We have a two year old dachshund. DH often plays with him in what I consider to be an aggressive manner that encourages the dog to growl and bark. DH says it's how people play with dogs. I take care of the dog all day, we play ball and games. If the dog growls or barks I stop playing and over time he has learned that this behaviour is not acceptable with me and he doesn't do it. The problem is when DH is home.
When DH gets home he always makes a big fuss with the dog and gets him overexcited. I've explained that this overexcitement isn't good for the dog and sets an unpleasant precedent. Now when other people come to the house the dog goes nuts and is difficult to calm down. Also in the evenings and weekends the dog barks to the point that I worry about the neighbours. DH just says that dogs bark and I'm being ridiculous. My biggest concern is that over time the dog will become unpleasant and aggressive. One friend already won't bring her toddler around because the dog barks and tries to dominate him. My young niece is coming for a week this summer and I'm already thinking the dog will have to go to the kennel while they're here. Surely that shouldn't be necessary.
I don't know what to do. DH won't listen to me. Am I being unreasonable?