Bit the bullet, rehoming :(

[Lovemusic33]

I posted on here a couple months ago about considering rehoming my dog any you were all very kind. I have struggled with him for 4 years and have been pulling my hair out, I never thought I would give up on him but life has become unbearable at times, my kids are unable to have friends over, my family don't visit and no one will dog sit when we go away. He is very hyperactive and has now become nervous due to me not being able to calm him down.

Today I called the rescue, they tried to give me a few things to try with him (I have tried so much over the past 4 years) but I had to say that I can't carry on as he is getting worse, not better due to me being tired and fed up. We agreed that the best thing was to rehome, she is gong to get in touch with one of her fostered that deals with problem dogs to see if she can take him for a while and see if she can work on him before finding him a new home. I feel and guilty as I hate it when dogs are passed around and rehomed several times, I do believe a dog is for life but I have to put my own health and my family (dc's) first.

Now I have to deal with my other dog and how she will handle having her best friend taken away from her, they are quite close and she's getting old. How do I help her cope? Do I just make a lot of fuss of her? She lived on her own for 6 years before we got the other dog but will obviously miss him.

No advice but just wanted to say I'm sorry, that must be so hard. Don't feel guilty.

Thank you, it's going to be very hard when he goes but I think he will be happier. I have got to the point where I am making him worse because I have run out of patience, hopefully someone else can work magic on him and he will be happy.

Oh that's tough

I did it years ago, and the other dog really came out of his shell once the other one was rehomed. It was hard, but if you know you've reached the end of your tether then don't beat yourself up any more.

The dog we rehomed was out of control. I know so much more about training, resource guarding etc now but at the time it was all about alpha male bullshit.

It was that awful feeling that every day there was a disaster waiting to happen. It was awful.

Best wishes to you

Don't beat yourself up you have tried your very best....worst case he will find a new home....maybe he would be better suited o being the only dog in the household

Don't be hard on yourself, you sound like you've tried everything and been incredibly patient (4 years??). Put your family first, it will be ok.

He's here to stay until the end of the month as the rescue have no space for him, I feel guilty, I wish they could take him earlier as he keeps looking at me with his cute eyes and tries to nuzzle into me. I know things will be better for all of us when he goes and he will get a nice new home after a bit of training from someone who knows what they are doing.

3 years ago my golden retriever died of cancer....we had another golden retriever at the time and she really missed her friend...I went onto a website called Preloved and there was a couple looking to regime thier 10 month old retriever.....basically we had her it wasn't the owners fault just that she worked full time and he had a bad back so couldn't walk her so she was left to just run around the garden by herself..,they were so sad to give her up but realised it was for the best...we have stayed in touch and it all worked out for the best for everyone....your def doing the right thing for all of you

The rescue phoned me today and they already have a possible home for him which sounds really promising, a active family where someone is at home all day.

That's fantastic news fingers crossed or rather paws crossed

I think I remember your post. You are trying to do the right thing for him. It'll upset you but you want him to be happy. Hope it works out. So sorry.