I'm getting increasing frustrated by people basically undoing my training that we as a family have worked really hard on with our dog.
I have 2 young children (3 and 7) and as a result we have been quite rigorous in our training. For example we don't allow our dog to put his paw up on peoples laps if they're sitting on a chair, this is because he has scratched DD's bare legs in the past. We do of course snuggle with him if we're sitting on the floor.
Another is jumping up, we don't allow him to jump up at all, if he's over excited he goes to his pen (in the lounge with everyone) until he's calmed down and then comes back out.
But increasingly friends who also have dogs are saying "oh it's OK" if he does either, or have commented we're being unfair on him and he's just being friendly, or in some cases actively encouraging him to jump up.
He's a big dog (Collie pointer cross) and I just feel that with kids around we have to be extra vigilant. I'd be mortified if he scratched one of DDs friends because people have been encouraging him to not follow the rules.
Also it's got to be confusing for him, being told off by us (just a stern down) but being encouraged by others.
The one that really winds me up is face licking! I can't stand it, I mean he eats cat poo! But SIL (who has 4 of her own dogs) will always encourage it. We've tried asking nicely, and saying "our dog, our rules" but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS?????