Not really sure what I'm looking for here...maybe just a friendly word of advice.
Have decided after 2 years of deliberation to try to rehome my 7 year old Jack Russell.
My reasons for this are because he really really doesn't trust kids...he has nipped my son (who is now 3 on numerous occasions). I now have a baby on the way, due in 2 weeks and I know I can't handle him with two kids.
The problems are not all down to the dog. My son teases him and is way too rough, which I try to punish him for but he takes little notice. They aren't at loggerheads all he time but I would never trust them alone together ever and it happens enough for me to be wary with him near any children.
My little dog has lots of issues, goes absolutely mental at the front door (knocking anyone out of the way to get to the door). He goes almost ferral and I can't control him its quite scary to be honest and the postmen and delivery guys are scared to knock at my door. It's because of this that I cant have friends round with kids and am dreading the midwife visiting. He will lunge at the door and if I try to restrain him he will claw me to pieces.
He can just be a General pain in the arse most of the time to be fair but i feel that its not his fault because he gets nowhere near the attention he should get from us. I don't walk him very far anymore as I have terrible sciatica and my husband won't lift a finger to help me with him.
I have however now managed to find someone who wants to rehome him and will afford him the time I can't at the moment due to my back and the new baby. They don't have kids and are looking to spoil a new pet.
However now my entire family aren't talking to me and my husband is livid. He has pretty much cried since we went and met the new owners to be and is not supporting me in any way. He doesn't want him to go however won't help in any way.
My mum and dad took care of the dog occasionally to help me out as I was struggling and had him if we went on holiday. He's been around for 7 years so obviously they've become attached to him like we have. DH hasn't stopped crying all day today (dog is due to go to new couple tomorrow) and I just feel horrendous.
I guess I feel slightly pissed because DH will not help with walking him. And now he's angry at me because I've tried to find him a home where he'll be spoilt and there are no kids hounding him all day.
I felt like I was doing what was best for our baby and the dog. He suffers from cramps now when he goes out due to his lack of exercise its just heart breaking to see. I just want him to have a lovely relaxed home where he isn't nervous of toddlers chasing him all the time and he is stroked and cuddled like he deserves.
This has been going on for 2 years now and I finally think I found him the right home. I would never put him in a rehoming centre or do anything I felt was detrimental to him. This hasn't happened overnight and I'm as heartbroken as they all are.Im just gutted my mum and dad and husband have turned on me.
Hopefully someone has been in the same boat and can maybe help with some advice 
If you're worried about your pet's health, please speak to a vet or qualified professional.
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SnookyWookyWooWoo · 19/09/2015 15:34
You are doing not only the right thing but the only thing that you can do.A newborn baby is so much more vunerable than a 3 year old,if the dog has nipped your son,the damage it could cause for your newborn baby could be fatal.
I don't agree that they're passionate dog lovers at all,if your husband was then he would have got of his arse a couple of years ago and helped out with the dog,he could have walked it and sorted out obedience classes that he could have attended with the dog.If your parents knew 2 years ago how bad things had got with the dog then they could have offered to either take the dog on permanently rather than getting a cat or they could have helped with walking the dog and obedience classes,between the 3 of them there's lots they could have done to help the dog and you with the situation.
They're what we call fair weather dog owners,the love the idea of having a dog,they want to bother with it on they're terms,they want to fuss it and show an interest when it suits them.But as any decent pet owner you can't do that,they're not a toy that you can discard when you no longer want to play with it,they're a living,breathing creature.
You are not in the wrong OP so ignore them and if they say anything else to you ask them where they're love for the dog was when he needed them,when he needed walking and needed attention and needed help,when he developed cramps because of the lack of walking.
I hope your husband is going to start helping you out now with the children,sciatica is bloody painful.I'd tell him he needs to start pulling his weight and to bloody grow up or you'll be considering re-homing him 
good luck with the rest of your pregnancy 
Thanks all....just a note to say that I have dropped him off and dh has been very supportive today.
We talked it all through last night and all day today but I decided that it was better for him to go.
Thanks for all your help you've been great
Just seen the other responses.
DH really was a saint today (although is now clearly very upset that he's gone) he just is lazy. Always has been lol. Will help but if he has to. He said to me today he will support my decison no matter what I choose to do. He had promised to change but couldn't guarantee he'd walk him every day....I took that to mean he wont commit so I'm not going to keep a dog I know won't get walked.
The new people were fantastic and couldn't have done more to make it easy on me. I was very very lucky to have found such lovely kind people and although I felt awful today I actually felt better once id left their home. I left him being played with and he was happy and content and full of treats). They have agreed he comes back to me if anything changes or doesn't work out. They have agreed to also send my husband emails and update him on our dogs process.
This really was a happy ending for my dog as far as I'm concerned and I owe alot to them.
Support on here has been fantastic too made a horrid decision so much easier 
Thank God! I am really pleased for you that you went through with it. It can't have been easy with all the negative comments you were getting but it was absolutely the right thing.
Please enjoy the next couple of weeks as you'll be very busy after that! 
And get your DH to do all the heavy lifting, shopping, playing with DS and generally being a parent and husband, the lazy bugger! I think we all fall into the trap of doing far too much, as we think it's easier than nagging, but we shouldn't. If the partner is truly a partner, they should be helping out, especially when you're in late stages of pregnancy and then being a new mum.
Good luck!
And yes, Juliet, it may well have been your posts I was thinking about, got the JRTs mixed up It's great that your JRT found a good home as well. He must be loving it.
Well done for seeing through such a hard decision; now time for the H to shape up or be shipping him out too!
Hope you're not too sad For too long, sounds like he's gone to a good new home
Just a quick update to say dh really manned up and is now being really supportive. Unfortunately can't say same for my parents (but they are another story).
We've had an update and the dog is living the high life with 3 walks a day, sausages on tap and his new owners are even letting him sleep in their bed as hes been nervous at night.
Have definitely seen that it was the right thing and my house is very calm. Just what I need. Plus my little girl will be safe more importantly.
Thanks again everyone for all your words of wisdom . Can't beat advice from the mumsnetters!!
Glad to hear your DH is handling this better although your parents reaction is positively strange 
It's childish to say the least....especially seeing that I have a baby being born in 7 days!
Can't please them all...!
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