Wobbles before puppy pick up

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Due to pick up puppy next week.

I am now having massive doubts. My main concerns are:
Being tied down to the dog, for example having to get back for the dog.
Worried about the days I work (only 2). I have already looked into a dog sitter/walker but still feel it's too long to leave a dog. But I know so many people who have a dog and work, what do they do????
Worried about making sure the dog is well trained, as I have always said I want my dog to be well trained. But realise it takes time and I a, worried how much time it will actually take. I have signed up for classes and can do a 1-2-1 session beforehand if I want. But still am worried.

Also I know this is crazy but I feel really bad taking puppy from its mum and siblings!

Are these just normal worries or should I listen to my gut and tell the breeder that we will forfeit the deposit and let her go to someone better suited?

I have wanted a dog since I can't remember, literally all my life. But now it's come to it I am so worried about not doing it justice that I am convincing myself out of it!

I can't see what breed you're getting op. For us we knew we wanted a small one. I love smaller dogs anyway but my reasoning is you really have to think before taking a thumping great st Bernard say while out visiting etc. Though small dogs are still hard word ddog will run and run. Loves it. But you can pick him up. Pop him places and he's nit that intrusive ie he stays at my mums sometimes and my auntie loves having him. He was a rescue. I had serious wobbles before we got him but we fostered 1st so knew could back out if didn't work. Though we were all in love by day 1. Ddog was nearly 1.5 years. I wouldn't have had a puppy. They sound (esp on here) as seriously hard work for so long!!! Ddog has had only a couple of inside accidents in 1st couple of weeks and was fine to leave. We did it gradually but he seems totally fine with it. No chewing or usual pup probs.

Maybe this will help

And I could talk about the pluses. I'm a single mum, one 13 yr son. Ddog has made us feel like a real family for the first time. Ddog gets me out exercising in fresh air in all weathers reaquainting with old friends and making new ones. He's chased most of my depression away. House is more chilled as he hates shouting. I love it. But I did think about it for years first.

And I could talk about the pluses. I'm a single mum, one 13 yr son. Ddog has made us feel like a real family for the first time. Ddog gets me out exercising in fresh air in all weathers reaquainting with old friends and making new ones. He's chased most of my depression away. House is more chilled as he hates shouting. I love it. But I did think about it for years first.

A lot if people who come on here regretting their decision do seem to have very high maintenance dogs eg large labs or spaniels. Yes our ddog needed training but his little 5kg bid could never pull me over! 😊

Just to let you know it's a miniature poodle.

Also Flying - cute pictures really does not help 😁

Ooh little poodle. You'll hardly know you've got him 😉 Kidding, but they are lovely and extremely intelligent apparently. I was little elderly people used to like a poodle. Wondering if there was as reason. Are they maybe more adaptable and easy going? I have no real experience of poodles. A neighbour has one who spends a lot of time walking on two legs. Saying that actually I've just thought! Ddog I believe is part poodle. Possibly 3rd. Possibly 1/2 and he is amazing

We borrowed ( holiday sat) a friend's terrier for 10 days to see if we were suited. Could that be an option? It made our minds up.

Don't know if I'm helping or not but just one more thought. We had a week away with ddog in a caravan in summer holiday and he made it for me really. We were out running on the beach meeting people early every morning. He wasn't a bind at all.

We have a poodle cross but he is a really clever dog and pretty demanding of time and attention. He needs to be entertained, challenged and walked or else he's a little pest tbh because if he's bored he entertains himself usually by doing something he shouldn't and knows he shouldn't but to him any attention is better than no attention.
I love him dearly, he makes me laugh every day, he's really rewarding because he picks things up in no time at all BUT I doubt that we will ever have another dog because I do miss the freedom (he's a tie and another thing to plan for) Again, I love the walks but I wouldn't miss the dirt, the cold and the wet which is no longer optional.
So for me, yes he's lovely and I am committed to being a good dog owner for the rest of his life but I do feel like I've now had the dog experience but it's not something I would want to do again.
If you are having wobbles now I would really be listening to them tbh. My wobbles came a couple of weeks in probably because I hadn't realised quite how relentless it all was. Of course he is almost three now and far easier but still a big and extra responsibility.

Poodles are very intelligent, and need plenty of mental stimulation, besides exercise.

Well I've done it.

Not getting the puppy. Gutted but I've not been able to shake the feeling that it was not the right thing to do.

I feel bad that I've waisted people's time and upset my DC who were looking forward to getting the dog.

The odd thing is it wasn't until the dog was a reality that these panics kicked in. So be warned anyone who is reading this and considering getting a dog.

Well done, it's hard but if it's not the right thing, it's not the right thing

It doesn't mean never, just waiting until the time is right

Costa - thanks.

I think when the time is right I will look into a rescue (youngest DC too young now).

But first I need to win the lottery so I don't have to work

It will probably be more manageable with an older rescue

OP, I wish that there were more people around, like you.
So many dogs are in rescue, due to people, not giving enough thought, to what will actually happen, when they get the puppy home.
Although beautiful, they really are hard work.
You made a hard decision there, but you made the right one.
I'm sure, in time, you'll get your pup. If I were you, if you're a first time owner, I wouldn't go for a poodle, they can be very excitable 😄

Well done - wish I had had the courage of my convictions like you did!!
We love our dog but he just makes everything so much more difficult