️

Pandoraslastchance · 23/11/2017 18:58

I've had a crap year. Lost my collie/lab in May and then two weeks ago I lost my beagle/spaniel cross. I'm gutted and completely lost without her. Keep dropping food and waiting for her to pick it up. Takes me a few seconds to realise that she isn't here anymore.

I need another dog but as I have young children (under 5)I can't find a rescue who will rehome to us so looks like it will be a while without a dog.

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mustbemad17 · 23/11/2017 19:15

I lost my first 'forever' dog in January; he was a foster that had bounced back. He needed a lot work, was very broken when he returned to me & being here seemed to calm him. He came back in October, we adopted him in December & he died in January. I was heartbroken. Told everyone I did not want any more fosters, couldn't cope with the heartache.

March came & someone (72 people!!) tagged me in a post about a gorgeous 9 year old staffie girl that was quite ill & due to go to kennels if a pet free foster couldn't be found. Eventually agreed to take her & she wheedled her way into my heart immediately! She was really ill, took a lot to get her well. She relapsed in September (we officially adopted her in May) & i had to have her PTS. I thought losing my beloved Charlie was hard; losing Sophie was like someone had punched me in the stomach & left their fist there 😔

This time we aren't getting another. The house is too quiet, too empty without a dog, but I can't do the heartache any more. Still miss my girl like it was yesterday, and still curse to buggary that some wanker dumped her knowing she was so ill without even bothering to try help her. I understand totally the empty feeling, & think the right answer is when you are ready for another.

mustbemad17 · 23/11/2017 19:19

Pandora I don't mean to intrude but I fostered for rescues who allowed dogs with under 5s (my DD is just 5). If you ever felt the time was right i'd be happy to put you in touch with rescues who deal with each family & each dog as individuals xx

DeadButDelicious · 26/11/2017 14:56

It's here! And it's beautiful. Thank you so much dingit and as promised, I have taken a photograph for you. Now to get her framed!

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